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my child is being assessed

(26 Posts)
TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:16:45

today i was called to see my DD pre school teacher along with a few other parents after me. she said she wanted me to sign a consent form so that my DD could be assessed by some people.
The reason is because they are trying to put together a Christmas show and my dd along with a few others refuse to join in? she said my DD becomes withdrawn and shy?
I know my DD is stubborn but why would they want her assessed? I don't understand? she said they would call me if they are concerned about anything.
I feel such an idiot not asking the obvious question to them but im hoping you may know who these people are?

BrianTheMole Fri 22-Nov-13 12:17:43

Ring them and ask.

redexpat Fri 22-Nov-13 12:19:38

I think the people best placed to answer aren't on MN. Ring them and ask for more clarification.

pudcat Fri 22-Nov-13 12:22:09

Did you sign the form without asking who was going to assess your child. I used to teach 4 year olds and a lot of them were not ready to join in the Christmas show. They were quite happy to just sit there in a little costume. We did not have them assessed.

SunshineMMum Fri 22-Nov-13 12:23:26

There is a really good special needs board on here. I'd be asking for more specific details of any concerns they have about DD and which service they are referring her to for assessment. Our DS went through assessment and was eventually diagnosed with autism, but there are lots of different difficulties that children can be referred for.

SunshineMMum Fri 22-Nov-13 12:24:46

.. for instance could be speech and language, or social communication difficulties, I expect you'd like to know more

TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:27:26

I am an idiot for just signing it but i think i shall ring them thats not a bad idea thanks

nicename Fri 22-Nov-13 12:27:48

Private school?

SunshineMMum Fri 22-Nov-13 12:29:09

Not an idiot at all, I expect it was the last thing you were expecting!

WilsonFrickett Fri 22-Nov-13 12:32:38

I think it's perfectly normal to sign something when you've been a bit ambushed by a teacher at pick up, but yes, absolutely you should ring and ask to come in and discuss it properly, next week.

You want to be asking what she is being assessed for, and by whom, in what way, on the basis of what evidence. Once you have the answers, pop over to the SN board (scary name, lovely people) if you have any more questions about anything as posters there are very knowlegable.

TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:39:27

just phoned them they said its just a lady who comes and watches the children s behavior to see how the play and to make sure there is no problems such as hearing problems or anything else. if there was any problems they would have forms sent to me to have her checked out.

SunshineMMum Fri 22-Nov-13 12:42:07

Oh good that is really reassuring. The school are probably being on the safe side, it is best that anything concerning are checked out early, in order to get the right help, but it doesn't sound like they have any major concerns.

nicename Fri 22-Nov-13 12:43:10

Who is she? What are her qualifications? What indicators are there that your child needs assessment?

TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:44:36

Highscope! thats the name! great! i remember! smile

TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:45:53

apparently about 14 other children are being assessed too

nicename Fri 22-Nov-13 12:48:20

Because there's a Christmas show rebellion?

Mcnorton Fri 22-Nov-13 12:50:13

Probably because they're having one assessed they are getting the most out of the assessor. My DS was assessed at that age after nursery mentioned it, as assessor was coming anyway for someone else. Everything's fine, he's just shy. Not a surprise to me, I was too. Reassuring to know it's not anything else, and if it is you can start dealing with it.

TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:51:28

yep i thought it was a bit odd! especially when she only been there 3 months

TheBlackPanther Fri 22-Nov-13 12:51:59

and she is one of the youngest

pudcat Fri 22-Nov-13 16:15:44

There was a little girl in my Nursery who was very shy and only spoke about 6 times in the whole year. She is now 15 and is a singer with a band, performing in concerts.

SunshineMMum Fri 22-Nov-13 16:19:46

It seemed to me that masses of kids were being put forward for assessment at Ds's first referral, in fact the Paediatrician commented on it at the time. Only a few came away with a diagnosis. One little boy had a big speech delay, had grommets for glue ear and then caught up rapidly.

lifeisajumprope Fri 22-Nov-13 17:14:17

Good grief....our school could have a child presenting with all the hallmarks of a certain condition and they'd just brush it all under the carpet.

Seems like a bit of overkill if it is just over this one thing but why not do it if the assessment is by an Ed Psych or similar qualified professional. If there is something to be concerned about your DC will be way ahead of many children in getting the correct support in place. Important still battling and mine is 9...time is ticking away....

nicename Fri 22-Nov-13 17:43:43

Sadly it really is luck of the draw. Resources for additional needs has been pretty much halved over the past couple of years and if the school staff aren't trained well enough/are pushy enough it can take far too long for assessment. Some school staff just aren't experienced/trained well enough/have common sense to spot the elephant in the room.

Iaintdunnuffink Fri 22-Nov-13 18:41:11

I signed for my child to be assessed once, got home and thought - oh did I just agree for my child to be seen by the edu psychologist ... I spoke to the teacher again and there were more children from the same year being seen at the same time. It seems they were trying to get best use out of her time! It came as a surprise as the only concerns they raised before has been the usual, like not listening that well.

Over a year on and, despite not being diagnosed with anything, still sees her. At home he's a perfectly normal boy and people give me odd looks if I mention it. It has meant that he's had lots of one-on-one time at school as the senco gives him time with an experienced TA.

He's almost too good at concentrating when he wants and has a very good imagination. Good things you'd think, but it means he drifts off into his own world when he should be listening to instructions. I was the same at that age.

They also have no concerns about many of his social skills, he responds one-on-one extremely well but timid in group situations and withdraws when faced with conflict. Nothing you'd think was outside the norm, and just a shy child, again he sounds like me at that age. Still he's going to be attending some weekly social skills sessions at the school.

He wouldn't have been picked up as having an issues in the 70's. Still, if social sessions can help him feel more confident in groups then why not! He may not have a diagnosis for attention issues but again the extra attention can only benefit him.

Just because she's been put forward doesn't mean that they think she has some huge problem.

lifeisajumprope Sun 24-Nov-13 06:36:46

Iaint - I wish our school was as pro-active as that.

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