"Didn't want to read & run/can offer no advice but.../hopefully better informed posters will be along soon/blah blah...

(65 Posts)
Botanicbaby Thu 21-Nov-13 22:24:05

Jeez. So you 'didn't want to read & run'; and you can 'offer no useful advice'; and you 'hope that more experienced posters will be along soon'; yadda yadda.

Just don't post yet (at least you could wait until the 'more knowledgable' posters have commented) It's not compulsory to comment asap. You can express sympathy/acknowledgment/recognition/all of the above without resorting to a catch all, ineffective 'can't read & run' bleat?

Vivacia Sat 23-Nov-13 09:01:47

I don't actually like the phrase "didn't want to read and run" because I feel it's twee. I realise that this is unreasonable of me.

Beastofburden Sat 23-Nov-13 08:38:54

What does the tardis icon mean?

I do the post'n'run thing if I see someone in distress with no answers to their OP, so they don't feel nobody cares.

daisychain01 Sat 23-Nov-13 07:17:55

I agree, Vivacia, this thread has moved on such a lot that someone coming in from 'new' may well go off on one without seeing how the discussion progressed.

Oh the absolute joys of AIBU grin

<lurks with popcorn, ready for a bun-fight spectacle>

Vivacia Sat 23-Nov-13 06:50:00

Looking forward to the non-thread-reader's over the top reply to the original post...

daisychain01 Sat 23-Nov-13 06:41:11

In fairness to the OP botanic, if you read her post of 23.02 she gave a very conciliatory and intelligent apology and concluded she understood things better. Agreed she did used the bleat word in a previous upthread post but, lets face it that is hardly the worse word we have read on this AIBU board

Then another poster called monty had a go , after her apology !

So I think we can reasonably cut her some slack now, otherwise it will deter people from admitting to being unreasonable won't i? ...

Just saying.... grin

toffeesponge Fri 22-Nov-13 20:06:22

I saw that after but she was still a bit rude I thought.

JapaneseMargaret Fri 22-Nov-13 19:57:13

She was being sneery in the OP, but to be fair, she has since fully admitted to not getting it, and BU.

sandfrog Fri 22-Nov-13 19:45:31

If I see the unpleasant accusation "bleat" anywhere, I know I'll disagree with the rest grin

toffeesponge Fri 22-Nov-13 19:40:00

No one actually knows how many people have read their post so no need to post they don't like to read and run, but it is a way of offering support.

On ukparents and womanandhome it shows how many views and how many posts so it can be upsetting if 200 people have read your post and only 3 have posted. Could just mean they couldn't think that to post though.

OP, why are you being so sneery?

GrumpyRedhead Fri 22-Nov-13 19:34:20

I always thought the "couldnt read and run" comments came from people who used forums which show view counts, so the OP wouldn't see their thread being read loads of times and still being unanswered.

Sorry that sentence is so badly put together, I'm too tired to make it any better!

JapaneseMargaret Fri 22-Nov-13 18:44:20

Yeah, I think a lot of people do genuinely feel bad for reading that someone is distressed and upset, and looking for advice or support ... and then just clicking off that thread to move onto the next me.

You know YABU, so all good, but there are several reasons why people do this, and they're all pretty much motivated by kindness. smile

daisychain01 Fri 22-Nov-13 18:40:20

I drafted this up - then realised that the thread has moved on a lot - but bugger it, I may as well post it anyway - sorry for x-post grin

I have always thought when reading the "didn't want to read and run" - how thoughtful that someone cares enough even in an on-line setting, to read someone's issue/problem/request and not casually flick through it onto something else - sometimes it isn't just about entertainment, there are people in genuine need.

It shows that MN'ers rally round (often vulnerable people) to "give them the time of day" and support. They do their fair share of 'flaming' but when push comes to shove, they are right there 'on the money'.

TheWitTank Fri 22-Nov-13 18:31:14

I thought this was a helpful way of bumping the thread? No? I sometimes genuinely have nothing to give, but I go with the thinking if I answer and push it up someone else with experience/advice might catch it before it disappears to page 2...

Thatisall Fri 22-Nov-13 18:27:46

Didn't want to read and run but....

Jude89 Fri 22-Nov-13 17:10:04

I assumed it was the op going back to their original name (after a name change) so the thread would appear in the "I'm on" bit...

SPsWouldCatFishNev Fri 22-Nov-13 00:25:23

I do it. I state that I am no use but I will bump so it doesn't get forgotten. That's only if it hasn't had any replies.

It doesn't harm anyone and it tends to draw people in

LackaDAISYcal Fri 22-Nov-13 00:00:21

Actually you have a point...in ye olden days, when it was just fields round here, sometimes posters would do this to bump threads in the unanswered threads tab and I would sometimes do this myself. However, I was advised that leaving it unanswered is often the better thing to do, so that anyone with knowledge of that subject clicking on unanswered threads would see it as opposed to it being slightly bumped into obscurity...ie not active, yet gone from unanswered...

But you know YABU to tell people what to post!

Monty27 Thu 21-Nov-13 23:58:08

Botanic grin so you can't take being wrong graciously? grin

EXTERMINATEpeppa Thu 21-Nov-13 23:57:24

nombregrin

BrianTheMole Thu 21-Nov-13 23:56:53

Would be a bit rude to just say "bump" and then run off, like you were literally just bumping into somebody, if you can see they are in obvious distress, but you have NO idea what to say to make it better.

I don't think so. I think thats ok.

CharlieAlphaKiloEcho Thu 21-Nov-13 23:52:06

RIP Nombre. I hope you lived a long and pleasant life.

takeitonthegin Thu 21-Nov-13 23:51:58

OP Any thoughts on 'marking place'.....(she says as she shamelessly marks place to see how this pans out). grin

Tallaween Thu 21-Nov-13 23:41:44

Only if they're delicately fragranced nombre

+can opened, worms everywhere+

Nombrechanger Thu 21-Nov-13 23:35:42

Time of the month, ladies?

Always Ultra anyone?

TheDoctrineOfWho Thu 21-Nov-13 23:33:13

brew for OP

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