To not go to the GCSE revision evening for parents?

[CrappyDiem]

1. I went 2 years ago.

1. It's not me that needs to revise.

1. D2 is highly unlikely to do any revising ever, whether I know what she should be doing or not.

1. If I suggest what she should do she will break things, possibly me.

1. I'm very tired and in need of wine.

1. There's something wrong with my eyes and it's all blurry soI shoudn't drive.

1. I truly can't be arsed.

[Abrahamlincolnsghost]

Have you asked if they want you to go?

[CrappyDiem]

Who? The D pr the scjool?

Tje D doesn't care.

School might thinl o'm sht and neglectul and not supportve.

[LEMisafucker]

I think numbers 3 and 4 need addressing, maybe if you went to the everning your DD will feel a bit more encouraged? You can have the wine when you get home.

number 6, you need to see a doctor!

[Bowlersarm]

You should show as much interest with your second dd, as you did with your first.

[LEMisafucker]

Do you know what syllabus she is following? What she is expected to know? If you go to the exam websites there will be a list of what the students are expected to have covered and the depth they need to know about it. That way, you can help her devise a timetable of revision - maybe she doesn't know where to start.

[MistAllChuckingFrighty]

Are you ok ?

[Vatta]

Obviously I'm missing something, but since when do parents have to go to school to learn about revision? I'm not sure my parents even knew what courses I studied!

[BrickorCleat]

"4. If I suggest what she should do she will break things, possibly me.

1. I'm very tired and in need of wine.

1. I truly can't be arsed."

I feel really sad for your DD.

[ReluctantBeing]

Things have changed, even in the last year, so I think you should you. Also, your apathetic attitude will rub off on your daughter, and that's not the right attitude for her to have right now.

[CrappyDiem]

she has aspergers. If I can get her to school without her breaking stuff it's a minor miracle. homework never happens. revising is never going to happen.

but my 'good, supportive, parent' head tells me I should go.

I know what should happen. I also know it won't. and I can't be arsed.

the eyes are weird.

[Bunbaker]

Vatta I think it is to understand how to encourage their children to revise. Schools are judged by their results I'm afraid so they are looking at every angle to try and improve their results.

Crappy Please seek medical advice about your eyes - sooner rather than later

[CrappyDiem]

fat finger, blurry eyes and phone. have switched to lappy.

[Bunbaker]

Have your eyes suddenly gone blurry?

[CrappyDiem]

I do have a meeting lined up for next week with her tutor and can get the presentations from tonight emailed to me. I've been working nights this week and have serious lack of sleep.

[CrappyDiem]

I think the eyes are me being extra tired and allergic to something at work. antihistamine already taken. not massively blurry but enough to not drive.

[CrappyDiem]

I know I should go. I have guilt already. but I don't think I will. bad bad mother.

[BlueStones]

In general my view would be that this is overkill. The ultimate responsibility for revising lies with your daughter; like Vatta, my parents could not have told you what GCSEs I was even taking. However, you and the tutor know your daughter so you're in the position to decide what's best for you and her.

[LEMisafucker]

This is what happens when you drip feed OP

Are you getting help with your DDs aspergers? would helping her sort a timetable help? sorry if im misunderstanding but the few people i know wiht aspergers love a timetable!

Good idea to get the presentations emailed to her, having taught at FE college for a while the best advice I could give anyone is to get onto the exam board websites, look at the schemes of work and expected criteria, then print out past exam papers and practice those.

[BOF]

Don't go- you're not well.

[CrappyDiem]

buggger. I did indeed drip feed. sorry. too tired.

i'm having wine. soddit.

[PansOnFire]

Perhaps don't go, you're clearly feeling unwell. I'm sure the school have revision packs and hand outs that parents will receive during the evening, if you contact the school then they should be able to organise them to be sent home.

I agree with Bowlersarm - you should show the same interest with both children, but maybe you can still do this with the materials and the time you spend helping DD to revise.

I also agree that you need to change your lethargic attitude when around your daughter though, as ill as you feel it would be awful if your DD decided not to be arsed either. Then you'd have a huge problem on your hands!

[Lisavarna]

I'm with Vatta - My parents never went to anything like this. They just expected me to get on with it. I did fine and ended up a solicitor. My parents barely read my school reports, cos they knew i worked hard. If i failed an exam though i'd have heard a lecture from them.

[BrickorCleat]

i'm having wine. soddit.

This ^ is the unreasonable bit IMO, especially as you feel odd and tired. Why not look after yourself properly and you might not feel so lethargic and exhausted.

Hope you feel better soon.

[CoffeeTea103]

You can drink wine yet have a list of reason why you shouldn't go. You don't seem to have a very encouraging attitude.

[CrappyDiem]

My not very encouraging and lethargic attitude has, over the past 15 years, seen her through years of school phobia and refusal, to the point that now she goes. I have had numerous broken bones, smashed up doors and hundreds of pounds of damage to cars in my not very encouraging attitude to get her to go to school. My lethargy has supported her to the point where she is a normal, functioning human being with a future, rather than a reclusive, phobic shell.


She does no homework and will not do any revision not because I am unsupportive nor apathetic, but because she cannot cope with it. Me being enthusiastic about it is likely to end in tears. I know. I've been doing it for the last 15 years.


Wine is never unreasonable.

And had I put all that into my OP and not 'drip-fed' it I would have had no replies at all as I would already have discussed and debated the point all on my own.