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To withdraw DD from being weighed at school?

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DH thinks I am making a big fuss about nothing.

I refused consent for DD to be weighed at school as I don't think its neccesary. I didn't make a fuss, just ticked the box saying that I did not give consent.

TEEARDIS Thu 21-Nov-13 16:10:25

Okay. The you obviously think YANBU. Who cares what anyone else thinks?

freyasnow Thu 21-Nov-13 16:10:31

I wish I had withdrawn my DD. YANBU.

Well DH thinks I am crackers. Other than him I dont really care grin

VerySmallSqueak Thu 21-Nov-13 16:14:33

YANBU.
Dh and I both agreed.
Our DC's go to the opticians for their eyes,a dentist for their teeth,and a GP for any health concerns.

We do not need any other random opinions.

We use common sense and observation,and I'm sure we are quite capable of doing so.

IAmTheLordOfRedundancy Thu 21-Nov-13 16:14:43

YANBU. I have done the same. I'm more than capable of keeping my children healthy. I understand the thinking behind it and don't judge anyone that has given permission for it. Its just not for me.

Shonajoy Thu 21-Nov-13 16:16:14

Why are they being weighed? I'd not allow it either, especially if you don't know what it's being done for and whether or not it's in public. Enough eating disorders without this sort of thing.

Chattymummyhere Thu 21-Nov-13 16:16:46

I don't see the harm in them being weighed? The only people I figure who would object are those with overweight children or those with underweight children.

It's only for statistics to keep an eye on the growing number of morbidly overweight children.

MortifiedAnyFuckerAdams Thu 21-Nov-13 16:17:11

Why do they get/need weighing!

bryonywhisker Thu 21-Nov-13 16:17:11

YANBU
I am 40 and have had an incredibly complex relationship with food all my adult life because I was taken out of class every month from primary through all secondary to be weighed. I was not in any way overweight at school, the pictures speak for themselves. But I was put on a diet - no cakes, sweets etc, constantly teased about the 'fat' nurse. As soon as I left home I ate and ate and ate all the things I was denied for over 10 years.
sad

MortifiedAnyFuckerAdams Thu 21-Nov-13 16:17:51

Why do they get/need weighing!

SaucyJack Thu 21-Nov-13 16:18:09

YABU I think- but I'm basing this on never having seen your daughter.

There are sadly too many parents out there who are unable to recognize when their child has become overweight, and independent checks are generally a good idea IMO.

Its being done by the school nurse team. She has just started reception. DS1 was supposed to have the same check 2 years ago. I declined then too (although the circumstances were different as he was weighed on a regular basis at dietician/bowel clinic)

MammaTJ Thu 21-Nov-13 16:18:37

I have said this before on here, but it is worth saying again.

My DS has a condition of the eye lid called ptosis. It means he has a droopy eyelid, which covers his pupil. With eyesight, it is a case of if you don't use it, you lose it, so the sight in that eye is not great. He has regular checks at the hospital, both eye tests and discussions about further ops. We have decided on no further ops for now.

His school had an optician in, who tested his sight and I got a report back saying the sight in the bad eye was bad.

NO SHIT SHERLOCK!

YANBU! You will surely know yourself whether your child is over or under weight.

DS2

mistermakersgloopyglue Thu 21-Nov-13 16:19:16

What saucyjack said. What is wrong with getting her weighed?

ICameOnTheJitney Thu 21-Nov-13 16:20:17

They all get weighed...it's not being singled out and it's for national statistics as well as to help parents whose children are overweight....or underweight...these things are checked because some parents are unaware of problems.

Do you think your DD is overweight or underweight OP?

Kendodd Thu 21-Nov-13 16:20:51

bryonywhisker

You weren't overweight but were put on a diet? Did you loose weight? Did you then become underweight?

HumphreyCobbler Thu 21-Nov-13 16:20:55

"You will surely know yourself whether your child is over or under weight."

Often this is not true.

3bunnies Thu 21-Nov-13 16:22:06

Well I guess it depends on your reason for refusing consent. In discussion with dd2 we refused consent as at the time she was being regularly weighed and measured by the dietitian. She hated it and I felt that she would be better not to go through it at school as well particularly as we knew she was small and underweight. It would add nothing to our understanding that the NHS weren't already working on. There was also a risk that she might become very distressed. I gave her the choice, explained the possible consequences and supported her in her decision.

If you don't want her measured because you think she might be overweight and you would rather know as then you might need to change her environment then you probably would be unreasonable.

Daddypigsgusset Thu 21-Nov-13 16:22:14

Many parents do not know if their child is overweight though. They are in denial. They see fat as being healthy, well fed, puppy fat etc when it is in fact unhealthy and dangerous.

Yanbu of course-your child, your decision

Mamma that has reminded me.

DS wears glasses. He is seen at a specialist clinic once a month so I didn't think he needed a school eye test. I got a note back asking why I was declining because he needed the help. I sent a detailed letter back saying that we were already getting all the help we needed, and a basis eye test would not help in the slightest.

mistermakersgloopyglue Thu 21-Nov-13 16:22:27

YANBU! You will surely know yourself whether your child is over or under weight.

Well yes you would think. Unfortunately the statistics tell a different story.

irisgrey Thu 21-Nov-13 16:22:56

I wouldn't rely on just ticking the box. I would make sure they really understand you are not giving permission. I refused consent for ds2 on the form and they did it anyway. Despite same teacher knowing I had not given consent for ds1 a couple of years earlier.

I allow my children to be weighed, but i know it's all for the sake of government statistics. Nothing more nothing less, nothing comes from it whether your child is obese or underweight, it's just another way for the government to have a good nosey in our lifes without actually doing a thing with the results.
Pointless but cba to say no

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