What do I get nanny for Christmas?

(51 Posts)
mamayaya Wed 20-Nov-13 21:51:14

Sorry am crap and can't find the chat or Christmas sections!

Nanny has been fab. Only does after school 4 days a wk, 1 dd and only since September but I split up with partner a month ago and she has been great - extra hours (paid for obviously!) as he wasn't there when would have been previously, really flexible. And so sweet and nice.

She is 23, works as teaching assistant in a primary in mornings, and is a pretty cool girl, has a bit of an Afro going on, cool clothes. Lives at home with her dad. (Ie I don't know what accessories/bracelet I thought initially to get her as is frankly cooler than me and no stuff for house).

My budget is a bit limited due to split, I would like to spend £30 if poss but will go a bit more and up to £50 if necessary.

Any ideas?! I am at a loss and only coming up with vouchers or cash. I gave her £20 for her birthday recently and she said she hadn't received any presents from family (think they may be Jehovah's witnesses) so i would quite like to buy her something nice...

Thanks for any ideas in advance!

ConventGarden Wed 20-Nov-13 21:54:33

90% vouchers and 10% a thoughtful chosen gift from you xx

stoopstofolly Wed 20-Nov-13 21:55:00

Presents are nice if you can think of something perfect for them- but I'm never that organised! I've given my nanny (also after school 4 days per week!) £50 M&S vouchers for the last few years. I know she appreciates being able to buy what she wants with them.

gordyslovesheep Wed 20-Nov-13 21:55:10

ask her?

Catnap26 Wed 20-Nov-13 21:58:44

Cinema vouchers?

FortyDoorsToNowhere Wed 20-Nov-13 22:00:59

I would say cash in a nice Christmas card.

Catnap26 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:01:11

Love to shop vouchers?covers lots of things then.i think vouchers is the way to go that way she can get what she wants.also perhaps get your dd to make something for her,it will be nice and personal.

NomDeClavier Wed 20-Nov-13 22:01:14

Tough one! I see why you want to give her a physical gift although usually vouchers/cash is appreciated. What about something everyone needs but nice, like pens or notebook?

Agree with CoventGarden- mostly vouchers but something small and thoughtful from you and DD.

Definitely a homemade, sparkly, gluey, messy, lovely card from DD!

Caitlin17 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:05:31

To be honest, unless the vouchers are for shops she really, really likes I'd give a Christmas cash bonus and a box of chocolates/ bottle of wine. She won't be earning much and if it were me I'd prefer she can get something she really wants. Thats what I did when I had a full time nanny.

mamayaya Wed 20-Nov-13 22:19:35

Oh my god thank you for so many replies! Been doing my ironing. In my dressing gown. With a glass of red wine. Being a single mum is ok.

So if I give her say £30 cash plus say a nice diary as know she uses one and a bottle of wine and a home-made card from dd that is good??

Caitlin17 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:23:44

That sounds good. I honest think a cash bonus is fine for the main gift.

Catnap26 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:23:48

I would be pretty chuffed with that smile

foreverondiet Wed 20-Nov-13 22:28:52

Money, I think convention is to give extra weeks salary.

mamayaya Wed 20-Nov-13 22:35:21

I think a week's salary is beyond my means.... I pay her cash in hand (at her request) but have paid her when we were on holiday, when dd was sick and me off work so didn't need her and when exp has picked her up from school instead of normal 6pm so don't feel I'm tight in general, just a bit pushed at present as am paying her alone plus all bills. My ex is unreliable to say the least confused

What about say topshop or house of Fraser vouchers? I am feeling major stress about this for some reason - prob as no 'd'p to buy for! Thanks for advice..!

Caitlin17 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:44:10

I honestly can't remember how much I gave, it might have been as much as a week's salary, but my situation was different. When I had nannies they were full time employees who only worked for me, they paid tax and I paid employer's NI and OH and I both worked full-time.

What you suggested, £30 and a nice gift sounds fine. I really wouldn't go down the voucher route.

Talkinpeace Wed 20-Nov-13 22:48:20

I pay her cash in hand (at her request)
hate to put a damper but be VERY careful as you are not in compliance with employment law

Caitlin17 Wed 20-Nov-13 22:57:04

Talkinpeace, not necessarily, it depends on whether the girl is an employee. When DS was too old to need a full time nanny but still needed after school collection we used a nanny who was legitimately self employed and worked for at least 2 other families who also didn't need full time care.She paid her own tax and self employed NI.

Talkinpeace Thu 21-Nov-13 12:40:37

we are drifting rapidly O/T but its an important issue.
If you pay somebody cash in hand who works for you, YOU are the one potentially committing the offence if checked.
If they are self employed, ask for their UTR and a written receipt, even if paying cash.
Tie up your camel, THEN trust in Allah

cingolimama Thu 21-Nov-13 12:45:08

The best gift from an employer is always CASH!!!!

hettienne Thu 21-Nov-13 12:49:04

A regular job working 4 days a week will be an employed position - it doesn't matter that it is part time or if she has another job.

OP - if you are paying her illegally then be very careful, it is you that can be caught and fined not her.

valiumredhead Thu 21-Nov-13 13:32:56

Cash, always!grin in a lovely xmas card.

luckylavender Thu 21-Nov-13 13:49:25

If she's a Jehovah's Witness then a present and a card may not be at all appropriate. Ditto wine.

WaitMonkey Thu 21-Nov-13 13:50:11

I like your idea and Topshop vouchers would be good.

Pigsmummy Thu 21-Nov-13 20:40:27

Cash. That never offends

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