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AIBU?

to think this "friend" is a massive wankbadger?

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Objection · 20/11/2013 17:03

I moved in with a friend temporarily whilst our (OP and myself) house is completing. OP is living with his DPs (no room for me).
It was originally going to be for about 6 months whilst we bought and renovated but my "friend" turned out to be a demon from hell (disgusting messy, loud, strangers over in the middle of the night, screamed at me at the slightest inclination etc) that I had to leave. So I lied (I know I know) and after a few weeks of trying to sort it out/put up with it I told her that things had changed with the house and now OP and I needed to move in. I felt this was a better reason for "you're a complete psycho and I can't put up with this any more".

I gave her 4 weeks notice (ending on Dec 2nd, when the house should be ours). After screaming, storming off and generally having a paddy we sorted it out and that was fine.

She spent a week or so looking for a replacement housemate and found one she loved who said yes. Great.

But yesterday evening she comes into my room demanding to know when my house will be sorted. I told her about the call to the soliciters I'd made that day and said that I'd let her know as soon as I knew but I'd be out by the 2nd.

"Well, you have to be out by this weekend."

"Sorry?"

"My new housemate starts her job on Monday."

"Right. But I can't move out until I have a house to move to."

"That's not my problem. You screwed me over about the six months so I don't see why I should be loyal to you for the 4 weeks notice. We had nothing in writing, you have no legal standing. You don't exist."

To cut a long story short, after calling my family psychopaths (because I'd confided in my grandmothers mental illness the night before) she threw me out. It was 9pm at night, freezing cold.

Now I'm living out of my car and sleeping on my mother's sofa - over an hour away from where I work.

AIBU to rant and to think she is a nasty piece of ?


(On a different note, I'm concerned that my computer didn't recognise the word "badger" but had no issue with "wankbadger" Confused)

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IsThatTrue · 20/11/2013 17:07

YANBU and I met love your computer!

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TheWitTank · 20/11/2013 17:09

Nope YANBU - "friend" sounds a few sandwiches short of a picnic. I would rather be living out of my car than with them tbh!

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Objection · 20/11/2013 17:12

That's the general consensus at work as well, TheWitTank and I have to say my stress levels - despite everything - have dropped enormously from being away from her. I'm probably lucky!

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DameDeepRedBetty · 20/11/2013 17:13

Your ex friend is demented.

Can you afford b&b for a few days?

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Objection · 20/11/2013 17:14

I could scrape to a B&B but to be honest its nice to be near my family for a few days despite the commute. I work 7 days a week over the 2 jobs so don't get to spend as much time with them as I should Smile

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SwishAndFlick · 20/11/2013 17:16

I remember your other thread about her. She sounds vile and you are well rid.
Wonder how long the new roomie will last.

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Crinkle77 · 20/11/2013 17:32

Were there no signs of any odd behaviour prior to moving in?

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Objection · 20/11/2013 17:40

No. I thought she was really lovely. I think most people do. She has of course made a point of telling her friends how awful I was but considering I was only there 4 nights a week, showered at the Gym because her bathroom was so crap and filthy and spent 99% of the time in my room (esp. towards the end when I was just plain frightened of her) I can't imagine what she could tell them.

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Twoandtwomakeschaos · 20/11/2013 18:23

Had you paid in advance for the room? Does she owe you money?

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ihatethecold · 20/11/2013 18:26

I remember your previous thread.
You are well rid.
Can you stay with your partner for a few days until your house is ready. ?

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Ticktock80 · 20/11/2013 19:10
Tardis
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EirikurNoromaour · 20/11/2013 19:28

Have you tried spare room.co.uk for a temporary solution?

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PansOnFire · 20/11/2013 20:00

She sounds...well....I have no words. I'm sorry she has treated you so terribly, it's sounds as if this situation (although rubbish at the moment) has served you a massive favour by showing the true colours of your 'friend'. I didn't see your other thread but I think you're well rid of her. I hope you get your accommodation sorted soon, your car sounds like a better option than her house though!

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hermioneweasley · 20/11/2013 20:04

Honestly, she sounds mentally ill rather than nasty.

Doesn't mean I'd want to live with her though!

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Slutbucket · 20/11/2013 20:14

Sorry to hear you've had a traumatic experience with a flat mate I've been there! However if only I'd had the word wankbadger in my life it certainly would have helped. Smile

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DrinkFeckArseGirls · 20/11/2013 20:18

Who is the OP in your OP? Confused

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Pigsmummy · 20/11/2013 20:29

Op and myself?

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Objection · 20/11/2013 20:45

OP = OH. Sorry!

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ConfusedPixie · 20/11/2013 20:59

spareroom is good, DP and I use it for our house sharing needs :) We tend to go for lodging than house sharing though, less hassle and bills are included!

Good luck with sorting the house!

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ophelia275 · 20/11/2013 21:06

Is she the owner of her home? Is she paying tax on her rental income? I would be inclined to return the favour and report her to both the council (no proper tenancy agreement is illegal) and HMRC.

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ConfusedPixie · 20/11/2013 21:15

ophelia I wrote something about that too but I decided not to post it. Somebody willing to kick you out that quickly probably isn't declaring imo. If they own and are renting out rooms they need to declare the income, and if they are renting and are renting out the room they are possibly in breach of their own rental contract.

It would take a lot for me not to report if I were in your situation!

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Financeprincess · 20/11/2013 21:22

You can rent out a room without paying tax on it. Sorry to disappoint the people advocating vengeance!

If she was letting you stay for free, I don't see why she shouldn't move in a paying housemate when it suits the housemate (I don't know the financial arrangements you made with your friend). She could have been nicer about it, though. Re cleanliness, visiting strangers, etc: her house, her rules, I'm afraid.

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Objection · 20/11/2013 21:31

She's renting. I don't think the rental company give a damn, the certainly don't care about the state she keeps the house in.

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Objection · 20/11/2013 21:32

her house, her rules, I'm afraid. This is true, which is why I never complained to her about it. Even when one of the drunken strangers came into my bedroom at 4 in the morning and started to try and drag the bed into the hallway!

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Objection · 20/11/2013 21:32

*they

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