to think this "friend" is a massive wankbadger?

(59 Posts)
Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 17:03:53

I moved in with a friend temporarily whilst our (OP and myself) house is completing. OP is living with his DPs (no room for me).
It was originally going to be for about 6 months whilst we bought and renovated but my "friend" turned out to be a demon from hell (disgusting messy, loud, strangers over in the middle of the night, screamed at me at the slightest inclination etc) that I had to leave. So I lied (I know I know) and after a few weeks of trying to sort it out/put up with it I told her that things had changed with the house and now OP and I needed to move in. I felt this was a better reason for "you're a complete psycho and I can't put up with this any more".

I gave her 4 weeks notice (ending on Dec 2nd, when the house should be ours). After screaming, storming off and generally having a paddy we sorted it out and that was fine.

She spent a week or so looking for a replacement housemate and found one she loved who said yes. Great.

But yesterday evening she comes into my room demanding to know when my house will be sorted. I told her about the call to the soliciters I'd made that day and said that I'd let her know as soon as I knew but I'd be out by the 2nd.

"Well, you have to be out by this weekend."

"Sorry?"

"My new housemate starts her job on Monday."

"Right. But I can't move out until I have a house to move to."

"That's not my problem. You screwed me over about the six months so I don't see why I should be loyal to you for the 4 weeks notice. We had nothing in writing, you have no legal standing. You don't exist."

To cut a long story short, after calling my family psychopaths (because I'd confided in my grandmothers mental illness the night before) she threw me out. It was 9pm at night, freezing cold.

Now I'm living out of my car and sleeping on my mother's sofa - over an hour away from where I work.

AIBU to rant and to think she is a nasty piece of **?

(On a different note, I'm concerned that my computer didn't recognise the word "badger" but had no issue with "wankbadger" confused)

IsThatTrue Wed 20-Nov-13 17:07:51

YANBU and I met love your computer!

TheWitTank Wed 20-Nov-13 17:09:37

Nope YANBU - "friend" sounds a few sandwiches short of a picnic. I would rather be living out of my car than with them tbh!

Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 17:12:53

That's the general consensus at work as well, TheWitTank and I have to say my stress levels - despite everything - have dropped enormously from being away from her. I'm probably lucky!

DameDeepRedBetty Wed 20-Nov-13 17:13:09

Your ex friend is demented.

Can you afford b&b for a few days?

Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 17:14:51

I could scrape to a B&B but to be honest its nice to be near my family for a few days despite the commute. I work 7 days a week over the 2 jobs so don't get to spend as much time with them as I should smile

SwishAndFlick Wed 20-Nov-13 17:16:42

I remember your other thread about her. She sounds vile and you are well rid.
Wonder how long the new roomie will last.

Crinkle77 Wed 20-Nov-13 17:32:25

Were there no signs of any odd behaviour prior to moving in?

Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 17:40:10

No. I thought she was really lovely. I think most people do. She has of course made a point of telling her friends how awful I was but considering I was only there 4 nights a week, showered at the Gym because her bathroom was so crap and filthy and spent 99% of the time in my room (esp. towards the end when I was just plain frightened of her) I can't imagine what she could tell them.

Twoandtwomakeschaos Wed 20-Nov-13 18:23:12

Had you paid in advance for the room? Does she owe you money?

ihatethecold Wed 20-Nov-13 18:26:41

I remember your previous thread.
You are well rid.
Can you stay with your partner for a few days until your house is ready. ?

Ticktock80 Wed 20-Nov-13 19:10:32

tardis <~~~~ yanbu stick friend in here and send her off

Have you tried spare room.co.uk for a temporary solution?

PansOnFire Wed 20-Nov-13 20:00:18

She sounds...well....I have no words. I'm sorry she has treated you so terribly, it's sounds as if this situation (although rubbish at the moment) has served you a massive favour by showing the true colours of your 'friend'. I didn't see your other thread but I think you're well rid of her. I hope you get your accommodation sorted soon, your car sounds like a better option than her house though!

hermioneweasley Wed 20-Nov-13 20:04:35

Honestly, she sounds mentally ill rather than nasty.

Doesn't mean I'd want to live with her though!

Slutbucket Wed 20-Nov-13 20:14:05

Sorry to hear you've had a traumatic experience with a flat mate I've been there! However if only I'd had the word wankbadger in my life it certainly would have helped. smile

DrinkFeckArseGirls Wed 20-Nov-13 20:18:15

Who is the OP in your OP? confused

Pigsmummy Wed 20-Nov-13 20:29:36

Op and myself?

Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 20:45:59

OP = OH. Sorry!

spareroom is good, DP and I use it for our house sharing needs smile We tend to go for lodging than house sharing though, less hassle and bills are included!

Good luck with sorting the house!

ophelia275 Wed 20-Nov-13 21:06:21

Is she the owner of her home? Is she paying tax on her rental income? I would be inclined to return the favour and report her to both the council (no proper tenancy agreement is illegal) and HMRC.

ophelia I wrote something about that too but I decided not to post it. Somebody willing to kick you out that quickly probably isn't declaring imo. If they own and are renting out rooms they need to declare the income, and if they are renting and are renting out the room they are possibly in breach of their own rental contract.

It would take a lot for me not to report if I were in your situation!

Financeprincess Wed 20-Nov-13 21:22:55

You can rent out a room without paying tax on it. Sorry to disappoint the people advocating vengeance!

If she was letting you stay for free, I don't see why she shouldn't move in a paying housemate when it suits the housemate (I don't know the financial arrangements you made with your friend). She could have been nicer about it, though. Re cleanliness, visiting strangers, etc: her house, her rules, I'm afraid.

Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 21:31:01

She's renting. I don't think the rental company give a damn, the certainly don't care about the state she keeps the house in.

Objection Wed 20-Nov-13 21:32:09

her house, her rules, I'm afraid. This is true, which is why I never complained to her about it. Even when one of the drunken strangers came into my bedroom at 4 in the morning and started to try and drag the bed into the hallway!

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