AIBU to wanna call social services on neighbour??

(36 Posts)
HankEpankie Fri 15-Nov-13 00:11:41

I've got this delightful neighbour who has one ds around 2/3 years old.

Now I appreciate that everyone is entitled to parent in their own way and i hate gettin involved in other ppls business etc but sometimes it's necessary ( I mean we r talking about a child) ...Her behaviour makes my blood boil..

Firstly, she is always screaming at the kid, not just normal tellin off I mean callin him a c* , tellin him to f off etc at the top of her lungs, day in day out - so loud I can hear every word through my walls (and he's only little) hmm

She also smokes weed - in and around her house and I've actually been walking past before and she's been on the doorstep with him on her lap while she's smoking a joint!!

She's forever arguing with her latest boyfriend /playing very loud music until all hours most nights even though she has a baby in the house- police are always getting called there for whatever reason

The first time I ever met her ws when she knocked at mine with her ds askin if I had a cigarette- when I said no, she asked me to hold him for a sec while she knocked at the other neighbours houses confused and I kid u not
She did not come bk for about 4 hours!!!!! She had no idea who I was, and she just left her kid with me without even askin if it was ok - when she finally came bk she was drunk and said she got chattin to a neighbour and had "a few brandys" - no apologies nothin shock

Then again tonight the police were at hers cos she left her ds in the house & ws outside arguin with her bf and she managed to lock herself out! And ds ws inside scared and screaming cos he ws on his own!!!!

What the actual fuck!?? Should I just call them,? I am really concerned about this child, I can't just stand back and watch him be abused and treated this way!

littlewhitebag Fri 15-Nov-13 11:56:39

If the police have been involved then the likelihood is that SS are aware of this family as they usually submit a report to SS when there is a child in the house.

However that should not stop you calling SS to pass on your concerns as they usually need to build up a picture over time of what is going on in the family. A number of concerns about the same things over a short period will be a flag to do a visit and maybe initiate other safeguarding procedures.

isitme1 Fri 15-Nov-13 11:58:52

Aww poor boy.
I hate telling ds off if hes done something wrong
Wont leave him with family for that long never m

expatinscotland Fri 15-Nov-13 11:58:54

Call them.

PeterParkerSays Fri 15-Nov-13 12:12:16

There are proven links between adults who mistreat animals, and their behaviour towards their children. Report to SS and RSPCA and keep doing so when you have cause for concern, the two will help back up her pattern of poor behaviour.

isitme1 Fri 15-Nov-13 12:23:40

Sorry phone stopped working hmm
I was going to say never mind a stranger.
You did the right thing by the boy

isitme1 Mon 18-Nov-13 14:16:16

How is the boy

LaGuardia Mon 18-Nov-13 16:11:55

You would be surprised what SS let parents get away with. My sis is also a neglectful mother - alcoholic, drugs, random blokes. She has been arrested for assaulting a police officer when she was barred from a pub. Someone called SS on her, and, because they found food in her fridge, they left DS there. The school also told them the DS was always on time for school and clean and tidy. The fact that he is bringing himself up doesn't seem to bother them.

Purple2012 Mon 18-Nov-13 16:36:28

SS probably are aware but it always helps to have more reports. I reported a neighbour for very similar. 2 kids, constantly heard her shouting things like 'get away from me you little twat'. DV issues too. And this neighbour wasn't next door. I could hear it across the road and several doors down.

theimposter Mon 18-Nov-13 16:45:03

No idea re SS but I'd be amazed if the RSPCA do anything to help unless a camera crew is in tow. I rescued an animal this weekend and they are the last charity I would have called after their non help last time I picked up a stray. H

diagnosticnomansland Mon 18-Nov-13 16:45:08

Call SS.

lagoonhaze Mon 18-Nov-13 19:14:49

LaGuardia- im assuming you have rang reports in on each and every occasion too then?

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