WWYD, teacher related

(31 Posts)
Bellini81 Wed 13-Nov-13 19:30:43

I won't witter on but basically my son who is in year 2 has a teacher L who I like.

Yesterday when I picked my son up he was telling me about a boy who kicked one of his friends in the stomach and when my son told the lunchtime supervisor the boy tried kicking him in revenge etc

I asked L if she had heard anything from lunchtime staff about this as it was obviously playing on my sons mind (as it was the first thing out of his mouth when he saw me.)
L bent down to my son and his friend (who had been kicked) and said loudly "did you tell me" and when they both said "no but"... she put her hand in their faces as to say well I can't deal with it and turned her back on us. When my son finished his sentence he said ..."but I did tell 2 lunchtime staff who dealt with it but the boy started again at the end of afternoon play."

In the end I got out of my son that the boy (doing the kicking) was made to say sorry and I told my son he did the right thing by telling the lunchtime staff.. end of story or so I thought.

Today at lunchtime play when they were lining up to go into class my son and 3 of his friends were pulled to the front of the line by L to talk about playing rugby at lunchtime and told they can't do that any more as its too rough as the lunchtime staff were doing a handover.
Then L said to my son 'well as you go home and tell half truths to your mum about being hurt in the playground I will ban you from (certain play equipment) as you tell your mum you are getting hurt and she comes in to talk to me about it, you are a liar'
and then talked about yesterdays incident with the boy?

How do I approach this? I have had 2 mums confirm she called my son a liar in front of their child but I won't drag that up as it looks tit for tat. My son is upset, he can talk the hind legs off a donkey but I can honestly say (yes 100% honest) he doesn't tell lies.

Do I just put it down to her having a bad day, does it sound okay that she actually said you are a liar to my son? I am upset but am I over reacting?

cornflakegirl Thu 14-Nov-13 14:09:18

The OP said that her son reported that the lunchtime staff had dealt with the incident and the boy had been made to say sorry. She told her son he was right to tell the supervisors.

The teacher didn't need to be involved in that.

Obviously sometimes children report stuff that you do need to ask school about (with an open mind). I think that's different.

YouTheCat Thu 14-Nov-13 14:13:49

Tbh the lunchtime staff should have made the teacher aware of the incident, especially if the kicking child has a history of continuing his behaviour into the next playtime.

The teacher sounds overly stressed. What is the class like generally?

She shouldn't have called your ds a liar though - that is not on.

Snoopingforsoup Thu 14-Nov-13 15:49:53

I would ask for a meeting to clarify.

I would tread carefully though. My DS had a teacher like that and every time I complained, she dismissed his feelings even more. It was a hellish year!

It seems you only have half a story here. I hope the teacher gives you some peace of mind.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Thu 14-Nov-13 16:01:04

Hope your meeting resolved this.

Sounds as if the teacher got the wrong end of the stick. Fwiw did you ask her if DS is allowed to use that equipment? If she gave you an explanation that resembles your child's account then I hope you asked her if she'd like to rethink her veto on playing on the equipment as your son was not out to make trouble, she only heard half the anecdote.

DoJo Fri 15-Nov-13 23:12:54

How did things go OP? Has your meeting resolved anything for you?

Canthisonebeused Sat 16-Nov-13 00:19:06

I would be surprised if a y2 child could relay that's what she said word for word tbh. Did your son really say that's what she said?

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