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To want my DD to be born a week before or after my due date due to others birthdays

(61 Posts)
Hotmad Mon 11-Nov-13 17:55:53

My boyfriends sister and my best friends daughter both have birthdays 1 day either side of my due date, I would like my DD to have birthday a little bit separated from these 2 events.....

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 11-Nov-13 17:57:32

YABU

TarkaTheOtter Mon 11-Nov-13 17:57:33

YANBU if it would make your life a bit easier with birthday plans in the future. Hope you get your wish.

BoohPear Mon 11-Nov-13 17:59:28

My baby was due the day after my sister birthday, she ended up coming 11 days late. Unless you are planning a c-section the baby will come when she comes.

cathpip Mon 11-Nov-13 17:59:42

In my opinion yanbu, my ds was born the day after my birthday and ever since my birthday has paled into insignificance as "it's only 1 more sleep till my birthday mummy" and I spend the day making and decorating his cake! Here's hoping your daughter is fashionably late smile

SantanaLopez Mon 11-Nov-13 17:59:57

YABU. It's only a birthday.

CaptainSweatPants Mon 11-Nov-13 18:00:32

Ha you should have planned better !
Not much you can do about it now
But first children are usually late

jkklpu Mon 11-Nov-13 18:01:29

yabu

Hotmad Mon 11-Nov-13 18:03:55

If she's anything like her mother then she will be late as she'll be too lazy/comfy to budge anyway! Lol. But i do realise she will come when she comes ..... Maybe I could forge the birth certificate!!!!! wink

JeanSeberg Mon 11-Nov-13 18:04:12

Lol I thought you were going to say your birthday and husband's birthday, not two randomly related birthdays! Is this for real?

Ilanthe Mon 11-Nov-13 18:05:57

My sister spent most of my pregnancy lightheartedly threatening me with all sorts if my DS2 arrived on her birthday. He turned up 3 days before, much to everyone's relief. grin

CrohnicallyTired Mon 11-Nov-13 18:12:35

Boohpear- even with a planned c section, baby will come when she comes! I never made it to my planned date!

My baby was born a day before my niece's birthday. This year DD was 1, so we did her presents, cake etc on her birthday and had a joint family outing on my niece's birthday. And we plan to do similar in the future. In actual fact, it's saving us a bit of money, because otherwise we would end up going on 2 separate days out to celebrate!

oodyboodyboocs Mon 11-Nov-13 18:14:50

yanbu, my dd arrived early on her dad's birthday totally stole his thunder, he was pretty much ignored as everyone who arrived to wish him happy birthday was completely distracted by the new arrival. mind you her uncle and grandpa's birthday's are also that week so she could have arrived on any of them.

Mind you, you can always team up with your friend for party's and save both of you loads of expense when they're older!

my nephew and neice have the same birthday (different parents), I thinks its lovely and easy to remember my DC was due the same months so I hoped it would be the same day, unfortunatley he was in a hurry and is 4 days before smile

CrohnicallyTired Mon 11-Nov-13 18:16:55

Ilanthe- my SIL actually wanted my DD to share a birthday with my niece, we never really thought it would happen since my due date was 2 weeks later, and almost a month after my SIL's due date had been (Just to clarify, there were a few years between them, but you do kind of figure first babies would be late). Then of course, I had my section planned for 4 days after DN's birthday so figured that was that.

CrohnicallyTired Mon 11-Nov-13 18:19:17

That post made almost no sense at all!

Let me try again. My SIL was due at the end of one month and her DD was born in the middle of the next month. So when my due date was the end of that month, we really expected DD to be born the month after that, since our due dates were a month apart, we thought their birthdays would be too.

Rufus44 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:41:21

YANBU

I booked ds3s c section for the day before sister in laws birthday so he didn't have to share

I bet all his future relatives will have birthdays on his day just to foil my cunning plan

Good luck

Branleuse Mon 11-Nov-13 18:43:00

you can want what you like. Doesnt make the slightest difference

cogitosum Mon 11-Nov-13 18:45:09

I bet when you get to your due date you'll be desperate for her to come!

NewBlueCoat Mon 11-Nov-13 18:47:27

YABU for such unrelated birthdays - you do realise that at some point you/your child will meet someone who shares his/her birthday?

HAving said that, I pulled out all the stops to ensure dc3's scheduled arrival via CS wasn't on the same day as my dss' birthday. I think that is a little different from the examples you give, though. the arrival of a new half sibling can be a difficult time anyway - being usurped on oyur own birthday by your younger brother would be asking for trouble, imo. In reality, this meant delaying my scheduled CS by 3 days (intervening weekend). Consultant was happy with this, mostly (woudl not have delayed if there was any medical reason not to) - he was a little worried as I was measuring small for dates, but then I always do (ds born fit and healthy, at over 8lbs - consultant was shocked, and asked for a re-weigh grin as he was so convinced that ds would be a little tiddler!)

BackforGood Mon 11-Nov-13 18:56:06

Of courser YANBU to hope that your dc has their own, separate, special day, but ultimately, all these babies come when they want, don't they, so no point in fretting about it smile

Anchoress Mon 11-Nov-13 19:38:52

You're joking, right?

MummyPig24 Mon 11-Nov-13 20:28:47

Dc3 is due on dc2s 4th birthday. Dc2 was a week over due so I know how that feels. I would rather they didn't have to share a birthday, and would prefer this dc to hold on a few days. It's gonna happen when it happens though so I'm not stressing about it!

Hotmad Mon 11-Nov-13 20:31:25

This post was meant to be a bit tongue in cheek really.... Of course when DD comes I will be thrilled whatever day that is and it won't really affect my life.... I just thought it would be nice for baby to have her own day....

elskovs Mon 11-Nov-13 20:35:36

Bloody hell. Im due soon and I can hardly sleep for worrying about birth defects/problems.

YANBU but YABVV immature, Im surprised you could be bothered to think it, let alone write it down and ask for opinions.

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