I have a friend who I have known since I was 18. We get on well, have never argued.
For the past two years all she has done when we meet up is complain and criticise other people. People at work and especially her cousin. My friend H is soo harsh that sometimes I want to challenge her reg her comments. I'm at the point where I'm saying that I'm not available to meet up just aiming to limit the amount of time with her. We don't meet up much say every month. She would ring me and rant.
She often gets huffy when I don't agree with her. I.e H always complains about her cousin meeting up 10 mins late due to having a baby. So friend H says "I'm sick of cousins putting that baby before me". I would say H it's hard getting out of the house with a young baby, all of a sudden a nappy needs changing you can't control it.
Then my friend tells me how she doesn't like her cousins little baby girl, or the girl always winges when mummy leaves the room. I always say its normal!
H cousin fell pregnant again and all H my friend did was ring me to complain I kept my mouth shut as i thought if I open it I would have said what I was thinking (none of your business!). H was saying why can't cousin be happy with just one baby why did she have to have another - I'm like wtf?! H cousin have cysts and I told h that she will be friend whilst pregnan she will get extra care and tell her contrtulations from me it's fab news, all I could hear was pouting.
My friend h is now pregnant but she is still not happy. She even said "my baby will not rule me" type comments. H mother is a chronic complainer. The type where they can drain you. I think she is turning into her mother.
I'm a bit pissed off and have found she has been winging about me. Her mother rang left a voice mail on behalf of my friend H and started complaining and forgot to put the phone down and I could hear my friend in the background laughing.
Im going off her completely. Can anyone relate?
I really want to limit the contact or do you think I should be up front and tell her how I feel ? I just don't want that type of person in my life soooo draining.
I think it's important to have a bitch and a moan and be here or tour friends but to be a chronic complainer when there is nothing to complain about is just doing my head in.
Any advice?
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Sunbeam22 · 10/11/2013 20:25
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