To be annoyed at dh

(26 Posts)
Tristanandisolde Sun 10-Nov-13 14:17:15

Probably I am being really childish but I can't help but be annoyed.

I feel like dh constantly hijacks my 'friendly/nice' ideas to be even more seen as the nice guy.

The thing is, he is friendly and easygoing all the bloody time anyway so everyone, and I mean everyone, likes him. I on the other side am less easy with social situations and more comfortable having 'meaningful' conversations than idle chit chat. Therefore i am less in contact with certain people (for example neighbours) because he has established himself as the go to person. So far, so ok. C'est la vie.

However, whenever I suggest to get a gift (birthday card, bottle of wine, chocolates from holidays or when a neighbour is ill) he grumbles a bit and indicates that it will be 'expensive' or whatever. BUT THEN, he always, without a fail, takes the item and delivers it to said person without even checking with me angry. As a result, even though he says it's from us everyone thinks it was his idea. confused they send him text messages and emails saying thank you for x,y,z and he becomes even more the 'go to person' for everyone, never me.

Aibu to feel disgruntled as my way of relating to people is taken away from me and I end up feeling sidelined or even isolated?

RenterNomad Sun 10-Nov-13 20:47:32

Mind that you don't wrest all the relationship stuff from him, though, or you'll end up one of the doormats who daily tell their unhappy tales on MN... sad

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