to ask if you were going on a first date with a solicitor in his 50s (OD of course) what would be good topics of conversation?

(62 Posts)
EllenNotHelen Wed 06-Nov-13 00:34:15

Haven't had date for ages and now I'm about to see this solicitor and I'm getting nervous. We've done the messaging thing and lots of amusing banter, but feeling he might think I'm a bit dim and boring (I'm not, just my insecurities) so thought if I had a few conversation pieces in mind it might help.

<< slopes off feeling sad a pathetic blush >>

WorraLiberty Sat 16-Nov-13 00:43:16

That has to be one of the weirdest questions I've read in a long time OP grin

What the fuckety fuck has his job got to do with dating?

AmandaCooper Sat 16-Nov-13 00:41:05

Yes how did it go??

justmyview Thu 07-Nov-13 23:19:10

Mim78 had just come on to post exactly that grin

Yes me too! Don't ask him that.

You can show an interest in why he chose to go into law and what does he specialise in, but I wouldn't treat it as a job interview and go to the date ready to talk about Lord Denning. That would look as if you were trying too hard

Just relax and be natural.

Drgonzosattorney Thu 07-Nov-13 23:13:07

the pros and cons of twerking?

BlackeyedSusan Thu 07-Nov-13 23:10:31

music of the seventies?

children's tv from the sixties and seventies?

his first computer? (wait five minutes for the tape to load, then it crashes just before the end)

Lisavarna Thu 07-Nov-13 23:06:33

of course, thanks!

Mandy2003 Thu 07-Nov-13 12:39:11

Online dating grin

Lisavarna Thu 07-Nov-13 12:27:59

What does (OD of course) in the OP's title refer to? confused

mumblechum1 Thu 07-Nov-13 11:52:12

I'm a lawyer in my 50s and don't like talking about my work when I'm off duty.

So I would just talk about normal stuff like you would with anyone else.

cheeseandpineapple Thu 07-Nov-13 11:49:41

OP, don't leave us in suspense, how did it go??

MarianForrester Wed 06-Nov-13 19:37:17

Mim78 had just come on to post exactly that grin

Mim78 Wed 06-Nov-13 19:30:30

As long as you don't ask "how could you defend someone who you knew was guilty?" you will be fine!

Explanation: solicitors and barristers are constantly asked this. The answer is v long winded and quite boring. If he isn't a criminal solicitor (which he may well not be) it is irrelevant to him anyway.

As others have said, solicitors are just normal people!

greenfolder Wed 06-Nov-13 19:23:11

Places you've visited, hope to go. Books and music you like. Stuff really!

MintyChops Wed 06-Nov-13 18:20:08

My DH is a solicitor and we definitely didn't talk about his job much on our first dates. Just treat him like a normal person, talk about what you are interested in and try to find out what he likes; hope it goes well....

ChristmasCareeristBitchNigel Wed 06-Nov-13 17:11:06

Just be natural. People that work in law related fields tend to talk enough "shop" at work and it's really nice to spend time with people that have no knowledge or interest so you are forced to talk about something else. Otherwise you just talk about work all the time. However much i love to discuss the fine details of criminal justice (and believe me i do) it' so refreshing when i get together with non police friends and know im not going to spend the evening moaning about the latest annexe to Pace

bigTillyMint Wed 06-Nov-13 17:08:40

Just chat - if you don't hit it off with a normal conversation then there's not really any second-date potential.

The nearly-50 solicitors/lawyers that I know chat shit like the rest of ussmile

ScarerStratton Wed 06-Nov-13 17:08:37

I hope it's not the one from Yorkshire I met, seemed perfect, until I discovered he left his wife because she had MS sad

IHadADreamThatWasNotAllADream Wed 06-Nov-13 17:05:13

Oops...."more relevant to me than you" obvs.

eurochick Wed 06-Nov-13 16:57:09

I'm a lawyer (although rather younger than 50) and whilst I am quite happy to talk to people generally about what I do (it's an area of law that sounds quite glamorous but really isn't), I wouldn't want to chat about Lord Denning/Leveson/the state of the current batch of trainees on a date.

IHadADreamThatWasNotAllADream Wed 06-Nov-13 16:53:32

Ask him how gobsmacked he was by Bowie's stealth release of an unheralded album, whether he got to see the V&A exhibition, and how traumatised he was by the death of Lou Reed. If he responds with confused face then ditch him.

OK I grant you that those particular topics of conversation may be more relevant to you than me, but I trust you get my point.

VoiceofRaisin Wed 06-Nov-13 16:52:05

Talk about anything that interests YOU. It's pointless attempting discourse on topics that you have dreamt up to fit in with your imagined idea of what he would like. Isn't the point of a date to see if you both get on, with you being you, and him being him? I bet you are lovely so just relax. He needs to make an effort to get to know you if he is worth his salt.

What are your hobbies and interests, or what has caught your interest in the news lately, or on TV, or in a book? Talk about those, and ask him about his.

Enjoy! PS I know LOADS of solicitors in their 50's and every one of them is different in his/her character and interests.

Walkacrossthesand Wed 06-Nov-13 16:48:02

I'm just envy that you got a date with a professional bloke in his fifties - I'm that age and hung around on dating sites for months without a flicker of interest. Have a good time!

hanette Wed 06-Nov-13 16:43:41

Why not ask him what job he'd like to have done if he wasn't a solicitor?

When is the date?

cheeseandpineapple Wed 06-Nov-13 16:38:36

Bonsoir Bonsoir, as a former solicitor, married to a solicitor and knowing loads of solicitors/lawyers, let me tell you that we can be as much the life and soul of parties as anyone else goddamit!

OP, I'm nosey and can't help asking all kinds of questions about people's jobs when I first meet them including other lawyers so I'd be wanting to know what kind of law he practises, does he work on his own or in a firm etc Not saying you spend the whole night talking about work but if you don't ask about each other's work (or equivalent), it seems a bit unnatural not to talk a little about a big chunk of your life.

Taste in TV shows, films etc will start to give you an idea if someone's on your wavelength, if they like the same comedy shows as you, that's a good starting point. Hope it goes well!

BinksToEnlightenment Wed 06-Nov-13 16:38:22

Talk to him about your job

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