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To wish house guests would bring their own towels?

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Isthisstormcomingorwhat Sun 03-Nov-13 20:08:45

Just had guests to stay this weekend. They used four towels between two of them, and as we don't have a tumble dryer I now have four towels plus a set of bed linen hanging up to dry in the house.

Would it be unreasonable to ask future guests to bring their own towels (assuming they are driving and not travelling by public transport in which case I appreciate they might not want to carry too much with them).

Love having guests to stay, hate all the washing!

blue88 Thu 07-Nov-13 13:54:55

Just stumbled upon this - how about this one? I once shared my (then) friend's house as a lodger - paying a more than reasonable rent. My friend and I went back more than 20 years. Part of the deal was she provided my towels until one night when I made the big mistake of giving my boyfriend (on one of the very few nights he stayed over) a clean towel from her linen cupboard. Next day she described how she felt violated and that as I was only her lodger he was not to stay overnight again!

wink mrs

I honestly don't understand how anyone could be offended by being asked to chip in in some way when staying with friends or family.

There are some odd people about.

mrscog Mon 04-Nov-13 22:20:03

There was also cheeeecake JohnnyB! :D

Beef casserole? Is that it? Fuck off, mrscog - I'm off to stay with my REAL friend, Martha Stewart.

That's exactly what I'd say.

Bring my own towels and after that indignity, casserole for dinner.

I ask you angry

mrscog Mon 04-Nov-13 21:04:15

So SuiGeneris you'd feel unwelcome if your oldest friend said (this is almost verbatim what I said a few years ago)

'Sui, are you still coming this weekend? We can't wait to see you all, yes it's going to be fab. Is beef casserole ok for dinner? And does Mr Sui still not like mushrooms? Ok, great no probs. Just arrive whenever you like, we'll eat late. Oh by the way, we're still unpacking would you mind bringing towels with you - I've got no idea where they all are!'

SuiGeneris Mon 04-Nov-13 20:49:04

YABU. Providing for guests is part of being a host. I would feel quite unwelcome if I was asked to bring own towels and find it quite odd when people do- always wonder what is wrong with the ones I provided.

Also, what is wrong with two towels each? Surely you need at least one for the face and one for the rest?

mummy1973 Mon 04-Nov-13 20:45:05

I wouldn't be offended if you asked me to bring one either but if you don't want to host they may be better off in a hotel? Surely you want to make their stay as easy and enjoyable as possible so washing a few towels at the end is hardly a hardship?

mummy1973 Mon 04-Nov-13 20:41:16

yabu

BackforGood Mon 04-Nov-13 20:30:47

grin Imperial - no, I missed that one, but have picked up on the incredible number of things some professionally offended people get offended over.

ImperialBlether Mon 04-Nov-13 20:23:32

BackForGood, there is an endless capacity for being offended on MN. Didn't you read about the OP who was in a temper because she was sent flowers?

OTheHugeManatee Mon 04-Nov-13 16:15:07

All this talk of towels reminds me of this immortal League of Gentlemen moment grin

Oriunda Mon 04-Nov-13 14:20:42

If I shower and wash hair then I use 2 towels. Bath and no hair wash then just one towel. DH uses a towelling dressing gown with hood.

Best wedding present ever .... an enormous quantity of Calvin Klein towels. The most luxurious and fluffy and 9 years on as good as ever. I recommend them!

samandi Mon 04-Nov-13 13:51:27

I only use one towel. If someone put two towels out for me I'd only use one.

I've asked guests to do this before, and do you know what they didn't mind in the slightest. Admittedly I did have 12 people staying for the weekend, a washing machine down the end of the garden and no tumble dryer.

I love all the laundrette comments. Some people really don't have any idea. The nearest laundrette to me is miles away, and for years I had no car so couldn't have used it. Not an unusual scenario. Not everyone lives with every facility on their doorstep.

diddl Mon 04-Nov-13 13:42:14

I also use 2 towels-but for one night my husband & I would use 2 between us-even if 4 were left out.

MillyONaire Mon 04-Nov-13 13:36:45

I bring my own towels - as do my parents when they come here (they even bring their own bed linen so I don't have to wash theirs after!)

spookySwitched Mon 04-Nov-13 13:33:57

Isn't it normal to use two towels after a shower ? 1 for your hair and 1 for your body? I can't be the only person who always uses 2 towels (can I??)

I have to admit that I was would just put the towels on the radiator to dry and reused them (unlesss they were obviously dirty). Same with the bed sheets, they would have stayed on the bed too.

diddl Mon 04-Nov-13 13:21:59

Did you put out 4 towels for them?

In which case they probably thought it was OK to use them all?

BackforGood Mon 04-Nov-13 13:16:01

I am absolutely stunned at the response on this thread.
If I were packing an overnight bag, or if my dh were or if any of my dc were, or my sister or her family or my brother or his family, then it would contain......
PJs/nightware, slippers, (maybe dressing gown - depends on other varients), clean clothes for the next day, hairbrush, toothbrush, toothpaste, towel, deodorant, and a gift for the host. It's just part of what we would all, automatically do. dh has had to train himself to not take a towel when he's staying in a hotel for work.

Yet another "thing" I've discovered on MN, that I never knew was a "thing - being offended if your guest is trying to be helpful shock

ephemeralfairy Mon 04-Nov-13 13:11:14

Unless they had OCD-ihs fears themselves of course, in which case I'd understand totally!

ephemeralfairy Mon 04-Nov-13 13:09:59

I take a towel with me as a matter of course but that's cause I am all weird about germs (ishoos!) but if someone asked me to I'd be a bit put out...

Anyone taking offence at being asked, really ought to be asking themselves why they've accepted an invitation in the first place.

Be a gracious host by all means, but also be a gracious guest (aka a friend).

valiumredhead Mon 04-Nov-13 11:49:01

Yes I think you definitely should ask them to bring towels, also their own bed sheets and food, that way you won't have to do a thing.

Beastofburden Mon 04-Nov-13 11:37:44

Would the OP do the same? Would she take all the towels for her own family, if she went to stay somewhere? indeed, does she already offer to do that?

It does just seem very inhospitable to me.

YesterdayI Mon 04-Nov-13 09:28:15

If someone was travelling by public transport or flying then, of course, it would be unreasonable to ask them to bring their own towels but if the visitors are travelling by car and are returning to their own home afterwards then it's hardly inconvenient for them

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