To think I am not the sock finder ffs?

[Pinupgirl]

Dh taking 2 dcs to an activity this morning and I am taking the other dc swimming.

Dh moans about having to give youngest dc a bath. He then literally storms into the bedroom where I am still getting ready and demands to know where the socks are-shouting btw and glaring at me.

I point out that possessing a pair of ovaries does not imbue me with magic sock finding powers and suggest he looks in a drawer. Cue lots of mutterings and pa comments under his breath.

Was I bu to refuse to look for socks? Background-I am sahm,well work very pt,he works long hours,throws this in my face often and doesn't lift a finger around the house.

[Shatteredmamma1]

No you are not Bu. Tell him to bugger off
and find them himself. Men are just like
this I think (some men !!!) SAHM is a full
time (24/7) job- you just don't get paid.
Or get weekends or evenings or nights
off!! (Rant over)

[Pinupgirl]

Oh don't worry I told him to fuck off when he started being very passive aggressive and saying I couldn't wait to get rid of the kids

[CailinDana]

This isn't about socks this is about the fact that you have a rude disrespectful husband who thinks it's ok to shout at you and who resents looking after his own children.

[CailinDana]

Shattered - being a SAHM only involves constant slaving when you're with a useless partner who couldn't care less about you.

[Pinupgirl]

Yep agree cailin-he was being a giant twat. He spent 7 hours yesterday and spent a fortune on a very,very small bit of diy. He is useless at diy-fucks it up every time. He could have got a handy man to do it in 5 minutes for 20 quid but oh no

He then set the alarm for half 7 this morning even though there was no need to get up at that time on a sunday-waking the whole house up and making more pa comments about being tired

[Shatteredmamma1]

Well done pinup

Er...alright Callin. My DH is pretty helpful
and does care about me but also works a lot and my DS doesn't
sleep loads during the day so I run round
trying to get things done whilst he does.
Clearly you're more organised then??

[CailinDana]

No shattered I'm not organised at all. I have a 3 yr old ds and an 8 mth old dd who doesn't sleep. But I do not work 24/7 because when DH is here he cooks, cleans, gets up with the kids etc basically he does half of everything.

[Pinupgirl]

I agree that is the way it should be cailin but if I want my dh to do anything around the home then I have to moan the face off him-its like having another child!

We are going to inlaws today and he will be expecting lots of and will get praise for the tiny bit of diy he done

[RandomMess]

How old are the dc btw?

[2tiredtoScare]

Where's sockreturningpixie when you need her?

[FreakinRexManningDay]

You've got bigger problems than socks I'm afraid.

You've married a tantrumming dickhead who thinks just because he works full time it excuses him from doing parenting.

[Shatteredmamma1]

The point I was making, Cailin, was that you
(ie pinups DP) can leave your work at the office. You don't
stop being a parent when it's the weekend.
I wasn't implying it was a 24/7 slog.

[Isabelonatricycle]

Sockfinder General, if you please - if you don't get the title/rank right, how ever will you command respect?

Misses point entirely