wibu to text colleague?

(28 Posts)
MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Thu 31-Oct-13 19:24:13

I am very close to one of my colleagues, we have worked together for years and would socialise quite alot. Today in work she got into trouble (perhaps quite serious) for something that was done accidentally. She was quite upset about it and knowing her, she is sitting at home right now, probably crying over it. I myself havr been in trouble a number of times for mistakes and know how horrible it is.

I want to send her a text and see if she is ok, but to be honest I am worried she will bring up what happened, and discussing work things outside is prohibited. I know she wouldnt tell them but if it got out somehow then I would be in trouble too.

I feel so awful she is my friend and obviously I want to console her. Its so hard being friends with colleagues sometimes sad

Should I just send the text anyway?

Mrsostrich Thu 31-Oct-13 19:27:57

I would. If she talks about it then its her discussing work not you. wink

SwedishEdith Thu 31-Oct-13 19:30:55

I'm sure a 'Hope you're ok' text would be fine.

I'm intrigued at what your job is that talking about it outside of work with colleagues is prohibited <nosy>

Quoteunquote Thu 31-Oct-13 19:32:32

Just say, thinking of you and hope you are OK.

I would text her an 'are you OK?' and offer her some moral support. You don't have to talk about work, just about how she is.

PansOnFire Thu 31-Oct-13 19:44:57

YANBU - send her a text, if you can't talk about work outside work then she won't have anyone at all she can tell she's upset. Start off with "I know we can't talk about work..." and hopefully she'll keep the details to a minimum. It's always nice to know you have friends at work.

YesterdayI Thu 31-Oct-13 19:49:05

You can text, just say that you know you can't discuss what happened but you wanted to say hi and check she was ok.

LondonNicki Sat 02-Nov-13 20:01:00

Or you could call her, them there wouldn't be any record of texts that you would be worried about?....

Coldlightofday Sat 02-Nov-13 20:04:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

harticus Sat 02-Nov-13 20:04:31

What job can't you talk about?
Are you international spies? grin

Send her a text or better still give her a call.

harticus Sat 02-Nov-13 20:05:22

Beat me to it cold !

ImperialBlether Sat 02-Nov-13 20:56:35

I wouldn't have anything in writing, if your company is so strict.

Phone her up, let her talk, don't say anything she can quote, but just let her get it out of her system.

FredFredGeorge Sat 02-Nov-13 21:13:28

I thought spies generally do encourage discussion these days, as long as it's between colleagues or other cleared people specifically because they know bottling it up and not being able to talk to anyone tends to result in much worse things! So I doubt it's a spy - I'm thinking it's an IT firm who knows its employees have a tendancy to bore the pants off everyone!

but yes, phone her / text her - whatever's appropriate!

HeywoodMonkey Sat 02-Nov-13 21:14:01

I agree with the others. A text asking if she is ok and that you are thinking of her is not breaking any rules. Unless of course she spies for a different country than you. If so I would maintain radio silence.

HeywoodMonkey Sat 02-Nov-13 21:15:56

Ooh you could use spy code.
The rain falls heavy in Stutgart in November.....
Translates to 'alright chuck?'

MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Sat 02-Nov-13 21:19:23

Hahaha! You lot are bonkers grin these spy stories are so amusing I almost dont want to tell you about my boring real job.

Sorry to burst your bubble but I work with small children.

YesterdayI Sat 02-Nov-13 21:33:44
Slutbucket Sat 02-Nov-13 21:48:09

It is probably prohibited that you talk about children outside of work because of data protection. I'm sorry but they can't stop you from ringing a friend outside work hours unless the person has been suspended.

Slutbucket Sat 02-Nov-13 21:49:05

Love the spy child!

MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Sat 02-Nov-13 21:52:13

Yesterday i am laughing my bum off at that adorable super cool pic grin

Think smaller. Like this perhaps

RandomMess Sat 02-Nov-13 21:56:29

ALso you can just text "Hope you are okay, thinking of you x" so not asking her to discuss, you are not discussing but you have told her that you care IYSWIM.

YesterdayI Sat 02-Nov-13 21:56:56

grin grin grin

bittapitta Sat 02-Nov-13 22:04:11

Sorry - I agree with not putting anything in writing! Could be used against you by employer. Call her at a reasonable hour tomorrow.

Vivacia Sat 02-Nov-13 22:07:12

"I know we can't discuss work, but just wanted to say I hope you're ok"?

AlexaChelsea Sat 02-Nov-13 22:13:17

Talking about something cannot be prohibited. That's ridiculous.

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