AIBU about my cat?

(37 Posts)
Gossipmonster Wed 30-Oct-13 22:28:48

This is not a third world issue <disclaimer>

Guest (work related) this eve - to prepare report.

Turns up 50 minutes late hmm.

I ask if ok with cats "no" is the reply.

"Ok" I reply breezily and go to remove said cat.

"No no it's fine really I just hate them" I go to remove cat again who has returned - to reassurances they are not allergic and to leave cat in the room it's fine, but swears at cat under breath and sneers at it.

Throughout the evening of work they make kind of nasty faces at my cat making their hatred clear. I remove cat several times.

AIBU to think this is a bit rude? I am not keen on dogs (am scared) but if visiting a house where one lives I would do my best to not make my hatred of a family member quite so obvious.

gamerchick Thu 31-Oct-13 12:15:48

Awesome.. so that's catnip in a neighbors garden.. The husband peeing all over ours and lots of love.

Have to love mumsnet for tips grin

GrendelsMum Thu 31-Oct-13 12:09:20

Yes, I think that's actually right. Cats see looking at them and trying to get in their space as a sign of aggression (although socialisation with humans does affect this), so ignoring them comes across as being a polite visitor to their territory.

gamerchick Thu 31-Oct-13 12:06:11

So rather than ignoring them I should seek it out and smother it in affection and it'll leave me alone?

GrendelsMum Thu 31-Oct-13 12:00:10

Like Alpaca says, cats interpret human cat hating behaviour as ultra-polite, so go straight over to the politest person in the room.

BloodiedGhouloshes Thu 31-Oct-13 11:56:51

aaahhh. dreamies. Crack for cats.

I think being allergic to cats is a perfectly valid reason to avoid!

LegoLady95 Thu 31-Oct-13 10:01:51

That massage thing that cats do with their paws, we call it 'making a pudding'.
DH used to 'hate' cats, until he lived with me and mine. Now they are thick as thieves.

Preciousbane Thu 31-Oct-13 09:37:49

I have a cat I absolutely adore her but if someone was visiting who didn't like cats then I would put her in another room with dreamies to make up for it.

ohmymimi Thu 31-Oct-13 09:28:41

Never met a cat that is an arsehole, Alpaca , met plenty of humans that are, though grin

GiveItYourBestFucker Thu 31-Oct-13 09:19:39

I'm like unicorns I like cats but I like breathing more. Can no longer visit cat-owning friend as the spare bed is also the sofa, where the cats sit and scratch and play. She thinks I am being over-dramatic sad.

Littleen Thu 31-Oct-13 07:35:09

Ah yes, I had a friend at uni for a (short) while who hated cats. She came to my house once because she needed help with some work, and was constantly freaked and grossed out by my very sweet cats. She refused to sit on a chair that had cat hair on it, because it was 'disgusting' - everything has hair on it when you have furry pets! She was so rude, I couldnt really be bothered with her afterwards!

gamerchick Thu 31-Oct-13 07:28:50

It's true that they go straight for people who don't like them. A pal of mine has 5 and it's like sitting in a shark pool the way they all prowl around me. Then one trying to curl up on my boobs or lap.

It's their home though.. I don't visit much.

livinginwonderland Thu 31-Oct-13 07:17:32

My cats detect cat haters. My mum hates having animals climb all over her, but when she comes to visit, our cats make a beeline for her. When she pushes them off or puts them down, they'll sit about a metre away from her and just glare in her direction until she leaveds, hahah.

HaroldLloyd Wed 30-Oct-13 23:32:15

Unleash these on him

Is rude. Allergies yes, swearing and dirty looks, no.

Topseyt Wed 30-Oct-13 23:31:46

Your visitor/colleague was very rude. I would have just left the cat in the room after the second or third time it returned.

I hope your cat drooled loads and moulted masses of hair into said bag.

BloodiedGhouloshes Wed 30-Oct-13 23:28:26

Okay True story. we omnce had someone invite themselves to stay at our house for a bank holiday weekend because someone they knew was getting married. Said person hated cats. And made it clear. Loudly. Often.

Finally, I said 'you do know that this is the cat's actual home and you are just staying here for a weekend don't you?'.

Fucked me right off.

I have lots of stories about arsehole guests though.

AlpacaPicnic Wed 30-Oct-13 23:21:18

Cats gravitate to cat haters because cat haters tend to sit far away from the cat and not look at it. Cats think this is very polite, and prefer that kind of behaviour rather than cat lovers who try to befriend it by approaching and talking to the cat!

Plus, cats are assholes. Fact.

I has two kitties at home which I love very much but they can be assholes

hoobypickypicky Wed 30-Oct-13 23:20:59

Your colleague is ignorant. I'd have told them to leave. I hope at the very least your cat pissed in her handbag.

My late departed mog used to make a beeline for my grandad, who hates cats.

He once came round and Oscar decided to put his claws on grandad's knee and stretch. Which wouldn't have been quite as bad if grandad hadn't been wearing slacks... grin

UnicornsNotRiddenByGrownUps Wed 30-Oct-13 23:10:09

I'm super allergic and it's like the wee fuckers are suddenly assassins the way they know when to pounce and wrap themselves to death while your throat closes.

The cat owners who insist on your visiting and then shoo the cat out then 2 mins later leave a door open and the bloody thing is back again.

Then when they discover the cat being all like " ooooohhh silly bumpkins what are you doing here" <plus kissy baby type noises>.

Iv just stopped visiting, even for the 15 mins I could manage before.

Cats know they are in charge in their houses.

Bigfingers Wed 30-Oct-13 23:08:54

Totally think this person was a weirdo.

But, I don't get why you asked if they would prefer the cat to be in a different room, you didn't then close the door?

edam Wed 30-Oct-13 23:08:33

Your colleague is extremely rude. I do hope your cat pissed in their briefcase, or at least left plenty of hair over their clothes.

ExitPursuedByABogieMan Wed 30-Oct-13 23:04:59

Cos they are a superior intelligence.

Obviously.

Caitlin17 Wed 30-Oct-13 23:03:57

How do they instantly identify the cat hater? They all do it.

ScaryNutellaFangs Wed 30-Oct-13 22:57:35

The cat views said people as a massive challenge. Convert or be beaten into submission.

Your cat should have coughed up a furball into the bag.

PresidentServalan Wed 30-Oct-13 22:55:28

One of my parents' cats peed in a visitors handbag - the visitor had said how much she hated cats so I think he was trying to prove a point! grin

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