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To wish people would stop bragging about how well off they are?

(59 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Wed 30-Oct-13 18:03:52

It keeps happening...often by stealth. The worst culprits are those women who boast about their partner's promotion. ..well that's lovely dear but what about YOUR achievements?
Am I bitter and jealous? Yes as I sm struggling but next time anyone boasts about money im going to have a hissy fit. I might just say 'well im luvung off the tax payer and my unheritance' which is kind of true. Not proud of it...im dying to get a better paid job myself.

superstarheartbreaker Wed 30-Oct-13 18:04:33

Living....inheritance. sorry typos.

EmeraldJeanie Wed 30-Oct-13 18:05:53

Err well no boasting stealth or otherwise from me.
Nowt to boast about unfortunately....

vtechjazz Wed 30-Oct-13 18:09:21

I'd comment, but the butler is ringing the dinner gong.

CoffeeTea103 Wed 30-Oct-13 18:09:28

Where do you encounter these women op?

MrsDoomsPatterson Wed 30-Oct-13 18:09:35

MN may ot be the place for you then, superstar! Some people make it their life's work. Always the same people too.

Lilacroses Wed 30-Oct-13 18:10:10

I don't have any friends like this but my DB told me at the weekend about his awfully crass boss who kept sighing and moaning to himself during a meeting last week. When my DB asked him what was wrong he moaned "Oh, I'm in such a state.....I just don't know what to do with this spare 20 million, if I give it to the kids they'll be even more spoilt"!!!!!

superstarheartbreaker Wed 30-Oct-13 18:10:54

Vtec jazz...brilliant!

givemeaclue Wed 30-Oct-13 18:11:08

If this about the husbands job interview thread, he has an interview is all, not a promotion yet

marriedinwhiteisback Wed 30-Oct-13 18:11:39

Well it can be just as tiresome to hear how skint people are in a whine sort of way. A public forum has people from all walks of life and some posts or comments are simply statements of fact. It would be very boring if everyone was the same.

I'm having dinner with my best friend tonight. Her DH has just been promoted, she's just got a new car and her dd went up to Cambridge last month whilst my ds decided to defer uni for a year. I'm really pleaased for her and share her pride in her nearest and dearest. I'd be ashamed if I didn't. Envy is one of the deadly sins.

Tulip26 Wed 30-Oct-13 18:11:43

I was at a Halloween party last Saturday, listening to people brag about how much money they make. I struggle sometimes and they have brand-new cars and big f-off TVs. ARGH!

WhoNickedMyName Wed 30-Oct-13 18:11:49

Maybe you need to surround yourself with some different people.

superstarheartbreaker Wed 30-Oct-13 18:12:24

Mind you...I did have a stealth biast about my inheritance! ;-) not much of it though...wanted to put it towards a deposit on a house but was not enough.

superstarheartbreaker Wed 30-Oct-13 18:13:15

No not about threads on here...about real life people sadly.

Why is it so dreadful to post happy stuff for a change?
If I read a post about someone being excited about a promotion, I'd think that's nice, not how very dare she.

hoppinghare Wed 30-Oct-13 18:14:47

I don't see what is wrong with being pleased for your partner if they get a promotion. It is not anti feminist. I would expect men are equally pleased for their partners when they get promotions. Why should people not tell their friends the good things that happen? Why does telling someone your partner got promoted translate into boasting about money? Reading everything that people twist into something horrible on mumsnet would make you afraid to open your mouth. It seems some people see bad in everything everybody says.

AngelsLieToKeepControl Wed 30-Oct-13 18:15:06

Someone else being rich/promoted/whatever doesn't impact me at all. I'm skint most of the time but I'm still happy to hear when my friends are doing well. I assume you will tell people if you get a better paid job? It's natural to want to share good news.

LynetteScavo Wed 30-Oct-13 18:16:05

I've never come across this....one acquaintance did tell me her DH was well paid. Maybe they are saving it all, or maybe her idea of well paid is different from mine.

DH's boss comes out with some corkers...he's definitely not stealth boasting, just boasting. Or complaining - complaining that his brand new Aston Martin doesn't have heated seats. DH finds it funny.

WooWooOwl Wed 30-Oct-13 18:16:19

I think it's really sad that normal conversation is seen as boasting by jealous people. Why can't you just be happy for your friends, assuming these people are friends.

If my DH got a promotion I'd be proud of him, and if I mentioned it to someone else I'd think they were quite pathetic if they automatically assumed I was boasting. I'd rather listen to people, who were happy and proud of their loved ones, even if there was a small element of boasting, than people who were negative and felt sorry for themselves all the time.

MrsWolowitz Wed 30-Oct-13 18:16:49

I only know one person that can be a bit braggy and she is not popular at all. Boastfulness is very unappealing in a person.

I have very little cash and every month is a struggle. Sometimes it gets me down but I don't begrudge people having more than me.

I do begrudge people who feel the need to show off about their wealth though but, as I said, I don't really know any.

AmberDextrous Wed 30-Oct-13 18:17:01

I totally agree Katie
I love hearing good news and am genuinely pleased for people when things go well & they always are for me too smile
It's a nice way to be I think

Crowler Wed 30-Oct-13 18:17:51

Actually, I never hear people brag about how well-off they are in real life - only on MN. And only a select few here. I feel sorry for them.

azzbiscuit Wed 30-Oct-13 18:17:58

People who think they are something special because of their unearned (by them) wealth are rather sad and pathetic and should be pitied. The real worry is that the government (and opposition) are full of these types.

UsedToBeNDP Wed 30-Oct-13 18:18:07

It's ok to piss and moan about how skint you are but not comment if you're having a decent year/doing ok financially? You should just stfu and not talk about your life.

Mintyy Wed 30-Oct-13 18:19:18

I have only consistently come across this in rl from one person, who I considered a friend for a while. But now I've realised she is always incredibly smug and pleased with herself and I just dropped her don't see her any more. But that is one in hundreds, and I have many friends who have far more money than her too, tee hee.

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