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Nearly 12 year old trick or treating alone at night?

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Howsuper Wed 30-Oct-13 10:10:05

Sorry I know there are other similar threads at the mo but I really want opinions please - AIBU to let my son (12 in December) trick or treat with two friends from 6pm - 8pm?

He goes out on his own a fair amount and we are very relaxed about it - he is sensible, mature and has a phone.

The bit that's slightly bothering me is him walking home alone after leaving his friends - a 5/10 min walk. Urban area.

Whattya think?

Thesouthernwindisblowing Wed 30-Oct-13 10:16:56

Yabu. I hate trick or treaters. Two hours of annoying other people by asking for stuff.

In my opinion 12 is too old to be trick or treating.

I didn't let mine do it when they were that age.

SavoyCabbage Wed 30-Oct-13 10:22:03

I think he is too old, rather than too young.

CostaRicaToucan Wed 30-Oct-13 10:24:25

Too young with a walk home on his own in the dark afterwards.

Also hate Trick or Treating and hope mine don't notice this year <fat chance>

AngelsLieToKeepControl Wed 30-Oct-13 10:25:28

12 is too old to be trick or treating imo, especially if they are a few of them, I find it quite intimidating having older kids that I don't know showing up on my doorstep.

thebody Wed 30-Oct-13 10:26:08

3 near teenage boys knocking on doors could frighten and annoy older people. it would annoy me as they are much too old to be doing this really.

I would say no.

I think trick or treating should be for primary aged children, supervised by an adult. Knocking only at doors with a clear impression that trick or treaters are welcome (pumpkin, decorations etc)

Never knock at doors with no lights on, or knock more than once.

I have a 13 yr old and he will not be joining us.

My son is doing it and he's 13 but I think he's too old tbh. Plus he's tall! How do you stop them do you ground them?

Much nicer when it's cute little ones with their smiley faces and lanterns.

RoxanneReidsChafingFishnets Wed 30-Oct-13 10:27:01

I thought trick or treating stopped once you got to high school. Well it did when I was younger. I have had 15 year olds at my door and told them to get lost. They didn't even make an effort!

Howsuper Wed 30-Oct-13 10:27:52

Oh ok - I didn't even think of them being too old.

They are a nice bunch of kids and not rowdy etc, but I know what you mean.

Some people hate trick or treaters and older/non cute trick or treaters are even more annoying I guess.

I'm going to try to talk bribe ds2 into not doing it.

I agree he's too old....my DS is just 11 and I have told him he is too old....plus I would not let him be walking the streets on his own.

Freakin What do you mean? No, DS isn't grounded, but he isn't allowed out after dark anyway. I told DS1 that he would not be joining us the year he went up to secondary. He is now in charge of handing out the sweets to the little ones when they knock at our house.

The boys who are out unsupervised around our way are armed with flour and eggs and basically run riot.

As soon as they want to just wear a scream mask and mumble trick or treat, then it's game over!

GhostsInSnow Wed 30-Oct-13 10:44:42

I tend to answer the door until around 7pm, after that all the little ones are in at home and it tends to be the older ones. 12 is a bit old I agree and at that age mine were at home helping me make pumpkins and decorate for the little ones who visit.
DD is 16 and dresses up to answer the door to the small ones, she loves halloween and we still found ways to enjoy it, just not door knocking.

sydlexic Wed 30-Oct-13 10:44:49

We have DC of all ages, if they want to take part and dress up. DD is 27 and still does it. Households that want to participate put a pumpkin outside, those that don't don't.

I would let him do it if he wants to, invite the boys back to yours and then drop the others home, if that is possible.

HowlingTrap Wed 30-Oct-13 10:50:05

I think 12's borderline last time I ever went I was 14 grin

we got like 5 things and decided we were too old, lol

we were never rude or anything but teens are tarred with the same brush.

Erm, see I grew up in a small rural suburb and I walk home alone, but an urban area is possibly more risky?.

HowlingTrap Wed 30-Oct-13 10:53:03

tbh as long as they dress up,not rude, I don't mind

I'm a halloween liberal grin

Howsuper Wed 30-Oct-13 10:53:55

Thanks Howling - I don't know what's more risky really, walking home in busy, well-lit urban area but with small chance of mugging etc OR walking in nice, safe rural area but not having many people around and it being darker?

And yes we trick or treated as teenagers! But totally get why it would piss some people off.

SamU2 Wed 30-Oct-13 10:56:26

I am taking my 12 year old but he looks like 8.

I am not really comfortable with it so this will be his last year.

specialsubject Wed 30-Oct-13 10:58:07

time to hang up the Halloween begging bowl at 12. This game is for little kids in ghost costumes, supervised by grownups. And only at places where there are clear signs that the owners want to play.

AnyFuckerGotBunnywhacked Wed 30-Oct-13 10:59:15

No I would be dubious of letting my ds go round with friends he is 10 not really because of the saftey aspect but because I would imagine group of lads plus dark with no supervision and with the anonymity offered by a mask is going to turn out with them getting a bit daft.
We are not doing trick or treat this year as we have just moved and not sure about how things are done round here. We have some sweets in and netflix has a good supply of Shrek halloween and goosebumps to watch will pop up some candles and they can get dressed up if they want and hand out treats. Weathers supposed to be dreadful round our area anyway

Happy2b it's dark really early now though and your 13 year old stays in? I meant how do you stop a teenager from going trick or treating that's all. I don't know many who would stay in tbh.

I always give sweets to all ages. Money too until it all goes. Dp and I will be at a halloween party (adult one) so won't be here to hand out sweets but am hoping ds2 will just do it with his friend? I've bought a pumpkin to carve so will put that in the window.

In our village lots of teens do go out trick or treating that's why ds2 still wants to do it.

SybilRamkin Wed 30-Oct-13 11:55:08

12 isn't too old at all, as long as your DS and his friends are well-mannered.

Could you meet them at an agreed point to walk your DS home at 8?

Yeah, he does. We live in London and I just don't think it would be safe for him to be knocking about in the dark. He's allowed to go the shop in the dark, but that's it really.

He doesn't socialise with friends during the week really. Maybe just an hour after school each day, but then he's home for homework, chores, dinner, a bit of tv, and then it's time for bed. He meets with friends at the weekend, but is always home in time for dinner. So I don't really have the issue of grounding him.

He would rather go to the shop and buy some sweets than walk around in the dark knocking on doors asking for them. He has mentioned hosting a party, but maybe next year!

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