Am I bring a spoilsport?

(45 Posts)
WooWooCaChoo Tue 29-Oct-13 12:37:15

DP wants to do loads of fireworks in our garden for halloween and bonfire night, I've said a firm no.

1) we have just enough grass space but it's all overshadowed by lots of trees. There really isn't any bit of our garden that doesn't have trees hanging over.

2) next door has about 5 dogs and I know that at least 2 of them don't like fireworks, 1 of them is still young and hasn't experienced them yet.

3) DP isn't well known for his safety skills. He gets very excited around fireworks and thinks he is the exception to the rule.

So AIBU to say no? Him and his friend think I am.

ZingWantsCake Wed 30-Oct-13 10:05:41

it's not just men though.
I would have done the fireworks training if I hadn't been pg at the time!grin

Howsuper Wed 30-Oct-13 10:04:28

Love the big 'fag' no, DUCK!

Howsuper Wed 30-Oct-13 10:01:10

My dh is a nutter with fireworks - what is it with men and fire? So I'd probably try and put him off to save life and limb.

Surely you can't go to a local park and just let fireworks off as some have suggested??!

Re the dog next door, I'd just give them notice. There will be tons of fireworks that night so the dogs will have to suck it up!

OHforDUCKScake Wed 30-Oct-13 09:55:24

Big fag no.

Id not support that at all.

diddl Wed 30-Oct-13 09:54:46

If he's not safe I think that that answers it tbh.

ZingWantsCake Wed 30-Oct-13 09:51:02

also my husband does the fireworks at our kids school (and loves it of course) but he had to do a one day learning course.
The PTA paid for it as safety is paramount.

maybe he could do one as well and then he could do the fireworks at school.
he'd love it, kids would love it, PTA gets a bunch of money raised on the day (last year we had over a grand profit!) so win-win-win.

SatinSandals Wed 30-Oct-13 08:29:41

It has all the ingredients not to be fine!

intitgrand Wed 30-Oct-13 08:17:09

yes you are a spoilsport.It will be fine

SatinSandals Wed 30-Oct-13 07:30:27

It seems fairly simple to me, you have an unsuitable garden. You don't really need to go into the other factors because the fact that the garden is unsuitable makes it a none starter.

soontobeburns Wed 30-Oct-13 07:21:48

Whilst of course you do get illegal fireworks here, it makes me happy to know you need to buy a licence (£40 I think) here before you can get any.

We dont have bonfire night so not the same amount of people want them, but im glad they are really dangerous and stress my dog out too sad

So just to say OP YADDNBU

NoComet Wed 30-Oct-13 07:18:35

I love fire works and I hate dogs, so you are asking the wrong person thlwink

ZingWantsCake Wed 30-Oct-13 07:15:37

can you call a fire station and ask if they do safety assessment?

if he heard it from them that it is just not safe he'll shut up about it.
sorry, sometimes you need the "teacher" to sort it out. wink

livingzuid Wed 30-Oct-13 07:02:46

Alexa I cnnot believe you would say something so callous if you had seen the effect first hand that fireworks can have on dogs. Great respect to the op for taking that factor into consideration.

As to DH drunken in charge of fireworks is it wrong that image made me chuckle (what is it with men and fire and gunpowder driven antics?!)

LtAllHallowsEve Wed 30-Oct-13 06:44:44

I think you are very considerate OP. My friend has a number of dogs, one of which is absolutely petrified of fireworks, to the point of going into fits - foaming at the mouth, being sick and messing himself. Which may be fine if he was a handbag dog, but not so easy to cope with as he is an 8 stone Rottweiller. The last couple of years my friend has paid for him to stay actually at the vets on bonfire night, so he can be sedated.

Well done you! I wish you were my friends neighbour.

WooWooCaChoo Wed 30-Oct-13 06:33:04

Oh and also he would not be sober while doing these fireworks!

I don't mind what anyone else thinks really tbh, just wanted to see if I was massively unreasonable or just a bit. Thanks for your opinions.

"I can't see any reasonable person being angry and deciding they would no longer get along with their neighbour because they had some fireworks and their dog was upset. It's fireworks night. It will happen."

Halloween and Birthdays arn't "fireworks night", so just as a matter of courtesy, if your neighbours have pets, you should tell them that you are planning to set off fireworks.

My dog is very stressed by them, I would be happy to go out with my dog for most of the evening, or change my plans, as it is my choice to have a pet. I would like them to be considerate enough to let me know, as I wouldn't understand why they would not give a shit about distressing a member if my household, even if it is "just a dog".

I am setting off a few fireworks at my Mums, for my DD's Birthdays, I am letting the neighbours know.

The main issue that needs to be considered is the safety aspect, you need enough space to stand back, as well as overhanging trees etc.

trinity0097 Tue 29-Oct-13 20:46:09

We do a display through school and the exclusion zone from the setting off area is about 150m, even if home fireworks are smaller a small garden is no place for fireworks. There are loads of good displays around, you get far better displays that way!

hugoagogo Tue 29-Oct-13 19:17:25

YANBU
Fireworks should not even be on sale to the public imo.

harticus Tue 29-Oct-13 19:11:58

YANBU - fireworks are a pain in the arse.
Go to an organised do.
Safer, cheaper, more impressive and less anti-social.

Floralnomad Tue 29-Oct-13 17:49:58

If your garden is as described I think I agree with you as its a waste of money but TBH some of the funniest home videos we have are of my DH lighting ( or attempting to light fireworks) when my children were small , its been hysterical . I also wouldn't worry about the dog as he's going to hear fireworks be it yours or someone else's . My neighbour always has a garden display and my dog sleeps through it .

WooWooCaChoo Tue 29-Oct-13 17:42:36

Ok so a mixed bag of opinions here. I suppose some of the smaller ones would be ok, just no big whooshy ones as there really isn't the air space for them.

I just worry for his safety, he always thinks it will happen to someone else and not him. He's not safe with them, stands too close etc. maybe I'm just too much of a worrier!

I do think it would be unfair on our neighbour though, we get on really well and I'd hate to upset the dogs.

MrsApplepants Tue 29-Oct-13 17:39:03

Yanbu. Go to a display and buy him a packet of sparklers

SkinnybitchWannabe Tue 29-Oct-13 15:09:35

We have fireworks in our garden and go to the local display. Its great.
My db sets them all up and is very careful with them.
Have a look at the ones on sale..theres loads of smaller ones so your trees will be safe.

BigOrangePumpkin Tue 29-Oct-13 13:33:58

A massive YANBU from me too. I am absolutely terrified of fireworks though so I don't think you could pay me enough money to let DP set off fireworks in our garden!

edwinbear Tue 29-Oct-13 13:20:11

YANBU. I love fireworks and bonfire night, but the thought of anyone setting them off in my garden terrifies me as I worry about them going off in someone's face or setting fire to the roof/shed/next door neighbour's tree. We will take sparklers to an organised display which is far cheaper (fireworks cost a packet) and are far better quality being professional, display fireworks. When I remember my dad setting off the odd random catherine wheel, which spun round limply before falling off the fence accompanied by him muttering under his breath, I can't imagine schoosing a home display over a professional one.

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