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To be annoyed at DH for going to 5 stag doo's in 3 months?

(8 Posts)
LaQueenOfTheDamned Sun 27-Oct-13 21:23:42

Oh, I remember we had a year like yours. It seemed like every other bleddy weekend we were either at a wedding, christening or stag/hen do.

It was just crazy - and cost a fortune.

I remember driving through a pitch black New Forest, trying to find the hotel, where we'd been invited to attend the evening reception of a friend's wedding, and I was 8 months pregnant with DD1 and had raging heart burn and sciatica...luckily our room was beautiful, as I only managed a couple of hours at the do' before very gratefully retiring for the night, leaving DH to whoop it up until the wee hours.

I do remember thinking WTAF are we doing? And the room cost a bleddy fortune, too.

Xmasbaby11 Sun 27-Oct-13 21:16:23

Wow, that is an awful lot. Neither of us are big fans of hen/stag weekends and we don't often have a weekend away because we both value family time after working all week.

I know what you mean about wanting DH to want to see more of DD. I miss DD a lot when I work full time, and asked DH if he'd like to spend more time with her. He said no, he thought it was about right!

notanyanymore Sun 27-Oct-13 20:59:43

You shouldn't have missed the first night down to his bad foot! You're setting standards you expect him to follow but he won't. If he never gets to experience it from the 'other side' then he probably never will.
I'm afraid I do think YABabitU, but understandably so.

JeanSeberg Sun 27-Oct-13 20:57:44

These things come in phases though so hopefully that's it for a while.

You should have left him to manage when he had a sore foot and gone anyway.

Is all the expense causing any issues?

TheDoctrineOfAnyFucker Sun 27-Oct-13 20:55:45

Don't feel guilty - it's good for your DD to spend time with her dad.

Horispondle Sun 27-Oct-13 20:53:52

Well I didn't plan anything as TTC and naively I thought I'd be pg by now. But should maybe not put life on hold until actually get a BFP and get the diary out! Saying that, I find it really difficult being away from DD, I miss her and feel guilty (she's 2) and sometimes think its not worth it. I get annoyed that he doesn't feel the same way being away from us for the weekend.

TheDoctrineOfAnyFucker Sun 27-Oct-13 20:42:55

Have you arranged some weekends away for you?

Horispondle Sun 27-Oct-13 20:39:46

I know it's not his fault that all his friends are getting married in quick succession but I'm fed up amusing DD on my own whilst he has yet another full weekend of enjoying himself. He missed my birthday for one of them. Another one I put my back out and was stuck struggling with DD with no help all weekend. Any weekends he's not on a stag doo we are at a wedding! Both working full time in stressful jobs, TTC no 2, had 2 early miscarriages in 3 months and I just thought all of this added up might be exceptional enough circumstances for him to cancel or at least not go to the whole thing but no! In this time I've been invited to two hen doo's. one of which I missed the first night so I could put DD to bed before I left as DH had a sore foot. And the other I missed as I was ill. Just bad timing I guess but AIBU to still be pissed off at him?

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