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AIBU?

to consider taking 5yo dd to a panto on a school night (meaning an 11.30pm bed time)?

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LOLisNOTaPunctuationMark · 27/10/2013 20:15

DD really wants to go see a certain panto that's been advertised in the nearby city recently. It's all sold out pretty much for Dec (or only crappy seats left), but there's great seats (front row!) left for a few days in Jan. I thought it would be nice to take dd on her 6th birthday, (which falls during the first week of Jan) and was about to buy us some front row seats.

Her bedtime is normally 8pm. But the show starts at 7.30pm. Runs until 9.30pm. The next train home is 10pm. It won't get to our own town until 10.25pm. Then to get home is a 20 minute walk (or a 10-15 min wait on a taxi; they won't let you book in advance from a train station in case of train delays etc). So we won't get home until around 11pm.

Then the time she's washed and changed, she likely won't get to sleep until 11.30pm. She then has to get up at 8am for school.

Should i just leave it, or is it okay to do as a one-off? i know she'd really love the show. But i'd feel terrible keeping her up that late. She'd likely be yawning the whole next day at school.

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theoriginalandbestrookie · 27/10/2013 20:18

What's she like normally if she is up past bed time? As a one off I wouldn't think it was dreadful. Could you do it on a Thursday night - then she would only be tired for one day? Or could you not go on a Fri/Sat night in Jan?

littlewhitebag · 27/10/2013 20:19

I would do it as a one off. She will be tired the next day but will soon catch up on her sleep. It will be magical for her.

CMOTDibbler · 27/10/2013 20:19

Mine would be evil if kept up that late

5madthings · 27/10/2013 20:20

It's a one off treat, go for it.

popperdoodles · 27/10/2013 20:22

I would and have done one off treats like this. couple of early nights before and after, no problem.

GooFawkes · 27/10/2013 20:22

Depends on the child. At 5 DS would have been fine, DD would struggle, even now at 6.5

DS is in Scrooge at Mayflower Theatre in Southampton next month. We are taking DD but only on a Friday.

dexter73 · 27/10/2013 20:23

Go and then keep her off school the next day !!

heidihole · 27/10/2013 20:23

Would she sleep on the train for a bit too maybe?

LOLisNOTaPunctuationMark · 27/10/2013 20:25

Thanks for the replies. The Jan dates for the panto (with seats left) are Mon 6th, Tue 7th and Wed 8th.

They return to school from the Xmas break on the Mon. And then her birthday is the Tuesday.

She's normally fine if up past bedtime. She gets quite 'hyperactive' though when overtired, which will likely kick in on the way home/waiting on the train. I'm 100% sure her behaviour would be fine during the show so she wouldn't ruin it for others.

I'm just worried about her going into school with bags under her eyes and being a nuisance for her teacher!

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spongebob13 · 27/10/2013 20:26

go for it. its a treat. just expect perhaps an irritable child the next day. only thing is if she falls asleep on train are you expecting her to walk home then? you will prob end up carrying her. can ye bring a stroller and blanket?

MomentForLife · 27/10/2013 20:28

If it were my (5 year old) DD, I would go and I'd put her in a leggings and top type outfit so I could put her straight into bed once teeth cleaned when we got in. Get everything ready for the next day before you go to the panto and let her get up later than usual.

lookingfoxy · 27/10/2013 20:30

Yes I would do it as a treat.
Ds was about this age when I took him into the city for a show on a school day.
Had to call the school in the morning and say he was sick then swear him to secrecy!!
Had a fab day and 3 years later still remembers it.

chitofftheshovel · 27/10/2013 20:42

sure she will be fine, if it were my daughter (6) she would be fine the next day and a horror the day after that.

Book it and enjoy it, sounds like a fun birthday treat.

jellybeans · 27/10/2013 20:43

YANBU It's no big deal.

Floggingmolly · 27/10/2013 20:46

Yes, I would. There'd be a certain amount of grumpiness the next day from mine, that's a given, but not enough to offset the magic.

Artandco · 27/10/2013 20:51

I would. Could you not book a taxi home from the theatre? Save the walk/ train/ taxi or walk. Should be home by 10pm then surely?

teacherandguideleader · 27/10/2013 20:57

I'd go. Maybe give the teacher a head's up though so she/he knows your DD might be grumpy.

LOLisNOTaPunctuationMark · 27/10/2013 20:59

Thanks all. Think i'm going to go ahead and book tonight.

It would cost about £30 to get a taxi straight home, Artandco. Worth thinking about though, thanks.

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BakeOLiteGirl · 27/10/2013 21:10

I did this with my 5 yo last year and got back even later because we went to the post show press party. Special occasions are fine. Though I have an extremely liberal approach to parenting.

Gullygirl · 28/10/2013 00:43

I recently took my two to see "Stomp".We got home around 11pm.
The next morning,I did not wake them up at the usual time, just let them wake naturally and made our way to school,we were a little late but I had informed their teachers the day before.Both went to bed a bit earlier that night.
Hope you have a great time.

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