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AIBU?

to not want to take 2 single duvets with me when I visit SIL?

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cardamomginger · 26/10/2013 21:34

I'm visiting DH's family abroad in December and taking DD (age 3) with me. SIL has asked me to pack 2 single duvets in my luggage. I'm not that keen on the idea, but am prepared to be told that IABU.

My reasons for not wanting to do it are:
they will take up a lot of room, even if I vaccum pack;
we're flying Sleezyjet, who are fascists about luggage allowance, so no way can I go over limit;
I'm already taking over large amounts of chocolate, clothes for SIL, toiletries and some tupperware, so it's not like I'm not doing my bit already;
I've had serious injury and major surgery in the not too distant past and am still a bit wary of lifting too much, so I'd like to attempt to travel as light as possible.

DH thinks she's bonkers. But I'm feeling guilty. IABU if I say no?

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brass · 26/10/2013 21:37

do you have sleeping bags?

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TEErickOrTEEreat · 26/10/2013 21:38

Ship them ahead?

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Rotterwallah · 26/10/2013 21:40

Buy one when
You get there? If there's a primark equivalent or doesn't that happen abroad [sheltered]

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GirlsonFilm · 26/10/2013 21:40

Or buy two cheap ones once you're there?

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Scrounger · 26/10/2013 21:40

Get your DH to say no, I assume that your SIL is his sister. She sounds barking, I think it is barking to take duvets on a plane, a car yes, a plane no.

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INeedThatForkOff · 26/10/2013 21:40

Buy them there?

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Ghanagirl · 26/10/2013 21:40

YANBU, sounds like going camping, why does she want you to bring 2 duvets?
Where are you going? Might be easier to buy once you get there, although if she were a good host she would supply bedding for her SIL and small child!

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Coldlightofday · 26/10/2013 21:40

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haverer · 26/10/2013 21:40

YANBU. You'd be cheaper buying new ones rather than risk an easyjet excess luggage charge.

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CatAmongThePigeons · 26/10/2013 21:41

YANBU. That's a ridiculous ask of her plus everything else.

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cardamomginger · 26/10/2013 21:41

Sorry - they are not for me and DD to use when we are there! SIL wants them for her own household, specifically 2 of her sons!

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WestieMamma · 26/10/2013 21:41

Why not order them on Amazon to be delivered to SIL's house. Delivery is now free to lots of European destinations. I know this as I've just given my husband's bank card a right good battering

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CatAmongThePigeons · 26/10/2013 21:42

X post. Tell her to sod right off and order onlime. You're not a courier.

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TEErickOrTEEreat · 26/10/2013 21:43

She can't buy duvets where she lives? Confused

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cardamomginger · 26/10/2013 21:43

No Amazon delivery to this country (not Europe). She claims that John Lewis equivalent would cost her £100 over there. She might not be incorrect.

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Ghanagirl · 26/10/2013 21:44

Don't they sell duvets where she lived, still wouldn't take them along with other stuff she's "ordered" from SIL.netGrin

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BackforGood · 26/10/2013 21:47

Don't be ridiculous! Of course YANBU - well, the only way you are being unreasonable is that you are even considering it.
If she really hasn't got them, then ask her to buy a couple and tell her you will give her the money when you get there although if she tries to accept any money, then obviously charge her for the chocolate, toiletries, etc.

OTOH, you SiL IBU.

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WestieMamma · 26/10/2013 21:47

What country doesn't sell duvets? Where does she live? On Mars?

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BackforGood · 26/10/2013 21:47

x-posted with everyone Blush

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lottiegarbanzo · 26/10/2013 21:48

So just say no.

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Ghanagirl · 26/10/2013 21:50

Really keen to know where she lives, my inlaws live in Africa, they sell duvets there

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TEErickOrTEEreat · 26/10/2013 21:52

I want to know where Amazon doesn't ship to. I thought they covered the world.

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cardamomginger · 26/10/2013 21:53

They sell duvets, just the quality she wants is much more expensive than in the UK. I think it's also that she has a thing for M&S, John Lewis, etc.

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scarlettsmummy2 · 26/10/2013 21:53

Ask her to pay for you to check another bag in! Only £12 one way or something.

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HazeltheMcWitch · 26/10/2013 21:54

Tot up how much it would cost you in excess baggage charges - as you have no room left. Be sure to add on money for new bag, and taxi etc - as bags won't fit in your car Sad.

She'll be able to find cheaper in her country, I am sure.

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