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To not allow swimsuit stealing MIL to just 'drop in'

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fairy1303 Fri 25-Oct-13 10:19:14

Posted many times about MIL.

DSD lives with us full time and MIl very VERy OTT with her/us - she used to be at our house nearly everyday, would take washing home, without permission, took her swimsuit home, is just generally a nightmare.

She recently kicked me out of her car in the rain, told me I was a rude bitch and tried to drive off with DS.

Now, in the interests of civility we have been rubbing along ok, but we have barely seen each other.

DSD had a plastic dressing table thing. We bought her a new grown up one and are passing on the small one to her cousin.

It comes with various accessories, hair brush, pretend perfume bottle etc.
MIL has taken the dressing table to her house as she is seeing the cousin next week before we do.

She has left the lid (small, plastic) of one of the 'perfume bottles' here. She has described where it is. I am seeing her tonight.

She wants to 'pop over' on Tuesday to find it herself. I have suggested I just give it to her tonight when we see her. She is not happy with this, wants to come on Tuesday. I have explained that I have a friend over on tues, may be in and out, is not convenient. She wants me to leave a key out for her and feels I am being completely unreasonable.

Am I? I can't see it anymore as I am too embroiled!

Well done if you have waded through the tedium and got this far!

mineofuselessinformation Tue 29-Oct-13 21:55:17

YY, fairy, do tell him. If you don't know how to approach it, could you say to him there's something he needs to know but you want him to think about it before he reacts because you are not trying to cause trouble?
If you don't, I have a horrible feeling that this will come back to bite you on the arse.

littlecloud Tue 29-Oct-13 21:55:24

Read all your threads you are a bloody saint! She's a controlling loon! xx

littlecloud Tue 29-Oct-13 21:58:22

oh god sorry about the xx brain text mode blush

MusicalEndorphins Tue 29-Oct-13 22:49:24

I have been following your story/situation with your MIL. If I were you, I would tell your husband what she said. Actually, I would show him the text. A person needs to be fully informed in order to make educated decisions. Good luck.

Badgerous Wed 30-Oct-13 13:26:01

need to show him the text. DH didn't believe what his mother was up to until it was staring him in the face.

Hi fairy

I think you really do need to show your DH the text his mother sent to you. For one thing it will show him that you're not making any of this stuff up. If the shit hits the fan, it is all of her own doing and it probably wouldn't be a bad thing to have her visits limited to supervised visits where both parents are around and she isn't left alone with DSD. I understand that you want your DSD to have a relationship with her and I think you're the better person for wanting this.

Best of luck to you whatever you decide to do.

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