People who get frothy about removing pubic hair?

(98 Posts)
OoozingCervix Wed 23-Oct-13 20:29:32

I do get the whole pre-pubescent/pornstar thing.

but what about legs and pits?

Is that not the same argument?

Despite not really giving two hoots what other people do (and I know the whole shave/trim/plait thing has been done to death) but it confuses me.

gigglestar Wed 23-Oct-13 21:30:12

I've always gone for the 'totally hairless'. Can't stand pubic hair on myself or anyone else - i especially hate it on guys. I hate seeing loose bits of it lying round, stuck on towels, in the bath etc and i find it's a nuisance when i'm getting intimate with a man. Pisses me off when the 'au naturel' brigade say crap like 'but it's encouraging men to lust after childrens bodies (paedophilia)', i mean seriously?!!! That's just sick.....just like going down on a man and getting pubes poking your face and trying to get in your mouth. I've always asked my bf to trim it as much as possible if they don't want to go completely bare.

FreudiansSlipper Wed 23-Oct-13 21:36:05

well legs/underarms (if wearing vest like tops) are seen by many, your foofoo is seen by well not that many unless you are a porn star

WhoNickedMyName Wed 23-Oct-13 21:40:17

I don't get the 'looks pre-pubescent' insult that gets flung at those who choose to remove pubic hair.

I've never seen a pre-pubescent girl with boobs or women's hips.

Believe me, my body looks far from pre-pubescent with or without hair.

BouquetFanjo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:41:57

If I could I'd be hairless from my eyebrows down.

Body hair is just a nuisance. All of it.

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:43:48

I think its down to choice. I trim my ladygarden and shave my legs and pits but I am very aware that I do that to conform to society's view of what is attractive. I used to think that I did it because I like it but actually, thinking about it, if nobody ever shaved anything then I wouldn't suddenly have decided to have become the first ever person to start trimming and shaving parts of my body.

I would not find a pubic-hairlessness attractive in a man. At all. That's my preference though. DH shaved it all off for his vasectomy (he didn't realise he didn't need to be totally hairless hmm ) and neither of us liked it.

EdithWeston Wed 23-Oct-13 21:44:58

Legal and puts are visible in ordinary clothing.

Pubes aren't (well, for most people) so the arguments arene't the same.

Given that pubic depilation was virtually unread of a decade or so ago, then looking at what sexual fashions have changed is pertinent.

Pornification is the obvious reason. And yes, they are deliberately looking (other than in specialist breeder areas) at non-reproductive sex, which is associated with the hairlessness of prepubescence or post-menopause.

TheFabulousFuckingIdiotFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 21:47:04

Yes it's pretty much the same argument, what's your point?

We are conditioned to remove our hair, some remove more than others.
Genitals are particularly odd.

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:48:18

legal and puts grin grin

TheBookofRuth Wed 23-Oct-13 21:48:32

No eyelashes then Bouquet? grin

LEMisafucker Wed 23-Oct-13 21:50:23

My DP likes for me to shave "down there" simply because he doesn't like getting pubes in his mouth <true fact> I just do the important bit around my clit grin the rest is like a fecking jungle

LynetteScavo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:50:25

None of you will ever know what I do with my pubic hair.

That is between me and my DH. (And he, when it comes down to it, doesn't seem to care less what state it's in.)

KirjavaTheCorpse Wed 23-Oct-13 21:52:08

The whole thing confuses me. Why do people care about what I do with my pubes?

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 21:52:17

None of you will ever know what I do with my pubic hair.

I was waiting on the edge of my seat to know.

<deflated>

FortyDoorsToNowhere Wed 23-Oct-13 21:53:51

For me I don't like my Lady garden over grown, I prefer it bare.

can't stand the itch after so don't do it as often as i would like.

izzydazzling Wed 23-Oct-13 21:54:03

I'm probably in the frothy brigade. It really pisses me off that certain sections of the media (ok the D***y M**l) run down women who leave their hair au natural. Getting hysterical over hairy armpits? C'mon get a grip man!

LynetteScavo Wed 23-Oct-13 21:54:05

grin

DaleyBump Wed 23-Oct-13 21:55:43

This thread again.

Why can't everyone just agree to stop broadcasting their opinions about what other people do with their private parts?

2andout Wed 23-Oct-13 21:56:48

Have you not noticed that the pressure to change your body in order to be considered attractive largely falls on women? This is just yet another PITA (literally) bodily adjustment that is becoming accepted as 'the norm' for women. So we're all supposed to waste hours of our lives in the bathroom faffing with our foofs while all the (hairy) men just get on with running the world like they always have. Just a waste of time IMO that could be better spent on more important stuff.

Pooka Wed 23-Oct-13 22:00:20

How would you feel about this scenario then?

Relative has husband and 2 dds. The dds are 17 and 16.

Relative's H sees 17 yr old getting out of shower and exclaims that "there's a jungle there, go see your mother".

So relative takes 17 and 16 year old off to have laser treatment to neaten pubic hair.

THis is not in UK. It is absolutely true. The husband is quite into porn I understand.

I was absolutely gobsmacked when I heard. And very sad that this kind of pressure exists for young women to conform to some new trend for hairlessness. I worry about my young dd and the possibility that anyone might make her feel bad when she is older if she doesn't do hair removal.

How can I teach her that hair is normal and that she shouldn't feel under any pressure to remove pubic hair if she doesn't want to? I suppose I'm frothy because as hair removal becomes the norm, it takes away an element of personal choice because people generally want to fit in and not elicit a negative reaction in a sexual partner about an aspect of their body. And because I automatically remove underarm and leg hair (in summer) because I don't want people to go "ew" and if by the time dd is older it is the norm to remove pubes, it's yet another thing she will feel pressured to do to herself, and I want her to feel confident about her body.

I don't know if I'm making sense. If people want to remove hair then they can of course do that and I wouldn't judge. Their body, their choice. But the probelm is that personal choice can impact upon other people and im reslly unsure of how i can go about helping my dd be confident in her body.

GideonKipper Wed 23-Oct-13 22:00:21

EdithWeston on earth are 'specialist breeders areas'?

GideonKipper Wed 23-Oct-13 22:00:58

What on earth?!

AnyKormaFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 22:05:47

Do you think some where there is a forum full of men discussing shaving their pubes ?

I doubt it

MrsWolowitz Wed 23-Oct-13 22:06:44

Good post Pooka

GideonKipper Wed 23-Oct-13 22:07:21

I think the removal of leg and underarm hair is linked with femininity - it makes these areas look quite masculine with hair there. Agree with pp who said the shaved pubic area look has arisen in line with the prevalence of pornographic visuals, widely available on the Internet.

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