to wonder how......

(115 Posts)
NoWayNever Sun 20-Oct-13 09:37:47

......my neighbours, neither of whom work have managed to buy a brand new Honda! They have four kids, so I get they "need" a bigger car, but the car is only used for the school run.....to a school that is a twenty minute walk at the most!! Why is the state paying for that?? My DH and I both work and we have one child and we would struggle to buy a new car! Things like this make me unbelievably cross! Aibu??? Rant over!!

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sun 20-Oct-13 10:05:29

They need a big car to take the goat to the vets.

pictish Sun 20-Oct-13 10:09:18

Jealousy and resentment is a terrible thing to hang on to OP.
There are a number of ways their car may have been financed. You don't know how they have come by it, so there's no point being sour about it.

Example - we've got a brand new seven seater. Anyone could be forgiven for thinking 'look at their car - they're obviously doing alright' and make assumptions about it.
Actually - we're skint. Dh works for a motor group though (IT) and is in the company car scheme, which means that he (and other employees) drive demo models, which are up for sale as second hand cars...and the car gets changed every few months depending on when it gets sold . We never know what we're going to end up with. They are always brand new though. One time we had a (low end, basic model) BMW and our new neighbour was driven mad by loathing and jealousy, and ended up shouting 'Fucking brand new BMW eh? You fucking wanker!' at him when dh got out of it one night. confused
It's never our car...they get loaned out, and dh pays for the privilege...it costs roughly the same as running your own car.

Point being - you can't possibly know by looking at them, how they got their car.

And the most important point - jealousy demeans you as a person. You're not more deserving than they. You just think you are. Get over yourself. Think about how many people would give their eye teeth for what you have.
It's not a competition.
Get on with your own life.

MaryPoppinsBag Sun 20-Oct-13 10:09:18

Yes YABU.
When my DH was not working after being made redundant and I was on statutory maternity leave we bought a nearly new car. None of your business how we did it though.

fuzzpig Sun 20-Oct-13 10:09:24

I'm hoping to get a Motability car soon, I daresay that'll get people talking. I don't look disabled but I am.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 20-Oct-13 10:10:01

No we don't qualify. It's not so bad when it works, it's just winter when everything is delayed and traffic is worse. Luckily I don't have to take both kids often at moment but that will change.

My dp is unemployed at the mo after redundancy. I'd hate to think someone sat there questioning our expenses like the op is doing. If we bought a car with savings it would be for the kids, not to rub the working folks noses in it.

A car is pretty essential these days I wouldn't question anyone who got one regardless of how new it was. No one should have to buy an unsafe old banger and risk their kids lives just to keep nosy folks happy.

I hate it when people say 'Rant over!' makes me cringe. Uuurrgghhh.

What is 'unbelievably cross' ? Does that mean you aren't cross? Or that we shouldn't believe you are cross?
Why are you cross? If you are cross that is ..

LimitedEditionLady Sun 20-Oct-13 10:10:26

Might get me a horse,if theyll accomodate goats then think about what a horse would get?horses shit everywhere and noone gets fined or has to scoop it and they trot around on the roads where cars should be so i calculate id get a hummer at least....

YouTheCat Sun 20-Oct-13 10:14:47

Maybe they're selling drugs out of their shed to finance it?

OP it is none of your business whatsoever, what your neighbours spend their money on, whether it is money earned or benefits.

Times are hard and not everyone has the luxury of a job right now.

FacebookWanker Sun 20-Oct-13 10:15:47

Do people like starting these threads just to wind people up?

ringaringarosy Sun 20-Oct-13 10:16:12

cars arent really a marker of if you have money or not.

arethereanyleftatall Sun 20-Oct-13 10:21:14

Op, of course you're not being unreasonable to be frustrated by this. Millions upon millions upon millions of people in the UK agree with you. Just not the MN contingency I'm afraid.
Am also interested that other posters seem to know more about your neighbours than you do.

Preciousbane Sun 20-Oct-13 10:21:55

My brother has a terminal illness so has a very nice looking Nissan that is through the motability scheme. It is lovely, he drives to hospital to get full dialysis three times a week and to his allotment that is really only about a fifteen minute walk. He can't actually work on his allotment anymore and just sits looking at his plot.

He will probably be dead this time next year, he actually looks quite robust though he isn't.

Stop curtain twitching.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 20-Oct-13 10:24:37

precious thanks sad

Tweasels Sun 20-Oct-13 10:26:17

"Millions upon millions upon millions of people in the UK agree with you"

Millions upon millions upon millions of people in the UK don't even know about the OP's neighbours new Honda so how can they possibly agree with her?

Yet we are criticised for "knowing more about your neighbours than you do"

Ridiculous post.

NotYoMomma Sun 20-Oct-13 10:27:18

my new car is sooooo cheap. £20 a year tax

averaging 60mpg (round the doors! we got 70 on a long run!)

we had a little deposit our part ex, some savings, some shares and took out a loan for the rest

we are stilo better off

yab jealous, nosey and bitter

YouTheCat Sun 20-Oct-13 10:28:40

Arethere, so much compassion. hmm

We didn't qualify for motability for ds but if we hadn't had a car he would never have left the house other than to get the minibus to school as he was too much of a danger to himself to walk anywhere.

I'd say millions upon millions are more concerned with their own finances than other people's and couldn't care less.

MokuMoku Sun 20-Oct-13 10:28:42

Why don't you ask them?

NotYoMomma Sun 20-Oct-13 10:28:54

oh and it wasnt new, it was an ex demonstrator with 5k miles but it was 12 plated ratherthan 62 but thats New enough loo

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 20-Oct-13 10:30:41

The op says it's only ever used for the school run. So they aren't even driving around all day funded by tax payers. They are using it sparingly as needed.

It's not a huge leap to assume maybe one or all if the kids is adversely affected by loosing the extra allergic time, or thy one can't manage the walk.

It's a deliberate bitter, shit stirring post.

tolittletoolate Sun 20-Oct-13 10:30:43

I expect the reason that they don't work is that one of them is disabled and it's a motability car.
Try and have a look at their tax disc and see if it's exempt.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 20-Oct-13 10:31:46

Allergic?? Ffs sleep time. Fat thumbs blush

YouTheCat Sun 20-Oct-13 10:32:24

Even if it is a motability car, I'm sure the OP will accuse them of defrauding the system and not needing it. hmm

tolittletoolate Sun 20-Oct-13 10:32:55

I'm hoping to get a new motability car and my dh will be getting a new company car next year too, 2 brand new cars on the driveway then, that will get the neighbours talkinggrin

Preciousbane Sun 20-Oct-13 10:34:19

Thanks Giles

I agree that one of the dc probably has a hidden disability hence school run use.

GastonTheLadyBoy Sun 20-Oct-13 10:34:54

A DLA car?

Do you know for sure they don't work? Could work from home.

Stop worrying about what others are doing and how they're doing it and concentrate on your own life. You'll feel so much better.

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