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to wonder if everyone elses children really did receive a perfect parents evening report (as posted on facebook)

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grumpalumpgrumped Tue 15-Oct-13 21:58:47

Parents evening season and my news feed is full of 'well done little johnny a perfect parents evening'. AIBU to wonder if I'm the only one to get a good but not perfect report for my DS?

Feeling a bit fed up and dare I say it a little disappointed (DS report was not bad at all just honest and I can see what they were saying is about right)

Not sure why it bothers me, just trying to gauge if I'm a terrible mother!

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos Tue 15-Oct-13 22:01:10

I always wonder this, too (especially knowing the child in question!!).

I only remember the good bits of parents evening. grin

EndoplasmicReticulum Tue 15-Oct-13 22:03:08

I won't. Not that I'm getting to go, I'll be at work.

grumpalumpgrumped Tue 15-Oct-13 22:03:19

Twoandtwo there is that too!

shallweshop Tue 15-Oct-13 22:06:15

YANBU - I think the ones that boast too much have the most to hide!

AuntySib Tue 15-Oct-13 22:08:23

Think it's a bit weird to be putting things like that on FB.

SweetSkull Tue 15-Oct-13 22:09:47

Had my friend over after school and she still trying (it has been 3 years now) to make me move my child to her child's school because her school is so much BETTER. Both are outstanding by the war, however hers is Catholic and they have a much formal uniform and, and more strict uniform policy. She is even willing to fake my signature on the church I don't attend.

Sorry, totally off your OP but it makes me mad. I needed to vent.

puntasticusername Tue 15-Oct-13 22:10:06

There is an inverse law that operates in these situations. Those who boast the most are those who feel, for whatever reason, that they have the most to compensate for. Happy and secure people seem to do much less of that.

grumpalumpgrumped Tue 15-Oct-13 22:10:29

Aunysib this is the least weird stuff. Need to step away from Facebook I think!

grumpalumpgrumped Tue 15-Oct-13 22:12:36

sweetskull you rant away! That would give me rage too.

SatinSandals Tue 15-Oct-13 22:14:40

I agree with puntastic and you can put it down to insecurity.

2468Motorway Tue 15-Oct-13 22:18:41

If the kids are little-ish I think that the teachers really try to emphasize the positive. So unless your kids turns into the hulk/naughtiest girl in the school there are always some good bits to focus on.

I do however hate fb boasting so unless your kid won Olympic gold or a Nobel prize just post to your family.

Fakebook Tue 15-Oct-13 22:18:49

I'm new to this school parents evening malarkey, but I can safely say that people lie blatantly and unashamedly.

Last year I saw on Facebook how one of Dd's school friends got all "outstanding" in her report and that the teachers were all so happy about how she was exceeding beyond expectation at the end of Foundation in EVERY SINGLE AREA.

This year the same girl is apparently in the middle set for phonics and is getting the easier word search homework every week whereas dd is getting the harder reading and questions and writing homework.

I don't know why people would do this. I would never write about parents evening or school reports on fb. As far as I'm concerned its private information between the teacher, the child and the parents. No need to boast about it, unless they've just got a place in Oxbridge or something. I like reading accomplishments like that.

xuntitledx Tue 15-Oct-13 22:19:23

At the end of last term, my step kids brought home their school report and whilst it wasn't perfect they'd done very well and had good scores.

That night however, their mother posted a Facebook status about "perfect scores across the board" confused

Such a strange thing to lie about (given that the kids also have access to Facebook) as it detracted from what they'd actually achieved - which was good and something to be proud of!

BlackeyedSusan Tue 15-Oct-13 22:19:35

ds got a lovely parents evening report from the teacher. however, sneaky peek in the classroom and it is obvious that he is in the bottom group for everything. the teacher has not changed the grroup names since dd was in that class!

SaucyJack Tue 15-Oct-13 22:20:05

IME teachers only say nice things at parents' evenings these days anyway. Even the bad things are given a positive spin- for ex. my DD1 is a "strong personality" who likes to "express herself creatively" (she's a awkward little sod who likes to draw on her arms). It's PC gone mad.

Not like the good old when you'd be hiding under the bed quivering waiting for your mum to get home from seeing your teachers.

CocktailQueen Tue 15-Oct-13 22:20:19

Agree with facebook!

We won't! Will probably be told that DS needs to shut up from time to time and that he is generally ok. The "I am so proud of Schnookums (or what ever) for such a stunning report. We are filling in the Oxbridge forms as we celebrate" type status is why I no longer FB.

CoconutCake Tue 15-Oct-13 22:21:25

I think most schools put positive slants on for parents evening, if there were problems you would be called in to discuss it not get it thrown at you in your 10 minute slot with others waiting.

My dc's reports are always amazing and always make me so proud I actually well up with tears, maybe because I'm a single mother and not in a very well paid job when I hear my dd is top 3 in her year (2 classes) in every subject or my ds has improved amazingly on his reading, or they talk about the stuff from outside they've brought in (leafs and conkers ect) I feel this amazing pride in them and a big fuck you to the naice sort mums that look down on me. That's also why I probably put it on fb I dot have a partner to talk about it with so I put it on fb so my mum and sister and all my friends know.

CocktailQueen Tue 15-Oct-13 22:21:30

Fakebook, sorry.

Also, teachers are 't allowed to say anything negative about kids at all these days. Huh.

I don't get this at all.

Who gives a shit how your little prince or princess <boak> did anyway?!

DS got a great end of year report (parents evening hasn't happened yet here) and I had one friend who was quite aggressive about wanting to see it, all the while boasting an obscene amount about Little Johnny's report.

DS happened to do better at that time but I kept my mouth shut about it.

I know how he did and how proud I felt. Nobody else needs to hear about it

FortyDoorsToNowhere Tue 15-Oct-13 22:22:55

I have never had a perfect parents evening, it always creates more issues than solves.

For me a perfect parents evening would be to go in and DS hitting all his targets on his ILP.

Dd is in reception so yet to have one ( it's coming up though)

Oh should have made it more obvious- or children are all in KS2. If your DC are in 6th form and heading to Oxbridge/ boast away!! grin

MerylStrop Tue 15-Oct-13 22:23:27

Hide them. Hide the insecure braggers. Them and the people who "like" Tesco.

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