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AIBU to think I got dumped?

(69 Posts)
DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:22:37

Feeling pissed off so bring it on AIBU.

Been dating for 3 months. Last time I saw him was last Wed/ Thurs morning. Thurs eve sent him a text apologising (leaked in his mattress) and saying to let me know about the next (now this) week.

Usually would've heard something by Mon the latest. Nada. So Tues eve I texted: 'Oh dear, not even a text this week... X'. He read it an hour later at 8pm. Nada.

This morning I sent a pissy text that if he doesn't want to speak to someone than maybe let them know, esp. If they (I) are the people who like him.

At the beginning he was more into me and after a while I thought, yeah let's give it a go. So I thought we were on the same page.

He is extremely busy at work and has different sports in the evenings, which makes me pissed off he manages to do everything but spare 10 secs to text me.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:24:07

Ah, also I'm coming off Sertraline and now thinking it might be clouding my judgement. hmm

DidoTheDodo Thu 10-Oct-13 13:24:36

Step away from the texts. Don't contact him.
"Busy" is no excuse.

Dillydollydaydream Thu 10-Oct-13 13:26:11

Doesn't look good if he's usually quick to reply to texts usually?

DSM Thu 10-Oct-13 13:26:23

Yeah, sorry to confirm your suspicions but he isn't acting well at all.

What an arse for not even texting back though. No contact from him at all in a week, and you've sent a series of messages? Not a good sign.

Sorry... sad

WorraLiberty Thu 10-Oct-13 13:26:52

What is it with people texting?

Does no-one ever talk any more?

You should have just rang him. For all you know, he might have lost his phone and someone else might be reading the texts.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 10-Oct-13 13:26:53

When you say 'leaked on his mattress' what do you mean?

I would leave it, he obviously isn't planning on contacting you again.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:27:03

Shouldn't have texted this morning, I know. Phone call would be better. He has, well had been pretty good up till now.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:29:02

Period. I took out the mooncup to have sex and must have leaked then. I was only spotting due to ill chosen pill, didn't think it would leak. He said not too worry.

EllaFitzgerald Thu 10-Oct-13 13:46:00

Definitely don't text him. He was able to text you before, so if he wanted to, he'd be able to text you now.

Sounds horrible, but I think you may be flogging a dead horse sad

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:47:53

Why not just let me know????

Twat.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Thu 10-Oct-13 13:49:06

Oh ok, that isn't something I would think to apologise for tbh, it isn't like you got drunk and pissed in the bed!

I really would just leave it, he's not behaved well and you don't need people like that in your life.

Rosencrantz Thu 10-Oct-13 13:50:50

2 texts in a row, to a guy that doesn't want to date you, looks very needy.

He's not being direct about not wanting to see you any more because he's a coward and doesn't want the confrontation/awkward conversation.

Pack up and move on.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Thu 10-Oct-13 13:51:41

That's a shame sad However, better to know now - 3 months in - than 3 years in, that he's an idiot.

Mind you - do you 'facebook'? Has he been on there/been at work - I guess we need to know that he's still alive and not in hospital to be totally sure he's an idiot!

Beccagain Thu 10-Oct-13 13:55:12

Yep, frustrating isn't it? Twat indeed. Let him go: you're missing nothing even if he has a dick like a baby's arm

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 13:56:24

Maybe needy but I don't think it's unreasonable to first assume someone who you've been seeing every week for the last 3 months to still be in contact with you. I thought maybe he still had family problems as before and was pre-occupied with it. Now I know. Why wanting to get a clear answer is seen as needy. We were going out, we liked each other (or so I thought) and something must have happened last time that made his mind up.

So keen on honesty, that one hmm

MDK Thu 10-Oct-13 14:06:44

WorraLiberty Thu 10-Oct-13 13:26:52

What is it with people texting?
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I was thinking the same OP - guys react better if you call, texts are emotionless garbage even with smileys in them and can be misinterpreted quite easily. In the future forget texting, IM or e-mail and speak to them.

Biggest problem I had in the past with girlfriends was them playing coy and texting then assuming I was "OK" with the whole mind games / subtle bullshit, I'm a guy, I like to know where I stand, not be messed around and I'd drop them in an instant if I thought that was happening. I was always honest with them, I expected it back. No mind games no huffy silences and not "leaving her hanging".

If someone won't speak to you then chances are they don't want to put their winkie in your foo foo.. if you get the idea. But at least you'd know and be able to move onto someone who deserves your time and effort.

and foo foo access rights.

Nancy66 Thu 10-Oct-13 14:14:44

Doesn't look good.

Very cowardly to not even have a conversation with you about it but not that unusual either.

Stop contacting him and write this one off.

Bottom line: if a bloke is interested he finds time for you.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 14:25:12

It's just the double-faceness of that. I came to his, brought dinner, he was so knackered but perked up a bit, said wasn't getting 'love' from me (affection to you and me). I did when I came in but he was so glum so I stopped.

MrsLouisTheroux Thu 10-Oct-13 14:43:44

Usually would've heard something by Mon the latest. Nada. So Tues eve I texted: 'Oh dear, not even a text this week... X'. He read it an hour later at 8pm. Nada.

Sarky texts like that don't make you look good but if he's avoiding you because of his bed, he's an idiot. Forget him.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 14:46:01

The worst thing is that he proved me right. He was saying: not all men are like that. Yep, he just wasn't obe of the exceptions.

DSM Thu 10-Oct-13 14:48:03

Is he single?

DrinkFeckArseGirls Thu 10-Oct-13 14:50:26

It wasn't a sarky text.

Yes, single but maybe wanted to have sex with someone else. Who knows. And I know him professionally too. Always making out he's such a great bloke.

jaffajiffy Thu 10-Oct-13 14:53:51

Do you have iPhones? There's a bug with ios7 and iMessage. My DH can no longer send me iMessages, only texts.

It's his only hope; otherwise, it doesn't look good.

DidoTheDodo Thu 10-Oct-13 14:55:12

Is he single?
He is now.

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