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Aibu - raging at cost of kids dance show

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Right. I'm in shock and need others to give me perspective on this. Dd is yr1 and ds preschool. They both do a street dance class on a Saturday morning for 45 mins and love it.

All good so far. There was a meeting tonight to let parents know information about the end of year show that the dance school put on. Probably should mention they also do ballet, jazz, disco etc etc.

Anyway, they hire a local theatre on a Sunday in July. The kids need to be dropped off at 9 am and picked up after last performance at about 10pm. They have school the next day. We have to pay £100 per child for costumes, £50 each for extra rehearsals ( 4 Sundays in May and June) and then pay for a ticket to watch shock

I'm absolutely stunned at the money they are expecting us to fork out! And at the expectation on kids that young to be all day without parents backstage waiting for their bit in the show...

Is this seriously the norm? I'm really really strongly thinking of not letting them take part. Aibu????

NK493efc93X1277dd3d6d4 Wed 09-Oct-13 21:24:46

It does sound like a lot of money at that age, presumably it is for a few costumes. It can be an expensive hobby once they are older but at this age I would expect them to wear their usual leotard with perhaps a mask or a skirt to convey the theme. Perhaps you could ask what it is they need & then try and make them yourself.
The extra lessons thing happens all the time, before festivals & exams. The amount will depend on the number of children involved as the cost gets split between them but again that sounds a lot for ones so young who generally practice in their normal sessions.

That sounds insane! And 10pm on a school night? Mad!

Ziggyzoom Wed 09-Oct-13 21:38:42

DD's do something similar. There is no charge for extra rehearsal time. You provide your own costumes which are simple and cheap to put together. They rehearse from Lunchtime on Saturday for the evening performance then arrive just before the Sunday matinee. Tickets cost about £5 IIRC.

YANBU, that set up sounds bonkers!

AngelsLieToKeepControl Wed 09-Oct-13 21:40:27

My dd does street dance. her show is in April, I pay £25 for the costume and a trophy and certificate after, there are 4 shows they do over the weekend and the rehearsals are during their normal dance class. She gets dropped off an hour before each show and picked up directly after, on the Saturday when there are 2 shows she gets dropped at 11, picked up at half 2, dropped off again at 6 and picked up at half 9. They don't keep them there for that long a day.

She has another show in London in April, I think all in all I will pay about £100 for that, that's for 2 extra hours rehearsal per week for a couple of months, the costume and transport there and back.

Your dance school seems pretty extortionate to me.

cardibach Wed 09-Oct-13 21:40:33

How many people could suddenly find an extra £300? THat's outrageous. If it is the norm, that is even more outrageous! It can't possibly cost that much.

CaterpillarCara Wed 09-Oct-13 21:41:20

There will be costs for added sessions, costumes and theatre hire. But the amount you are being asked to pay sounds extortionate.

My DD was in a show in July and the costumes were fantastic. We paid £15 each plus £20 for three tickets to the show. I thought that was fair. She was there from 2 pm - 9 pm. I volunteered backstage as I didn't want her alone when tired. It was also a Saturday!

CaterpillarCara Wed 09-Oct-13 21:42:02

£20 total for three tickets, not £20 each!

FloraDance Wed 09-Oct-13 21:45:38

Ours is a cost of £10-20 per number that you sign up for, which covers all extra rehearsals and costumes. There is an option for those 6 and under to only do the matinees.

fuckwittery Wed 09-Oct-13 21:50:53

Oh god, let me tell you about our dance show which doesnt even sound as bad as yours but I pulled DD out of ballet afterwards.
50 quid costume, 20 quid pp tickets including had to buy a ticket for dd2 who was only just over q, she was not allowed to sit on my lap for "health and safety". Videos, photos forbidden and taken professionally, available to buy at great expense. Plugged in the classes after the show incl to the kids.
Great pressure for parents to help out at th show, a little lecture given to us at pick up in the classes leading up to the show about how unfair and disappointing it was that not enough parents had signed up etc. Ended up having to call in big favours to get dd2 looked after so I could help backstage, 10am to 5pm x 2 days. We had a full day dress rehearsal and 2 full days as they were doing two shows saturday and sunday. Dire warnings given about not bringing your child to both days to discourage parents watching the saturday show and not showing up to the sunday showmor vice versa.

Got backstage on the rehearsal day, to see the running order. The dance teacher ran loads of classes on different days, and the show was just meant to be for the lower school. However, she had used it to showcase loads of the older classes, her daughter did a solo, oh, and a duet, and the older (teenage girls) had several costume changes. My daughter was a mouse, I could have made the outfit for about 5 quid, and she was on stage for a total of less than 3 MINUTES. I know this as the exact time of her classes routine was on the running order. She basically came on, pretended to be a mouse, waved madly at us in the audience and skipped off again. And that cost us 110 quid and 3 full days of weekend, and that's without buying the photos and videos.

Honestly, if you can get out of it now, do. You may need to pull kids out of classes now though as they practised for about 2 terms.

THere were however loads of parents looking after kids backstage, but expect to be asked to be one of them!

dancemom Wed 09-Oct-13 21:54:57

You are to pay £100 for just a street dance costume? Your lo don't do the ballet or jazz or anything else?

£50 street dance costume and £25 each for opening act and finale

pigletmania Wed 09-Oct-13 22:28:46

I would be unhappy with it being all day for children so young, ludicrous. The cost. Way over te top for a bit of fun, it's not a full on dance competition. I pull te dcs participate in that!

pigletmania Wed 09-Oct-13 22:30:15

13 hours for 5/6 year olds and 3/4 year olds without parents is just too much and not on!

alemci Wed 09-Oct-13 22:35:58

seems very expensive. I think I paid around £32 for 2 costumes for 2 dd doing jazx dance

RaspberryLemonPavlova Wed 09-Oct-13 23:10:16

DD did ballet, and we were never charged for costumes, or anything extra for the shows, just our tickets. School also does tap/modern. They only do a show every 2 years.
They just did one performance, which I think finished about 8.00. Little ones came to rehearsal first thing, and left at lunch time.

Letitsnow9 Wed 09-Oct-13 23:32:56

Many years ago when I was in dance shows, the little ones performed quite early on and then didn't stay for the finalie like the older ones did. I would enquire as your 2 children are only in 1/2 dances unlike those who do lots of different styles if they could give you a rough time they will be rehursing your child's bit

Scarifying Thu 10-Oct-13 01:06:15

YABU, If you consider letting your kids do this. grin

YANBU for thinking that is a crazy amount of money.

MellowandFruitfulSnazzy Thu 10-Oct-13 01:11:15

How much?? Ask them if it's spun from gold thread or what? Seriously ask them exactly what the costume is so you can see whether it's going to be something obtainable at a lower cost.

NoComet Thu 10-Oct-13 01:12:00

Yikes
DDs ballet teacher doesn't charge for costumes or extra rehearsals. Tickets are about £8 and DVDs and photos are sold after. Also there might be a coffee morning or a toy or plant sake before to raid money, but nothing like £150!

Groovee Thu 10-Oct-13 07:57:24

shock how much? My dd used to do ballet and flamenco. The only extra rehearsal was on the morning of the first show. We paid about £6 per adult and £4 per child. The photo's were never more than £20. Hire of costumes was around £4 to pay for them being cleaned afterwards. DVD was about £15.

There's a small tuck shop and the 2 schools come together and the show is about 3 hours but they always put the under 5's first so they can leave early.

cashmiriana Thu 10-Oct-13 08:12:12

Far too much. But I know the local ballet school is like that.

My DDs' dance school (freestyle, Latin, R&R, street) do shows in a very sensible way. Show class is extra to exam classes. You pay for show class each week over about 6 months (£2.50 per week). The fees from show class pay for the costumes, the hire of the hall etc. Costumes then belong to the dance school and not the individual children, so there is a bank of stock items e.g. different coloured leotards, leggings, R&R skirts and neckerchiefs etc. It works really well and the teachers will lend costume items for exams, local displays etc. The tickets are £5 - £8 each and the whole show is staged at a very small local professional theatre with quality music but limited backdrops and staging, so the focus is on the dancing.

My girls love doing them but their teachers limit it to every 2 - 3 years as it is such a huge job and the commitment needed is vast.

It's madness isn't it? I think I'm going to phone Tom speak with the owner. Imagine the pressure this is putting some families under? I think it's a disgrace

JGBMum Thu 10-Oct-13 09:13:41

DDs dance school does a show every 2 years. She will dance in about 6 numbers, all costumes are loaned from the school, free of charge.
All extra classes and rehearsals are free.
The school hires the civic hall for a week, has dress rehearsals on the Sunday and Monday -little ones do one dance near the start - they are then picked up by parents.
On show nights, they are on early on, then can go home, or join parents to watch the second half of the show.
Tickets cost about £8. DVD and professional photos available if you want them.

Mind you, the school is very good about keeping costs low all year round, so for example, they only need to wear the official dance leotards and satin shoes for exams. You hire these from the school for £3. During classes the girls still look very smart in black leotards, leather ballet shoes, tights, hair in bun etc.

BakeOLiteGirl Thu 10-Oct-13 09:14:23

It sounds kind of normal to how I remember dance school shows put on in a professional theatre. It's really part and parcel of being in it. The late nights aren't really a big deal for a week.

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