to take new baby to work meeting?

(83 Posts)
ShadowFall Wed 09-Oct-13 14:40:41

I'm off work on maternity leave at the minute, having recently given birth to DS2.

I've just had a call from one of the project managers at work, asking me to come into the office for an important meeting about his project. He knows I'm on maternity leave, but he wants me to come in anyway.
Apparently the meeting should just take "a couple of hours", but knowing the project, it wouldn't surprise me at all if it overran. Project manager has offered to reschedule the part of the meeting most relevant to me (but by no more than 2 weeks) if the short notice is a big problem for me.

Going into the office without DS1 isn't a problem, as this meeting's scheduled for one of his nursery days, but not taking DS2 is a much bigger problem.

DS2 will be just over 4 weeks old when this meeting's scheduled, and I'm breastfeeding him. We had a very rocky first week with the breastfeeding, and although we're doing much better at it now, it can still take a while for DS2 to get properly latched on and start feeding. I'm very reluctant to try introducing him to a bottle this early - or even at 6 weeks old - in case it throws his breastfeeding off. And I can't leave him for a couple of hours with a babysitter if they've got no means of feeding him.

So, WIBU tell the project manager that I'm only going to attend his meeting if I can take DS2 along, so that I can breastfeed him if he gets hungry? When I know fine well that project manager wants a meeting with no children present?

My line manager is off work today, so no chance to talk this through with him until tomorrow at the earliest. No idea if line manager knows anything at all about project manager's important meeting requirements yet...

IHaveA Fri 11-Oct-13 14:27:52

It depends on the culture of the business, I was happy to go in with my baby because my organisation was very supportive of me and all the other employees. It was a two way thing. It was useful for them to have me come in but I think it benefited me too.
I wouldn't have gone in if they were grabby gits.

Inertia Fri 11-Oct-13 14:31:13

They shouldn't be asking you to go in at all.

Second the previous posters who have suggested an email response , copying in your line manager and HR.

I'd put something like:

Dear Project Manager,

I am currently on Maternity Leave so will be unable to attend your meeting on [date]. Please contact [Line manager] or [maternity cover] to arrange for a colleague to attend the meeting.

If you need to contact me in future, please use [email or whatever is most convenient] rather than my personal phone number, which is not publicly available.

ShadowFall Sat 12-Oct-13 13:40:02

Further update - line manager rang me back late yesterday afternoon.

He had not known anything about project manager's meeting, and his response was very much along the "WTF is he doing calling you when you're on maternity leave?!" lines.

Line manager has instructed me to tell project manager to f* off if he calls me again, tell him (line manager) if project manager calls again, and to forward him the meeting request so that he can give project mananger a bollocking on Monday.

Apparently any meeting requests to people on maternity leave should be approved by senior management and communicated through line management structures.

So, no meeting for me! I get to stay home guilt free with my snuggly baby grin

Hurrah for line manager.

Wish we could be a fly on the wall for that conversation though shock

TheDoctrineOfSpike Sat 12-Oct-13 14:02:33

Excellent!

WoTmania Sat 12-Oct-13 14:38:07

grin

comingalongnicely Sat 12-Oct-13 14:45:54

Fantastic!!

Beastofburden Sat 12-Oct-13 15:26:54

As I thought....

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