to be really exasperated at OH being mugged tonight?

(125 Posts)
owhatashambles Wed 09-Oct-13 00:39:44

He lost his wallet, his phone, cash. Second phone lost in a month. Can't help thinking he gets himself into these situations. He is not auditioning for Jeremy Kyle as far as I know but meant to be a mature professional. Guess who has to clean up the mess - cancel the card, cancel the phone, replace said cards and phone? Oh and be parent and hold down a pretty stressful job. Just want to scream rather than offer sympathy. Well I will make soothing noises as soon as he's back but am not impressed. Evil woman.

JaneFonda Wed 09-Oct-13 00:41:03

Wow.

Sorry OP, but that was really horrible to read.

gobbynorthernbird Wed 09-Oct-13 00:41:54

How bloody dare he? LTB

He got mugged? And you are blaming him. Poor man.

Let him cancel his own phone and cards and be nice to him.

HardFacedCareeristBitchNigel Wed 09-Oct-13 00:44:56

Please be a joke that i don't get. The alternative is that you are highly unpleasant.

everythinghippie29 Wed 09-Oct-13 00:45:59

Just. I. What?

There has to be more to this? Who gets upset at someone for being mugged?

Tuonz Wed 09-Oct-13 00:48:42

Are you mad about the mugging, or that you will have to sort it out.

If answer a. Yabu.

If answer b. He's a big lad, let him do it himself. You're not his ma.

PinocchiosLeftNostril Wed 09-Oct-13 00:49:20

Does this happen a lot? What other 'situations' does he get himself into that are comparable to being mugged?

I hope expect this is just some lighthearted post that i'm not understanding properly so I'll express my blushes in advance. blush

Gruntfuttock Wed 09-Oct-13 00:49:30

Poor man.

???

You're seriously blaming him for this...would you want him to do the same? He's been assaulted FFS.

owhatashambles Wed 09-Oct-13 00:53:20

Am madder at the muggers. But am being honest that it is a pain. This sort of stuff has happened before. His mate has called to say: 'er, we tried to stop a fight and then it got a bit out of control'. It only seems to happen on booze-fuelled nights. He can't control his drink. Yeah IABU but...like most of you am also knackered.

olgaga Wed 09-Oct-13 00:59:46

Why is he going out with his mates getting pissed on a Tuesday night? No wonder you're pissed off.

If he has some sort of drinking issue, that is separate from the mugging. Sorry, it was just your OP comes across as really harsh. Maybe you need to have a serious conversation with him about his drinking if he keeps getting in trouble because of it.

HardFacedCareeristBitchNigel Wed 09-Oct-13 01:03:12

Maybe he works shifts and he doesnt start work until late or is off tomorrow. Dont think OP's DH needs to be slagged off for going out on a tuesday night. It is allowed you know hmm

Monty27 Wed 09-Oct-13 01:05:44

Don't let him have any more cash, cards, phones etc until he grows up. Send him to classes of some sort.

Sorry how old did you say he is? angry

sugarman Wed 09-Oct-13 01:49:35

Drinking too much can lead to a lot of problems, not least being vulnerable. I am not surprised you feel annoyed if he made himself vulnerable through getting drunk.

But I don't think you should cancel his card, phone etc. Why on earth can't he do that himself?

SabrinaMulhollandJjones Wed 09-Oct-13 02:01:04

hmm

livinginwonderland Wed 09-Oct-13 07:01:51

Gotta love a bit of victim blaming. "Yes, it's HIS fault for being drunk, not the muggers fault for breaking the law and attacking him." hmm

MrsWolowitz Wed 09-Oct-13 07:10:57

Eh?

My DH is a man-child. I've started threads on here about his dependancy on me and it is also suspected he may even have ADHD causing him to be like this.

That said, as exhausting as he can be, I would never be mad at him for being a victim of crime! Idbe worried and have the kettle on waiting to have a hug and chat over a brew when he got in.

How can you be mad at him? I really don't get it.

AnyFucker Wed 09-Oct-13 07:12:14

I think this is more about the fact that he gets himself in such a state where he ends up in dangerous situations through drink, right ?

Has he a drink problem ? Coupled with a disrespect problem where he goes on the lash on a school night leaving you to hold everything together ?

Why are you picking up the pieces by cancelling cards etc ? Is he too pissed ?

Sirzy Wed 09-Oct-13 07:16:01

How sympathetic of you. He is the victim of crime and you are blaming him for what has happened.

Finola1step Wed 09-Oct-13 07:16:12

Is he regularly getting so drunk that he isn't aware if what's happening, hence the mugging? If so, then there is a major problem.

Why are you cancelling his cards etc? Is he so drunk that he can't do it or can't get home? I would have thought that even if a person had had quite a few, getting mugged would sober you up pretty quick.

Sounds like there is much more to this OP for you to be blaming your OH for getting mugged.

manticlimactic Wed 09-Oct-13 07:22:30

My friends ex DH got mugged quite often on nights out. She found out years later he had never been mugged. He just kept losing his wallet and phone when he's had one too many.

BeckAndCall Wed 09-Oct-13 07:27:04

If you read the OPs second post he's not such a victim is he? He was in midst of a fight which 'got a bit out if hand'...........

I think you've got bigger problems OP than the hassle of cancelling his cards....

Whatever the circs around the mugging, there is no earthly reason for you to act like his Mum by handling the consequences (phone, cards etc.), especially if you feel that his own fecklessness played a part.

You are enabling him, intentionally making a martyr or yourself and encouraging your own resentments if you fix it all for him.

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