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Call from nursery : your daughter's hair has been cut off

(214 Posts)
emoo777 Tue 08-Oct-13 15:35:51

DD is 3 1/2 and we have been growing her lovely blonde hair, so that it was easy to put into a ponytail. I have just had a call from nursery to say the children were 'playing hairdressers' and before they saw what was happening her hair had been massively cut off. It was several inches below her neck and now apparentely can't be put into a ponytail and they suggested I book a hair appointment to even it up!?? WTF?! 3 year olds with scissors and not properly supervised? I haven't seen it yet as I have to work ahead of picking up the children. I can't work though as am furious - I don't know whether to cry or shout. What do I say to them when I pick her up? Surely this shouldn't have happened?
Help!!!
xx

Tailtwister Tue 08-Oct-13 15:38:40

OMG, that's awful! The nursery should at least apologise and pay for the trip to the hairdressers to sort it out. They also need to address the issue of supervision too.

BurberryQ Tue 08-Oct-13 15:38:47

say nothing until you feel calm is the only advice i can give.....

FreeWee Tue 08-Oct-13 15:40:22

The nursery should definitely pay for the haircut and I would ask for a meeting with the manager about supervising children with scissors.

YoniBottsBumgina Tue 08-Oct-13 15:40:31

Haven't they even apologised?? That's awful! Kids will be kids, of course, and these things happen, but they should be aware that you would be likely to be upset! shock

manicinsomniac Tue 08-Oct-13 15:40:33

Wow. If this was older children I'd say it was one of those things and not really the teachers' fault. (7 year old at our school got her bobble stuck in her last week, took her friend into the classroom at breaktime and asked her to cut it out. She didn't do a good job!)

But at 3 they shouldn't have acces to scissors sharp enough to cut hair. Even supervised it only takes a second to shove them in another child's face etc.

sleeplessbunny Tue 08-Oct-13 15:41:15

well haircutting can happen very quickly. I was guilty of a similar incident at primary school blush
but i'm not sure what sort of scissors they should be using at 3, i'd have thought the proper sharp ones wouldn't be allowed? In which case there is a safety issue that certainly needs addressing.

Mollydoggerson Tue 08-Oct-13 15:41:18

I wouldn't care about the hair, the main thing is she is alright, but I would be concerned about the level of supervision. Do they have cc tv in there?

Don't go in all guns blazing, take an investigative approach.

Yes just calm down, try and think it will grow back and lots of children cut their own hair at that age anyway.

Pick her up from nursery as usual, I would just say I wasn't happy but was going to look at it when I got home and that I will speak to them about it tomorrow/later in the week.

Have a look at it, get it sorted, then tomorrow or in a few days when you can see the funny side, talk to the nursery calmly about your concerns regarding the scissors etc.

CMOTDibbler Tue 08-Oct-13 15:42:08

Its one of those things that happen. Hair grows back, and at least it wasn't a big chunk out of her fringe or one of the many other delightful ways children all over the country cut each others hair every day.

I think 3 1/2 year olds are perfectly old enough to use round end scissors without supervision too.

Rosa Tue 08-Oct-13 15:42:44

Listen , nod. Take dd out of ear shot then if as you say they were unsupervised with scissors then I would calmly explode. Imagine if it was an ear , an eye or whatever.

nickelbabe Tue 08-Oct-13 15:43:09

how the hell are they playing with normal scissors????

they should only have access to safety scissors, which only but paper (at best)

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 08-Oct-13 15:43:26

That's unacceptable its a supervision issue,ask them what they are going to do to fix it.

turkeyboots Tue 08-Oct-13 15:46:29

My sister cut off all DBros hair with safety sissors at age 3. So it can happen.

Hope you can resolve it calmly with nursery (if you otherwise like them) and you get an apology.

littleblackno Tue 08-Oct-13 15:47:21

Paper scissors are sharp enough to cut hair - my then 4 yr old dd cut her own hair after sneeking a pair up to her bedroom, I found the hair under her bed. My friends son cut his little sisters beautiful curls off too at about the same age.
I would agree that they should be supervised with scissors but it can happen quickly and i wouldn't be too hard on the staff.

Mama1980 Tue 08-Oct-13 15:47:47

Unfortunately I think it's just one of those things. My ds had a lump taken out of his fringe at home ed group at 3. At 3 1/2 I think they are ok to be using round ended scissors with minimal supervision these things happen so quickly.

nicename Tue 08-Oct-13 15:47:52

Was it those teensy kiddie scissors that barely cut paper, or proper scissors?

Small children shouldn't have scissors if they aren't at the art table and certainly shouldn't have the opportunity to lob chunks of hair off.

Mama1980 Tue 08-Oct-13 15:48:22

Forgot to say they should have apologised thought!

PeterParkerSays Tue 08-Oct-13 15:48:28

Do you work? I only say that to see whether you can stay at nursery after dropping DD off tomorrow morning or get there early today so you can speak to the staff without her in ear shot.

Arrange it as a formal meeting - I would like to speak with the manager this afternoon regarding the implications of what's happened to my daughter. I'll be arriving at 3.00 so we can talk for 30 minutes before I collect DD as usual.

Be business like and clear and give them fucking hell.
Remind them that they're lucky your child's ear or eye weren't injured in this escapade.

Mama1980 Tue 08-Oct-13 15:48:39

Though (obviously!)

At 3 I would think they were using school safety scissors which can definitely cut hair as my DS4 knows oh so well hmm

Unexpected Tue 08-Oct-13 15:49:13

I think letting three year olds play at all with any kind of scissors (even safety ones) is irresponsible. Fine for cutting paper or craft where there is a bit more supervision and they shouldn't be waving the scissors around but "cutting" hair and fringes with scissors is just asking for all kinds of trouble.

quoteunquote Tue 08-Oct-13 15:50:52

Unsupervised play with sharp scissors, I would ask them for a detailed explanation as to how it happened.

YoniBottsBumgina Tue 08-Oct-13 15:51:21

I think it is fairly standard with small children - if she'd been at home with siblings then it might have happened. DS cut a chunk of his own hair off at 4, fortunately you couldn't see it.

I still think they should apologise, although it's not the end of the world, they were still in loco parentis and should take responsibility.

Maybe it's only a little bit hence the need to even it up? OP come back and tell us how it went. I hope they apologised profusely.

If they were using proper sharp scissors then that's really out of order.

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