Friend annoyed with me for cancelling concert due to family memeber passing away

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MoveYourArmsLikeHenry Sun 06-Oct-13 11:32:14

Ok so a few months back a friend and I bought tickets to a concert which is tonight. We were both really looking forward to this and I had my outfit picked out and everything.

My great aunt who had been suffering horribly due to a brain tumour passed away this morning. I am distraught (as is my dad), I watched her go through so much pain in hospital, having treatment which didn't do anything for her except prolong her life for a few weeks. The last time I saw her was a few days ago in a hospice, unconscious, and not the aunt I used to know.

Due to this I really do not want to go to a concert tonight. I rang my friend and told her the awful news, tears streaming down my face. She was sympathetic, but when I told her about not feeling up to the concert she became a bit iffy with me. She was ok, just a bit silent and a lot of "hmms" and "mmms". I told her I would gladly give my ticket to her and she can take another friend/family member and she said she didn't think there was anyone available who could go at such short notice. I apologised and told her to let me know.

She has just texted me and told me one of her other friends would take the ticket and could I drive round to hers and drop it off. I said I would and once again sorry about dropping out at short notice. She then text me and said "Why did you change your mind about going? We had this planned for months"

Seriously? I feel awful for cancelling on her and understand she is peeved, but I have just had a death in the family and the last thing on my mind is a sodding concert.

WIBU to text her back and tell her that when somebody you love dies you really aren't in the best fucking form to go out and party? And a real friend would understand? Jeez!

pantsonbackwards Sun 06-Oct-13 15:28:31

You really find out what people are like when someone you love dies.

A friend of mine complained that i was a miserable arse to be around and it wasn't fun for her. We are not friends anymore.

tinyturtletim Sun 06-Oct-13 15:40:42

Yanbu.

She doesn't sound like a very good friend.

If she was that good of a friend she would of said sod the concert I will be round with wine and icecream.

That's what I would do anyway.

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