is my gf being unreasonable expecting me to do this?

(59 Posts)
captincaveman Sat 05-Oct-13 15:33:32

I have recently started a run of work which involves me working a 14 hour day, 7 days a week. It is a physicaly demanding, job and with the commute on top it is leaving me drained at the end of the day. My gf is a stay at home mum to two young children. Who r in school all day. But she has now decided, that the house needs redecorating. In time for christmas . I dont feel it needs doing, and just dont have the time. It is causing a rift between us. An i being unreasonable to ask her to. Wait. She refuses to tackle it her, her self. I do appreciate she cooks and cleans and sorts the kids out . We cant afford to get any one to do it. How can i make her see my point of view .

BlackeyedSusan Sun 06-Oct-13 21:57:28

goodness. no. you will not make a good job of it when you are so tired, nor in artificial light.

PresidentServalan Sun 06-Oct-13 23:41:14

YANBU - if she wants it done so much, suggest she gets off her arse and does it herself.

Lazyjaney Mon 07-Oct-13 07:05:29

She is being totally unreasonable, especially flouncing off when you disagree. I calculate if you're sleeping 7 hrs, an hour to sort yourself out in the morning and an hour to eat etc in the evenings, you're getting an hour a day free time.

You need to have a tough talk with splitting up effort, I'd start by seeking agreement that you both get the same amount of free time, and commuting time isn't it

CrohnicallyLurking Mon 07-Oct-13 07:12:33

You do realise that it's against working time regulations to comtinuously work a 7 day week? You should be getting one day off a week, or 2 consecutive days a fortnight. So if it's your employer placing demands on you, you should negotiate days off.

Beastofburden Mon 07-Oct-13 10:46:45

Captain, I suggest you show her this thread so she knows it is not just you being horrid to her. Actually a panel of hardworking parents with at least as much to do as she has, all say she is being lazy, entitled, and selfish.

Mojavewonderer Mon 07-Oct-13 11:24:42

Your GF is lazy and you are a mug to just give in when she gets upset.
Tiling a bathroom is easy and as long as she isn't expecting new fixtures and fittings she could easily do it herself. Even my mum can remove old tiles and put new ones up!

LessMissAbs Mon 07-Oct-13 11:32:05

Some people just won't sully their hands with what they consider manual work. Often its the most surprising people. I do a purely office-based, professional job, yet I've done up several properties and learned painting, decorating and tiling from scratch.

I recently saw a Facebook post from someone who doesn't work but lives off her boyfriend, for details for a painter and decorator to repaint a boxroom. I suggested she bought Dulux Trade Paint, a roller and a brush for the corners, and some masking tape and dust covers, and she made some sarcastic remark about being able to afford to pay for someone else to do it!

Bogeyface Mon 07-Oct-13 13:10:11

"I have no objection to it being done, but I am not doing it. I am sure that you could do it yourself if you really wanted to"

Repeat to fade.

she is bu, i want the kitchen redone before christmas, dp works shifts and doesnt have much time. thats why im doing it myself i suggest she does too

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