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Just need a few other opinions on teachers' comment to boy...

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LadyOfTheFlowers Fri 04-Oct-13 17:45:59

DS2 has long hair. About 3 inches below his collar, shorter towards front - can tuck behind his ears.
For PE it was requested he had a sweatband. I bought 2 he lost them, I forgot about it over summer.
PE has resumed and the PE teacher got mad, telling him 'If you don't have a sweatband next lesson I will cut your hair off!'
Now the boy is 7 and truly believes his mad PE teacher might chop his hair off.
It is my fault he doesn't have a sweatband. Why didn't he shout at me? I see him around school enough.
I am annoyed. DH is seething.
AIBU to want to complain? How do I address this?
Apart from get the sweatbands this weekend obviously.

FlapJackOLantern Fri 04-Oct-13 18:06:45

I'm surprised that, so far, no-one has screamed 'that's abuse'.

I'm with Worra.

WorraLiberty England Fri 04-Oct-13 18:07:19

Do both box of cheap elstic bands and complain about his comment to the head as he was threatening to assult your child.

Oh please hmm

Is it any wonder some kids take things so literally when adults are saying things like this?

Threatening assault indeed.

BoundandRebound Fri 04-Oct-13 18:07:33

Talk to teacher - it may not have been said or meant - your 7 year old might have misread tone

Not the best thing to say but could easily have been said in jest and I could see a lot of kids taking it as a joke if meant as one

If teacher is embarrassed or apologetic shrug it off

Not worth going OTT about

And tell DS if he keeps losing his hair bands you'll cut it yourself

WorraLiberty England Fri 04-Oct-13 18:08:23

The thread's no doubt headed there FlapJack grin

PenelopePitstops Fri 04-Oct-13 18:09:55

Oh fgs it was a joke

lunar1 Fri 04-Oct-13 18:10:36

Don't the have a uniform policy about long hair being tied up? Is he not prone to nits if it is lose all the time?

Ilovemyself Fri 04-Oct-13 18:11:58

Wixiapian. Why the hell should they cut their hair if that is what they want?

SayMyNameSayIt Fri 04-Oct-13 18:12:45

What singing sands said. It was probably said as a joke or maybe the teacher was just fed up with kids, boys AND girls, turning up for PE with no means of tying up their long hair.

Your DS may have been the straw that broke the camel's back, particularly if he has had a week of it.

(However, I have to admit that I really really hated long hair on boys. Why would you want your DS to look like a girl???? That's just my personal opinion.)

PeriodFeatures Fri 04-Oct-13 18:13:02

I'm really surprised at the response to this. Threatening to cut a childs hair?!! That is bloody awful. I'd be furious. He is 7 for gods sake. If he was 15 then perhaps inappropriate but in context maybe less horrid than it seems. But he3 is 7

To the people telling OP to cut the child's hair.....wow! You are not nice people. I hope I don't know you in RL.

SayMyNameSayIt Fri 04-Oct-13 18:13:28

Hate- present tense
Not past tense. I STILL hate it!

FamiliesShareGerms Fri 04-Oct-13 18:14:01

3"below his collar is long hair that has to be tied up for PE, boy or girl. A sweatband doesn't really do the job, ot should be a proper elastic band. Maybe DS won't forget his hair band now.

And it's not "threatened assault" FFS

(And BTW I love long hair on boys!)

PeriodFeatures Fri 04-Oct-13 18:14:40

However, I have to admit that I really really hated long hair on boys

Why would you want your DS to look like a girl????

Glad that's just your personal opinion because it is bollocks. smile

Wuxiapian Fri 04-Oct-13 18:17:10

Exactly, ILoveMyself. The child is 7 - it's more likely they - his mother and father like his hair long.

There will be a policy WRT hair in school.
If he's 7 yo he's Yr 2 / Yr 3?

Should have his hair tied at all times (that applies for girls too)

And personally, I think long hair looks bloody Stupid on boys .
On 14+ fair do (though I still hate it)

My own opinion.
Flame away, I care less than nothing <<shrugs>>

Perissa Netherlands Fri 04-Oct-13 18:18:01

DS has longish hair but not past his collar at the moment. I don't think he looks like a girl. My dad also has very long hair, he definitely doesn't look like a girl.

By the same token, would you say that a woman with short hair looks like a man?

would you say that a woman with short hair looks like a man

Some do Perissa

goldenlula Fri 04-Oct-13 18:21:08

At my children's school he would be required to tie his hair back in the same way as the girls are every day. It is also possible that the teacher said it as a joke, but may well have been saying to your ds since September that he needs to get the bands and is slightly frustrated it hasn't happened yet.

SayMyNameSayIt Fri 04-Oct-13 18:24:01

To those who are saying the teacher or TA should tie it back for him, strictly speaking, they are not allowed. Just as they are not allowed to remove earrings if the child can't do it themselves.

What if the teacher gets it tangled and accidentally pulls his hair???? Hurts him??? You'd moan about that!! There would be a thread, "The teacher/TA tied my ds's hair back at PE because he didn't have a sweatband. AIBU to be really annoyed that he touched his hair, he ended up getting it all tugs and it really hurt. "

Or if he had not been allowed to take part because his loose hair might have been hazardous, "AIBU to think my DS shouldn't have been excluded from PE because he didn't have a sweatband?"

Bowlersarm Fri 04-Oct-13 18:25:55

You should supply a lot more headbands if he keeps losing them. Much easier all round to have shorter hair.

Feminine Fri 04-Oct-13 18:29:00

Why haven't you cut it?

That is way too long for a boy. Mainly as you are not taking care of it as a girl would (with that length)

You can't just leave it you know?

Are you trying to make a statement? grin

Feminine Fri 04-Oct-13 18:30:23

My dh has very long hair BTW, so I'm not against it. I just don't think it can be left

7 yo can tie their own hair .
Or tie it before he goes to school if you/he insist on long hair.

LadyOfTheFlowers Fri 04-Oct-13 18:31:45

Thank you for the valued opinions. smile
The boy LIKES his hair long, as do I, DH doesn't, for what it's worth. He looks nothing like a girl. :roll:
I have offered countless times to have it cut, including today when he told me this, and he says he doesn't want to.
My beef, is that the bloke couldn't just speak to me. It is not my son's fault I have bigger fish to fry than a sodding hair band to keep his hair (which has never caused him to injure himself or anyone else) in check, though I appreciate if the girls have to, he has to, health and safety etc.
I shall speak to the PE teacher on Monday, armed with the hair stuff and see what he says.

Floggingmolly Fri 04-Oct-13 18:33:11

If he keeps losing the sweatbands, he can't actually manage long hair and I bet it's not his choice either

Ilovemyself Fri 04-Oct-13 18:34:10

Of course no 7 year old will have their own opinion Wixiapian. And they never want to be like mum or dad.

And comments about boys with long hair! If I said women with short hair looked like a man I would be called a sexist!

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