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AIBU?

to eat nuts on a train.

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SpiritOfTheBuskersCat · 03/10/2013 16:58

so I'm happily eating my pistachios on the train and some woman comes over and says 'could you put them away my friends allergic' I said 'oh yes of course' started putting them back in my bag when she adds 'to be honest you shouldn't eat things like that on trains anyway' turned on her heel and stalled off. They then spend the next 10 minutes throwing me filthy looks. Now I understand nut allergies can be fatal and was prefectly happy to put them away, but was I bu eating them in the first place? Surely you cannot assume every where will be nut free and especially on public transport at 4 in the afternoon there is going to be risks?

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DoNotTellMeWhatToDo · 03/10/2013 16:59

YANBU.

I would have got them back out and started eating them again after the dirty looks. While looking them in the dead in the eyes!

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MrsRoss26 · 03/10/2013 17:00

You were not bu. She was being an unreasonable toerag Grin It's a risk you take on public transport!

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needaholidaynow · 03/10/2013 17:01

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SpiritOfTheBuskersCat · 03/10/2013 17:03

I wasn't about to get them back out again, and was perfectly happy to put them away. But to never eat nuts? what about contact?

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MacaYoniandCheese · 03/10/2013 17:03

YABU because pistachios are crazy messy. What did you do with all the shells and bits of skin that fall off the nuts?

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Mogz · 03/10/2013 17:05

WTAF? Unless you were eating them soooo messily that nut bits were flying from your mouth and on to the other passengers how did she think her friend's allergy was going to be set off? YWNBU

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DoNotTellMeWhatToDo · 03/10/2013 17:05

You suck the shells and put them back in the packet!

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DidoTheDodo · 03/10/2013 17:06

YANBU.
She was just showing off about terribly supportive to her friend.

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UptheChimney · 03/10/2013 17:10

YANBU. She was. Having allergies is horrible, I know, because any hint of cigarette smoke has me wheezing and needing my ventolin puffer, but really, we can't expect the world to revolve around us!

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EldritchCleavage · 03/10/2013 17:12

It was rude to throw that remark at you when you had been polite and helpful. Perhaps she was revving up for a confrontation and disappointed when you didn't give her one.

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PractialJoke · 03/10/2013 17:14

Mogz, I once had a colleague who had to leave a conference early because there were peanuts on the buffet table on the other side of the room. If Im honest i did wonder if she was swinging the lead but apparently they made her very unwell, even from a distance.

Op yanbu

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squoosh · 03/10/2013 17:15

YANBU.

How rude.

The pistachios were packed away but there was still clearly one big human nut on the loose.

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CrohnicallyLurking · 03/10/2013 17:23

It is perfectly possible for a nut allergy to be severe enough that particles n the air could set them off.

However, if that's the case it is up to the person with the allergy to mini one risk. I mean, what if you had got off the stop before and left nut particles on the seat and they say in them? What if you merely passed by and breathed nut particles onto them?

It's public transport, and that's the risk you take. YWNBU.

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Suzietastic · 03/10/2013 17:25

Nuts on a train? YANBU

Snakes on a plane? then YABU

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cumfy · 03/10/2013 17:26

She was hungry not allergic.

The plan was that you would refuse her wholly unreasonable request, snatch the pistachios off you, saying she was going to destroy them, and then devour their delicious bounty in another carriage. :)

Close call.

Seriously, does she endlessly scrutinise each and every part of her proximal environment for any microscopic trace of nut ?

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CoffeeTea103 · 03/10/2013 17:26

Yabu to have even put them away in the first place. This woman was ridiculous. Someone will always have an allergy to some food, so that bans all food in public places?

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IAmMiranda · 03/10/2013 17:27

YADNU. Unless you were throwing the shells at her.

I would have looked at her like she was insane and maybe politely suggested that there were other carriages to sit in.

FFS, some people are so damn precious!

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ivykaty44 · 03/10/2013 17:29

you reply I can't see any signs about not eating nuts but I see your halo needs a polish Wink

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PractialJoke · 03/10/2013 17:30

Do they no longer give out nuts on a plane? I haven't flown in years.....

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OHforDUCKScake · 03/10/2013 17:32

YANBU she acted like a twat too.

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WhiteAdmiral · 03/10/2013 17:33

If she hadn't said 'you shouldn't be eating them anyway' that would have been an entirely reasonable request. And a nice response from you.

In the woman's favour, as the mother of a dc who is highly allergic to nuts, seeing someone eating nuts feels the same as it someone had opened a box of mercury or asbestos near my kid or is happily playing with some explosives.

This is, quite understandably, very hard for people to understand. Its only after you've seen your dc in anaphylaxis, struggling for breath and close to dying that your view on a plain old nut changes forever.

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moldingsunbeams · 03/10/2013 17:35

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Preciousbane · 03/10/2013 17:35

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WhiteAdmiral · 03/10/2013 17:36

DoNotTellMeWhatToDo To suggest that you carry on eating them anyway is downright cruel and offensive.

If you have been warned that someone is anaphylactic and you continue to knowingly put that person at risk, and they die from anaphylaxis you may find you are liable for charges of murder.

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misdee · 03/10/2013 17:38

yanbu

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