Men who post sleazy shit about their sex lives.

(89 Posts)
WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco Sun 29-Sep-13 21:19:20

There's no need.

I actually find it really disturbing. Mn is populated by mainly women and some lovely men. So I find something quite, I don't know, creepy? Intimidating? Off, anyway, about men who want to tell us all about their seckshual adventures.

I'd like to invite them to stop.

Also, and this is less annoying but I'll add it so it's all one big ranty op, men who prefix their posts with 'speaking as a man' or similar and then go on to post something completely unrelated to the fact they are a bloke. it reminds me of monkeys swinging their dicks around to assert their dominance.

Aibu?

I know I'm not, but I am tired and ratty and have low tolerance levels today.

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 21:48:09

I agree with the OP about men who come on here and are pointedly - and inappropriately - descriptive about their sex lives.

I don't think she is saying she doesn't want to hear from men or that women have the monopoly on talking about sex here. There is just a particular type of bloke who does it, as if he gets some kind of voyeuristic thrill out of telling a load of faceless women how he gets his rocks off a propos of fuck all. And they quite often happen to be F4J-type, old school menz rights blowhards to boot.

If "new members" come on and act like creeps, they deserve to have their arses handed to them.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 29-Sep-13 21:48:14

How do any of us really know who is really a woman on here though?

Just because there are only a few who openly say they are men doesn't mean there aren't quite a lot more.

Surely "speaking as a man" is the precursor to offering the male point of view. Not "mansplaining" confused

The sex threads don't interest me regardless of the gender of the OP.

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco Sun 29-Sep-13 21:49:18

No, you're missing the point.

Talking about sex in context is one thing. Shoehorning it into every post aand going onto unrelated threads to share your wank fantasies stories is just fucking grim.

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco Sun 29-Sep-13 21:50:16

Sorry, that was to SPs last post. X posted with all of you.

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco Sun 29-Sep-13 21:51:10

Thanks Sheshelob, you've explained it better than me.

BOF Sun 29-Sep-13 21:55:34

There are some creepy fuckers about- if people haven't noticed them, and wish to defend their theoretical right to free speech, that's up to them. But I guess that they haven't experienced husbands or exes registering to show women they have bullied in real life know they have no space away from them, nor received PMs recommending porn and suchlike. The kneejerk response seen here doesn't surprise me though.

Boosterseat Sun 29-Sep-13 21:55:49

If you have reason to believe someone is doing it for less than admirable reasons then report them. Thems the rules grin

But I actually like some of the wanky weirdo threads. Gives me a chance to nick the great swear names that get hurled about. I.e Wankbadger.

Good for my voculabury, innit.

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 29-Sep-13 22:00:59

The only time I have seen "speaking as a man" or similar, it is normally posted by someone complaining about it.

I haven't seen any of the creepy male sex threads.

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:01:10

I have a problem with men who think they can come on here and treat us like a load of old dears at a bus-stop, ripe for a flashing. So I am happy to chase them about until they start crying and zip their flies up.

AnaisHendricks Sun 29-Sep-13 22:01:29

Alisvolatpropiis, it should be, yes. But ime it's usually telling us where we are going wrong.

The one that really REALLY gets my goat is where someone pops up on a thread or discussion about DV and whines, "but men get beaten by their partners as well"

Yes. Mainly by their male partners.

And although female DV does happen, please stop derailing threads and go and campaign for refuges like we had to. It's an entitled attitude that women shouldn't do anything for themselves until they have sorted out all men's problems for them </rant>

But the men going on to random threads isn't what was mentioned in the OP at all.

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:05:18

To be fair, the majority of the creepy menz stuff is directed at the FWR board, which might be why only some of us have seen it. It seems the go-to for wannabe goaders.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 29-Sep-13 22:05:21

Ah I see OP.

Yanbu in that case

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:07:11

I think that's what the OP meant, though, SP, as otherwise it would be massively sexist, which she isn't. You're right to stand up for people not being sexist, but don't waste your breath on these dickheads.

AnaisHendricks Sun 29-Sep-13 22:09:07

Sorry. I just needed to say it blush

But how are we meant to know what she exactly means when she writes a OP like that? Has she have explained what she really meant it would have been a lot easier

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:10:06

It needs to be said, Anais.

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:12:23

It's weird because I knew exactly what she meant because I have encountered creeps cruising for wank fodder/attention on a few threads. Maybe you've just been lucky and you haven't seen any. But mark my words - they are out there, the slimy tosspots.

FreudiansSlipper Sun 29-Sep-13 22:13:16

i agree and i not sure all the i have name changed does you partner like, do you like blah blah are posted by women as people do love to give details, it gets competitive and no doubt someone will get off on it

just stay away from them

WorldPeaceAndFreeProsecco Sun 29-Sep-13 22:14:56

Sorry for not being clearer. It's late (for me, anyway), I'm tired and posting from my phone.

I am talking about the few men who post almost exclusively about sex, who bring it up on every thread and who come across as sleazy. The one I've noticed a lot recently does it fairly subtly but gives me the creeps.

I have reported him, by the way.

utreas Sun 29-Sep-13 22:17:50

I think the OP's tinfoil hat has slipped off her head.

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:18:53

<dons tinfoil hat of solidarity>

What the fuck is wrong with metallic headwear?

zippey Sun 29-Sep-13 22:20:15

Women do not have a monopoloy on this site. It is a site "By parents, for parents".

If women are allowed to post about sex, men should be able to as well, under the banner of equality.

Maybe you do have a point but I haven't seen the threads which have shocked you so I would have to say YABU. I would advise that you report these posts or move on.

And I say all this speaking as a man.

FreudiansSlipper Sun 29-Sep-13 22:20:53

there are also a few that always seem to pop up on my dh/dp went to a lap dancing club/Amsterdam/stag go with strippers type threads telling us how it is just a bit of fun and the women like it as they earn lots of money hmm

i never see them at other times

Sheshelob Sun 29-Sep-13 22:26:15

It's not about being shocked, Zippey. It is about being fucked off that some loser is piping up with stories about their sex lives willy nilly. It's like a sleazy bloke in a bar who comes over and tries to "have a crack" when you just want to have a nice time with your friends. Just because we are chatting online doesn't mean we're up for it/fair game.

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