I am so used to saying - acting out - what people want of me that I lose sight of who I actually am. Tomorrow I have to go to work and act out the part of a devoted, committed and motivated team member. It is not that I don't care - I do want to earn my money & do the right thing by the company - but I only care so much. The job is a temporary one which ends in a month so I am already thinking about the next thing ie finding another job by Christmas.
In the personal sphere I am used to saying the right kind of things that i think people want me to say. I am always careful to avoid anything controversial, of putting myself on the line by saying what I really think. I am always the one being circumspect, diplomatic, endlessly understanding. I would say that there are barely a handful of people whom I can really be myself with (though not sure who that 'self' is).
It is dawning on me that I spend the greater part of my life acting out and giving people what I think they want me to be. I act out a bland, sanitised version of me. I think it is down to the way I was brought up.
I am a people pleaser, an appeaser, a kind of coward. I am cowardly because I fear that my real self is so inferior, nobody would like it if I displayed it. I would rather keep silent and fear that i am inferior, than speak out and risk having it proved beyond doubt.
Has anyone else been in such a situation and how did you break out of it?
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Livingtothefull · 29/09/2013 20:36
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