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To agree with workfare in principal?

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IAmMiranda Sun 29-Sep-13 11:23:01

Donning my flame retardant underwear - though note I'm not for the current scheme, but the principal is sensible.

Working for unemployment benefits makes sense to me - provided that the "wage" is fair for the hours and skills. Eg. £90 a week job sellers could equal 15 hours of charity work?

Taking into account disabilities, childcare and other responsibilities I really don't think its unfair to provide people with jobs to earn the equivalent of benefits?

I do think its wrong to line the pockets of corporations, reduce jobs for other workers etc but surely charity work is an option?

I think I've probably missed some huge glaring point but AIBU?

(NOTE: I have previously been in reciept of JSA and would happily have done 15 hours a week and had plenty of time to job search)

sunshinenanny Mon 07-Oct-13 14:11:20

Do we now want to put pressure on women to have abortions they don't want. and as for adoption that isn't always a solution! just watch the many programs about girls who's lives were ruined by being forced to give up their childron in a less enlightened age.

I was disgusted with an aquaintance who said she thought young unmarried women who have more than one pegnancy should be forcibly sterilised. These attitudes make me despairing of the human race.

compassion and kindness are fast dissapearing and we will all have cause to regret it if we are not careful

TotemPole Sat 05-Oct-13 20:51:16

I thought this thread was about workfare. Are most of those at risk teenage mums?

Crowler Sat 05-Oct-13 17:16:04

Of course it's an individual choice. I wasn't suggesting otherwise. I simply could never tolerate the stress of entering into parenthood without some measure of financial stability. I would be permanently stressed out & not functioning well as a parent.

Which is why I empathize with parents who have lost their job, etc tremendously. Situations change.

HeadsDownThumbsUp Sat 05-Oct-13 16:18:40

But it's a matter of individual choice, Crowler.

Suggesting that having an abortion is the 'right thing to do' is just as insidious as suggesting that continuing a pregnancy is the 'right thing'.

Crowler Sat 05-Oct-13 15:39:00

I also wonder why it's just girls from affluent homes who are having abortions.

I realize I'm probably not in the majority here, but I'm mystified that someone would choose to have a baby they can't afford and are too young to manage rather than have an abortion.

I can't related to voluntarily submitting to this permanent level of stress rather than removing a pinhead-size speckle of cells.

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime Sat 05-Oct-13 11:13:20

according to Rape Crisis, 1 in 5 women (aged 16 - 59) has experienced some form of sexual violence since the age of 16.

but this does not mean 1 in 5 women is experiencing sexual violence at the moment.

of course 1 rape is 1 too many - but when talking about the number of children who are a result of rape and benefits policy we need to be using the figures correctly so the limited pot of money can be spent where it generates the most good.

to me focussing the money on women leave a DV situation makes much more sense then the state propping up a dangerous situation which often creates the next generation of abusers and abused.

alemci Sat 05-Oct-13 09:44:11

so maybe the message which should be going out to teenagers is to be more choosy who you have sex with and not equate sex with love. as a women or man you have a choice to say no to sex. I know its old fashioned.

I think being tied to someone sexually is also emotional.

SugarMouse1 Sat 05-Oct-13 01:21:33

Yes, abortion affects people emotionally, but so does birth?!

alemci Fri 04-Oct-13 20:08:01

in response to teenagers and abortion

abortion effects people emotionally and it is a very difficult

JakeBullet Fri 04-Oct-13 12:39:35

I totally agree that you CAN recover bit not everyone has the strength. A lot depends on what else happens....do you have another stabling influence in your life for example.

As far as Philpott was concerned ...yes he would have been summoned for workfare but I can guarantee he would not have lasted very long. They would then have docked his benefits and hey presto he would control his women (and he saw them as "his") even more financially. Workfare will never work with the Philpott men of this world.

SugarMouse1 Fri 04-Oct-13 11:58:26

Precisely, philpott wouldn't have had the time or energy to create so many children!

You can recover, get everything back, it's not an excuse for everything I'm afraid

Besides there are cultures were domestic abuse is more common- Russia for example, and no free contraception either, yet the birth rate is lower and people only have the children they can afford. Which is most cases is 0 or 1.

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime Fri 04-Oct-13 08:58:07

with workfare, Mick Philpott would have been sent to work. which surely can only be a good thing?

JakeBullet Fri 04-Oct-13 08:44:48

So you came from an abusive home yourself sugarmouse sad.

It explains a lot about your posts....please look at some of the research regarding the effects on children who witness these things. Having experienced it you are probably too close to appreciate how it works. It is all abput powwe over someone else. Hpw bettwe to make a woman dependant on you by keeping her pregnant or with enoigj children to ensure she is tied. Better still control all the money which then comes in....every penny.

Ah...now I am in mind of Mick Philpott who did just that. He even sent the women out to work.

SugarMouse1 Fri 04-Oct-13 00:24:12

Debs75- I come from an extremely abusive home myself actually, so yes, I know what it's like, had confidence eroded etc

But I am still responsible for my actions

SugarMouse1 Fri 04-Oct-13 00:22:14

Youaremyfavourite- you make some good points

Bullied or not, there is no physical way possible to stop a baby from ever crying or having shitty nappies, is there?

Like it or not, some women do trick their partners into becoming sperm donors.
That idiot Liz jones has admitted trying to do it. As bad as rape, in my book.

boschy Thu 03-Oct-13 23:15:38

at the risk of being deleted... sugarmouse what are you on?????
apart from the idiot pills that is.

Darkesteyes Thu 03-Oct-13 22:56:51

Sugarmouse your posts about domestic abuse on this thread have to be the most ignorant nasty evil and mysogynistic posts i have ever seen on the subject (and that includes the MSE forum)

And if the abuser doesnt like the fact that his partners body has changed errrr ......ever heard of porn or infidelity.

And as for coping with a screaming baby in the house .....well when a close friend of mine was still with her abusive partner and the baby cried she would get told "shut the kid up or i will belt both of you" In the end he went to hit his child when she was 9 months old and thats when my friend got her dad to come over and change the locks and got him out. the changing of the locks was done while the arse was out.
Thing is abusers can and do live with children in the house because they bully their partner into keeping the kids quiet.

I cant believe ive just had to explain something this simple.

Newtwinmum Thu 03-Oct-13 19:20:01

Hi I don't agree with workfare for everybody, I think what is the point in paying national insurance contribution and working for years if when you are out of a job and need it they tell you you have go and work for charity for free! Instead I would expect them to give me job opportunities so I can get back to work or some training that I need. But I have seen people who are fit and able never work a day in their life. I think for those young or old people who never have worked 11 hours working for charity is a good idea, not to be mean but people can get stuck in a certain way of life and need a push to get out of bed so called! But never for people who have worked and just need to get a job because if they can find a place in tesco or poundland then that should be a paying job not to earn your benefits which you have worked for in the first place. I think jobs-centres are not doing their job very well and don't do a lot for people!

Debs75 Thu 03-Oct-13 19:02:15

Darkesteyes I would never look down on JSA claimaints. If it wasn't for JSA me and DP would of struggled from the get go. I do believe some kind of workfare or on the job training or better apprenticeships is needed. What this govt doesn't understand is we need their help to make it happen. They should be looking out for all of us and building this country from the bottom up not lining the pockets of the rich while squeezing the poor.

Sugarmouse are you serious? I have done a fair few training days on domestic abuse and these women are under a hell of a lot of stress. They are belittled slowly and their confidence is eroded. They are made to believe they are worthless and no one wants them. They are isolated. Abusers are very clever at doing this subtely so that once the are at the beating black and blue stage or removing of contraception stage the poor women is completely under their control.
As I said a fair few training days. I don't work with women like this everyday but the people who do see much worse ways of controlling women. Pregnancy being quite a common way.

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime Thu 03-Oct-13 19:01:02

you are assuming all women are victims.

what about women who assault their own children?
or break other women's bones with weapons?

are they victims?

HeadsDownThumbsUp Thu 03-Oct-13 18:54:45

Jesus Christ. I am totally, 100% pro choice, but I can't believe that people are posting here, stating that they hand-on-heart believe that young mothers (and the "workless") should just have abortions and that it ought to be "taboo to keep the baby.

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime Thu 03-Oct-13 18:52:01

violet to other women = violent to other women

YouAreMyFavouriteWasteOfTime Thu 03-Oct-13 18:51:21

one in ten children in DP's primary school either has a SW or the school have raised serious concerns and SS are investigating.

that's three children in every class neglected or abused by their parents.

the mothers are sometimes victims as well but sometimes violet to other women and their own children.

its not eugenicist to suggest that this is not ok and these people should have not had children at that point in their lives.

worklessness plays a part because often the devil makes work for idle hands and all that.

SugarMouse1 Thu 03-Oct-13 18:34:31

HeadsDown-

Sure, Wikipedia is so reliable for information........

SugarMouse1 Thu 03-Oct-13 18:32:40

Tbh, of all the people I've ever known that had unplanned pregnancies, none ever showed any sign of being forced not to use contraception and forced to keep the baby.

You completely misunderstand my points.

I think teens avoid abortions because it's taboo in our culture, and why the hell should it be? People fought long and hard for every woman to have the right to one.

If anything it ought to be taboo to keep the baby!

My point about teens being vain and squeamish is that I don't think they WANTED to have a baby, but society always pressures the teenage girl to go through with the pregnancy.

I'd also say its more common for the young man to want an abortion, but the girl to insist on keeping it. Now, okay it is her that has to have the procedure, not him, but I do feel sorry for some young men if they didn't want to become Dads. I don't think anyone should be FORCED to become a parent. What about their right to reproductive freedom? Okay they can use condoms, but more failure than hormonal contraception, and you may not believe this, but some girls DO LIE, say they are on the pill, in order to try and trap a boy into staying with her.

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