Am I miscarrying?

(151 Posts)
Beavie Sat 28-Sep-13 21:11:05

Sorry to hijack Aibu, I know I'm not bu for once but really need some words of advice!

I'm currently sitting in a&e, where I've been for over 2 hours now, as I am 6 weeks pg and been bleeding intermittently for over 24 hours now. It's bright red blood mixed with mucus (sorry if tmi). It comes in waves and stops and starts and the waves seem to be getting heavier. I've also had a dull pain in my abdomen most of the day, although this has been intermittent too.

Dp is insisting we stay here until we are seen even though it's a bit of a waste of time as far as I'm concerned as we've been told we will not be able to get a scan tonight so I'm not sure what they can actually do. Add to the mix a cranky toddler who should be in bed and I'm feeling pretty fed up. I just want to go home and get in the bath which helps with the aching. Anyone got any words of advice?

numbum Sat 28-Sep-13 21:16:18

They'll tell you to go home, rest and return Monday when they can do a scan so sitting in A&E is a bit pointless.

Sorry to hear you're bleeding x

Beavie Sat 28-Sep-13 21:19:14

Hmm yes that's what I thought. Wish I'd driven because we'd be home by now if I had. Going to have to call it a night soon, dd can't take much more.

Yonididnaedaethat Sat 28-Sep-13 21:19:22

Sorry that you are bleeding but I agree with the above poster, go home and rest.

Do you have a Early pregnancy unit in your area you could phone?

Madmartigan Sat 28-Sep-13 21:19:33

Sweetie, big hugs. Wish I could tell you there was nothing to worry about. No medical advice, just the hugs and bumping you up.

WineIsMyMainVice Sat 28-Sep-13 21:19:46

Just try and hang on in there hon. I had some very weird bleeds all the way through my first 3 months, and was terrified every time it happened. But nothing was wrong. I hope this is the same for you.
The only advice I got was to rest as much as possible though. So if they tell you that you can't be seen soon, might it be worth going home and getting some sleep or at least some rest.? Good luck.

DontPanicMrMannering Sat 28-Sep-13 21:19:57

I would go home but keep an eye on the bleeding I haemorrhaged during a mmc (further along though 14 weeks).

There is nothing they can tell you until epau can do an early scan probably Monday.

So sorry that you might be miscarrying. I understand your DH probably feels helpless and worried about you. Xx

I would second going home and putting your feet up till Monday. I hope you are holding up and that this is implantation. I bled throughout, and quite heavily. My DS is now 20 months.

PedlarsSpanner Sat 28-Sep-13 21:20:29

I am sorry

I don't know what the hosp can do. In the old days, we went to bed with bleeding in early pg, and let nature work it out.

Go home, have a bath, bless you. Not easy.

Purplefrogshoe Sat 28-Sep-13 21:23:27

I would go home and rest and call epu Monday, they should hopefully be able to give you a scan, try and keep positive, fx

Donkeyok Sat 28-Sep-13 21:24:07

sad good advice to go home. sorry x

Jolleigh Sat 28-Sep-13 21:27:06

I had had a similar issue at about 9 weeks OP and wasn't miscarrying.

As for the A&E situation...it's an odd one. My first call was to the midwife unit. They said I'm best off at home because A&E were unlikely to give me a scan and even if it turned out I was miscarrying, there wasn't really much they could do to stop it.

I heeded their advice and went home from work, only to find a sticker on the front of my notes saying if I'm bleeding before 12 weeks I should go to A&E.

I'd recommended going home OP. I completely empathise with the situation but you're making it no better sitting in A&E if they've admitted they won't be scanning you.

Best of luck. xx

pantsjustpants Sat 28-Sep-13 21:27:53

I'd advise going home too. They won't scan you tonight, you need the epu to see you sad .

Rest up and take some paracetamol if necessary. Unfortunately the only way you'll know for sure what's going on is with a scan.

The waiting is totally crap, I'm sorry.

I also had lots of bleeds in some of my pregnancies (one of my most worrying bleeds is now 9 years old)

I would go home, as long as you are coping with the pain and have support.

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Sat 28-Sep-13 21:28:45

Oh, love. That's awful to hear. But I agree - go home, and keep an eye in case the bleeding doesn't stop or you feel faint.

It's a horrible experience but there is no obvious reason for you to feel worse by sitting in an uncomfortable hospital.

Lots of good wishes for you.

Finola1step Sat 28-Sep-13 21:29:39

I too think you should go home. Rest up. Spend tomorrow with your DH and dc. Then EPU on Monday. I will be thinking about you over the weekend. I know it's not
very mumsnetty but, I send you hugs.

lotsofcheese Sat 28-Sep-13 21:35:12

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I've had 2 mc & it's heartbreaking.

I'm afraid I agree with your DP. Whilst you're unlikely to get a scan at A&E, or HCG level checks (which EPAU can do), ectopic pregnancy can be ruled out & if you're bleeding heavily (more than a pad per hour) you may need admitted.

So sorry for you in this situation & hoping that it isn't bad news for you.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Sat 28-Sep-13 21:36:03

Hmm. Id actually say stay at A&E. If only because they will refer you to the EPAU on monday. Many EPAUs wont see you without a referral. You want to be straight there at the earliest opportunity. You don't want to have to see the GP for the referral first, which you might if you go home.
I have everything crossed for you.

Wishfuldrinking Sat 28-Sep-13 21:38:39

I would go home. I had this at 6 weeks pg, very heavy, thought definitely mc and A&E agreed and sent me home, telling me to go to the epu on the Monday. Even took ibuprofen as I was so sure. Nearly fell off the bed when epu found a heartbeat, and DD was fine. It's not uncommon. The hardest part will be the waiting. Try to rest and be as positive as you can. Sending loads of good vibes your way x

Amy106 Sat 28-Sep-13 21:39:17

So sorry to hear this. Maybe home would be better if they can't scan now anyway. Rest as much as you can. Hugs and best wishes.

Featherbag Sat 28-Sep-13 21:43:37

I'm an A&E nurse who's also been in the terrifying position you're in now. I know how you feel - you're frightened, you want answers, you feel you can't bear the uncertainty of not knowing whether or not everything is ok. But A&E can't do anything for you, they can't scan you, they can't stop a MC if one is starting. In my case, I had massive bleeds early in both pregnancies - pregnancy 1 will be 2 next week, pregnancy 2 is now 30+2 and currently booting me in the ribs. I bled so heavily early in this pregnancy I collapsed, and was 110% convinced there would be nothing there when I went to the EPU.

Go home, try to rest and distract yourself from the worry. Contact the EPU on Monday, and get referred by MW or GP if necessary - I hope all is well for you x

I'm very sorry you're going through this sad

Could you ask if they will do a HCG blood test? If I remember correctly, the HCG levels should double every 48 hours so if your GP or EPU could do the same test on Monday then they would be able to advise you what's happening with the pregnancy.

Otherwise, go home, rest, cry if you want to and then go to your GP or EPU on Monday.

Come back and let us know what's happening. There will be people here to hold your hand every step of the way whatever happens [hugs] x

Beavie Sat 28-Sep-13 22:49:22

Thanks for all the replies. Just as I was about to bail out I got called through. Been prodded and had an internal and bloods taken, and so far so good according to the doc. They need to establish how far gone I am before they do a scan next week, which is why they took blood. The internal was painful and I am bleeding quite heavily now. Just had a weep and now waiting to hear whether they are going to let me go home or if they want to keep me in x

Take care x

FortyDoorsToNowhere Sat 28-Sep-13 22:59:10

I don't want to give you false hope, the same happened to me with DD. I had the internal scan and everything was fine.

I had to wait for days for the scan and it was the longest 4 days of my life. I had the scan that showed a small sac that hadn't closed.

sending you all the luck in the world xxxxxxxx what ever the outcome please feel free to come back. AIBU is a fantastic place for help and support

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