to think grown men and women should be to control their potty mouths....

(38 Posts)
Pigeonpair1 Sat 28-Sep-13 19:15:04

...... in the family stand at football matches?

I've been to enough games to know that emotions run high and that it goes with the territory but was still amazed today that men and women in the Family Stand were screaming the F&C words when surrounded by children (some of them had their own kids with them!).

Moxiegirl Sun 29-Sep-13 21:58:13

I agree with you in principle but it's just so deeply ingrained in football crowds I just can't see it changing. I fucking hate football wink but I have taken ds a few times in the past. He ended up joining in on a couple of offensive (sweary not racist or anything) chants until I stopped him! shock

Rhythmisadancer Sun 29-Sep-13 21:53:49

Agree people should tone it down in the family area. DS1 is 8 and a massive footie fan. He is also a huge fan of catching grown ups swearing, which he doesn't know I do. Massive self control on my part.
One day I am going to sing "my old man said be a Derby fan, I said f**k off b*****ks you're a c**t," for him, and he will have a small heart attack and laugh his head off. Just biding my time really ....

YouHaveAGoodPoint Sun 29-Sep-13 02:01:02

I have asked people to stop swearing at matches. I have done it in a friendly way and people have always been ok. They sometimes forgot after a while though. I am not sure I would ask someone who was really drink though.

YouHaveAGoodPoint Sun 29-Sep-13 01:57:57

YANBU

ZingWantsCake Sun 29-Sep-13 01:56:24

YABU

and take this to the next game

▼▼▼▼Oi▼▼▼▼Ref▼▼▼▼You're▼▼▼▼A▼▼▼▼Twat! ▼▼▼▼▼

yep, that will do

[pleased]

silasramsbottom Sun 29-Sep-13 01:52:21

YANBU. Anyone sitting in a family stand should know to moderate their behaviour, or what is the point of the family stand? But then I live in Glasgow, and it's more than just good old fashioned bad language we have to worry about hmm

JadziasSnacks Sun 29-Sep-13 01:39:46

YANBU, I work at a football ground on match days. Our family stand fans have to curb their language, it's part of sitting in the family area.

Write to the club. Address your complaint to the Safety Officer.

Ilovemyself Sun 29-Sep-13 01:16:14

How dare you criticise football. Don't you realise that anything said is perfectly acceptable, no matter how racist, homophobic, or sexist as it is only made in jest and is all part of the fun of attending.

Pendeen Sat 28-Sep-13 23:52:38

YANBU, but more than that, adults should be able to express themselves without swearing n any situation. It is lazy, often affected, and/or disrespectful and makes anyone who uses foul language sound thick.

Unfortunately MN is infested with contributors who use foul words, possibly to make themselves appear sharp and 'with it' but who actually come across as stupid and unable to express themselves.

Thisvehicleisreversing Sat 28-Sep-13 23:44:47

Swearing at footy matches is just another part of the entertainment grin

My DS's like hearing the chants and find it hilarious when they hear something very rude and naughty. They always come home with stories of 'the old man who said the f word' or 'the sweaty man who called the ref a w'

DS2 took his best friend with him to Old Trafford today, they sat in the Stretford End so Christ knows what they heard grin

cumfy Sat 28-Sep-13 23:33:39

YABU

Footy and zoo for the price of one ticket.

Bargain.

aderynlas Sat 28-Sep-13 22:18:16

Sorry to hear about your dh op. Taking your son to watch qpr is a great idea and im sure he ll love it. Dont worry about the language. My daughter has been going to games all her life and has never repeated it. We swapped places with qpr last season and are really enjoying the prem. Good luck to you and have a good season at loftus rd.

cardibach Sat 28-Sep-13 21:06:25

YABU for using the phrase 'potty mouth'. It really, really irritates me. What dies it even mean? Say they should control their foul language! And even then you WBU, I'm afraid.

I've tried to sing it and exchange tits n fanny for pecs n cock but to no avail sad

There is a delightful chant heard up and down the country....

Oh <team> is wonderful oh <team> is wonderful, its full of tits, fanny and <team> oh <team> is wonderful.

Just pure poetry im sure you will agree.

Yabu but I get you. I personally take more offence to the sexism i hear at football than to the swearing. The passion and frustration leads to swearing, sorry but it does. The sexism, not so much but im not up to giving a lecture on feminism to 300 blokes just yet smile

HeySoulSister Sat 28-Sep-13 20:48:35

It's a great experience. She's been a mascot for reading too

Pigeonpair1 Sat 28-Sep-13 20:46:25

Lucyccfc. I don't have a problem with swearing at matches either. Also love all the chants (some crackers today) and general camaraderie (provided you are sitting with your own fans of course!). I should probably have turned around and asked this couple nicely if they'd tone it down a bit but I was on my own, they stank of booze and I was a bit intimidated to be honest. I really want to continue taking DS (8) in particular as it was something he so enjoyed doing with his dad. Maybe it was just a bad day in the family stand (although QPR won 2-0)!!

I did explain on the way home that what is said in a football ground stays in the football ground and they seemed to understand that! If DS calls me a effing c*nt next week I'll know I didn't quite get the point across grin

Lucyccfc Sat 28-Sep-13 20:35:19

I've been going to football matches for over 25 years home and abroad and don't have an issue with swearing in general at matches. However, my son has been going since he was about 2 and is now 8 and goes in the family stand. The reasons I take him in there, is so that he isn't subjected to lots of foul language and people who have had a tad too much to drink. I pulled a bloke up behind me at Wembley last month and asked him to tone down his language as he was in the family stand and fair play to him - he did say sorry and cut it out.

Yes my son will hear bad language as he grows up, but the whole point of a family stand is a place you can take your kids that is family friendly and this includes not having to listen to a constant tirade of the F, C and T words.

GirlWithTheDirtyShirt Sat 28-Sep-13 20:29:39

I've been going to the football for 25 years. One of the very first things my Dad explained to me is that the language inside the ground, was just that, language for inside the ground. If I repeated it, it was made clear I wouldn't be going to the football again.

To be honest, I swear like a trooper nowadays. I suspect our attitudes to language and it's acceptability are going to change a lot over the next few years

Pigeonpair1 Sat 28-Sep-13 20:26:48

Dawndonaagain - I take your point about family stands being a safe place to watch the game - but actually there were a couple of times when I didn't feel that safe!!

HeySoulSister - DS was Mascot at QPR last week! My husband was a huge Brighton fan but took DS to QPR all the time as it is just down the road from us. One of our friends arranged for DS to be mascot as a sort of tribute and loads of his friends from school came too to support him. The QPR players were amazing. (PS - I wouldn't have minded being in the Chelsea dressing room with Frank Lampard.

Donkeyok Sat 28-Sep-13 20:25:44

sad sorry for you. Good for you for trying to balance his perspective. Once upon a time we tolerated racism in sport. Some other countries seem to manage family sporting events with out this. The change will be slow coming. You would probably be better not going. However a letter to management might not be such a bad thing - is it a bit like refunds could they provide you a private box. No probably not.

Sirzy Sat 28-Sep-13 20:24:37

But even if people in the family stand were being lovely and polite they would still have been able to hear what was being shouted from elsewhere in the ground.

heysoul I think comparing behaviour of players when meeting young fans and behaviour of people sat watching the game is an unfair, and unrealistic comparison.

HeySoulSister Sat 28-Sep-13 20:21:28

I'm with you op!

My dd was a mascot for Chelsea once. John terry, lampard etc took time with her, she was in the changing rooms. Not one swear word to be heard from any player.

Dawndonnaagain Sat 28-Sep-13 20:20:47

Taking the kids is a lovely idea. Family stands were started not to protect their precious little ears, though. It was to ensure a safe place to watch a game. It is a safe space to enjoy the game. You can't control the language. Whether or not it is unreasonable to expect people to tone it down, I don't know. I really don't have a problem with taboo language, neither do I have a problem with my children using it when it's appropriate.

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