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To not buy my 11 month old any Christmas presents?

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sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:05:01

My baby will be 11 months at Christmas with his 1st birthday a month later.

We have a large family with lots of grandparents, aunts and uncles and friends so he is going to receive a huge number of gifts.

Due to this I decided to not buy him anything because he's not going to have a clue about presents and who from. I'm not doing it to be a tight wad just because he's going to have loads as it is plus we'll be getting asked left, right and centre what everyone should buy him.

Anytime I've told anyone this they have been horrified, including DP to begin with, which has now made me think I am being unreasonable to not buy my son anything for Christmas.

What do you think?

ChestyNut Fri 27-Sep-13 10:08:39

Makes sense.

Is there anything you'd have to buy anyway you could wrap for photos/ 1st christmas memories?

I'm a compulsive christmas buyer tho blush

What about a baby's first christmas decoration?

noUggscuse Fri 27-Sep-13 10:08:39

YABU. It doesn't have to be something expensive, just something from the heart.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 27-Sep-13 10:09:50

I always think these threads are sad.

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:09:58

YANBU, he won't have a clue. I am buying presents for my baby who will be 6 months old but she won't be getting much from family so I am buying her clothes and toys/books to last until her birthday in the summer and then will be doing the same then to last until next Christmas. If she was going to be given all of this stuff already I wouldn't bother buying her anything extra.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 27-Sep-13 10:10:31

"What did you get me for my very first Christmas Mum? Can you remember?"

"Errrrrr...."

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:11:35

Why are they sad? It's nice if you can afford to be extravagant but there's no need for it if the baby is getting loads of presents already. He won't know.

oldgrandmama Netherlands Fri 27-Sep-13 10:11:44

As you say, he won't notice the lack of a present from you. But how about opening a savings account for him and bunging a few quid in? Or getting a nice money box, and doing the same?

BuskersCat Fri 27-Sep-13 10:12:05

my dd was 9 months old on her first Christmas, and yes she was more interested in the paper and boxes, but those pictures, and memories of her tipping out her stocking will last a lifetime.

Onlyconnect Fri 27-Sep-13 10:12:27

YANBU. I think even if he poses ohforduckscake's question in years to come you can tell the truth and he will see what you mean.

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:12:28

I doubt OP means she won't even get one token thing.

sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:14:13

I'll def be buying a first Christmas thing. Nearly bought one last year with his name on it because we knew the sex and name but my DP talked me out of it until he was here. I got him a gorgeous Christmas jumper last year to wear on Christmas day but he's a wee tank so it won't fit him! smile

Why do you find threads like these sad Ducks?

whitewineforme Fri 27-Sep-13 10:14:15

YANBU. I bought lots of presents for my baby's first Christmas when he was 6 months old, we also have a big family and he got a ridiculous amount of presents. For his 1st birthday I had learnt my lesson and just got him 2 small presents as I knew he would get spoilt again! Maybe you could see what he receives and then buy him something afterwards that you feel he really needs, or put the money aside for a family day out?

BaldricksTurnip Fri 27-Sep-13 10:15:00

I think it's a bit miserable tbh.

bicyclefish Fri 27-Sep-13 10:15:49

YANBU, the first years of a childs life you are constantly buying things that will help them adapt and grow and they do this at such an alarming and wonderful rate (hopefully!) that the toys and curious etc that you do get them are soon discarded for something more interesting and age appropriate so it's basically like one long Christmas anyway, at least for your bank balance!
However, I do think you would feel a bit sad in later years if you didn't get 'something' to mark Babys first Christmas, maybe simply a decoration for the tree that they can always put on every year and know it was their special one, for your special one.

CruCru Fri 27-Sep-13 10:16:09

Why not do her a small stocking? Doesn't have to be fancy but will make you feel a bit more like your first Christmas as a family.

In any case, other people won't (or shouldn't) be doing stockings for him. That is a parent's job.

rumbelina Colombia Fri 27-Sep-13 10:17:37

I have never asked my parents what they got me for my first Christmas nor do I even remember what we got ds(now 3) for his.

YAsooooNBU

IKnewHouseworkWasDangerous Fri 27-Sep-13 10:17:48

Well you are and arent being unreasonable. I think you will be sad if he has nothing at all from you. On the other hand it is silly to buy just for the sake of it. I would go for something he will need anyway. A new outfit. Stacking cups.....stacking cups are always a winner. Cheap cheerful and great for learning motor skills.

YABU. Don't you want to buy anything? An 11 month old will be able to play with wrapping paper etc. And any visiting children would find it appalling if your DD was forgotten.

SoYo Fri 27-Sep-13 10:19:10

I'm going to buy our then to be 10mo a decoration for the tree and her next size up car seat. That way she still has a gift from us and the rest of the extended family can provide the fun factor.

rumbelina Colombia Fri 27-Sep-13 10:19:11

Yy to the decoration actually. we have got one every year for ds and I write on a paper bag which is from which year.

WowOoo Colombia Fri 27-Sep-13 10:19:15

We did the same and bought something very small but special for both ds1 and 2.

When we were asked what we were buying, we said we hadn't decided yet, but something very small.

I also get mine to choose a Christmas tree decoration now - but only in the January sales. blush
They have the ones from last year's sale to get excited about!

mum2jakie Fri 27-Sep-13 10:20:26

I don't think you are unreasonable at all. You will remember your baby's first Christmas and it will be special for that very reason. You don't need to feel guilty about being sensible. Why feel obliged to buy stuff for the sake of it?

I would get your baby a lovely card and a book and wouldn't think twice about buying anything more. Enjoy your little one's first Christmas!

nancy75 Fri 27-Sep-13 10:22:35

nothing at all? Could you not even buy a teddy or something?

I agree with the poster that finds these threads sad, it doesn't matter what other people are buying, I can't imagine getting nothing for my own child's first christmas

Boobybeau Fri 27-Sep-13 10:22:59

Oh, they really do know a bit, my dd lover helping unwrap all the gifts and it was lovely to see their little faces. Can you go to your local toy library and borrow something, wrap that up and then when the novelty wears off/new toys are given you can give it back and it's not cost you a sausage. I can totally understand of its a cost/religious belief thing but you have another 3mths of development yet which is a l

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