To not like myself that much, especially on here

(65 Posts)
SocksinBoots Thu 26-Sep-13 19:34:22

I've just had a cringey look through my old posts (under loads of different usernames) and I think I sound like an arsehole.

I try to respond to new posts and then read back my reply and think "ugh, what a pratt/arsehole/whiner" and then go back to Active Convos.

BlatantRedhead Sat 28-Sep-13 02:04:18

I always start writing responses to posts then think 'oh my god I'm boring myself' and delete them.

Exactly this..

MrsKoala Sat 28-Sep-13 01:59:20

I NC in Jan as my old name was a pet name my exH gave me and i got re-married so it felt disloyal. But even when i think i've been an exceptional bellend i never NC. But i found some people who had given me a really hard time, suddenly were really nice to me, even when the same subjects arose and i wrote the same opinions. So i do think sometimes people recognise you and no matter what you say they are going to have a go, so it's nice to start afresh. I try to take each thread as new and even when i see posters i have had run ins with before, if i agree with them or find something they say funny, i will always agree and support them.

I think if you aren't reflective about what you say to people (whether in rl and on the internet - sometimes the web is worse because it is anonymous you can really be an arsehole with little repurcussions) there is something a little 'missing' somewhere. Self assessment is how i develop as a person, i can't imagine what a bigger twat i'd be if i didn't review myself and have word every now and then. <see, that's the kind of worthy shite i was talking about, it even has some kind of psychology lite, oprah style 'development' bullshit. I may start grading my posts - 7/10, excellent pretensions but lacking depth on the cod psychology grin

ZingWantsCake Sat 28-Sep-13 01:20:12

I can't tell of YABU or not without reading some of your posts you deem rubbish.

I NC a few times, mainly for fun.
I had the piss taken out of my first username a few times, and I got bored with that attitude.

randomAXEofkindness Sat 28-Sep-13 01:01:25

grin at "waffle a load of worthy shite" - that's all I ever friggin do in rl.

MrsKoala Fri 27-Sep-13 23:31:10

My posts are completely mood affected. So regardless of the tone of the OP i just blunder in however i feel. If i'm in a playful mood i can be so flippant and other times i'm in a serious mood and waffle a load of worthy shite, talking about some academic theory or some bollocks. Sometimes i go back to a thread and cringe. It's not helped by the massive time difference here. Some threads move so fast i find it hard to keep up. By the time i've posted, my 'witty' observation is tired and has been pointed out better by others.

I am a hoot in rl tho, honest.

Arcadia Fri 27-Sep-13 23:24:02

I know exactly what you mean. I dislike my online persona and can't seem to 'get on' with people on here whereas in RL I usually get on with people really easily and make people laugh! I think I sound boring and pedantic on here, maybe because I don't want to offend people.
My mumsnet confidence shattering moment was when I posted about a horrible former boss in employment board and someone said he was right to be annoyed that I got pregnant. Hmmm. Can't remember what else she said but I got really upset and deleted the thread. I used a different name luckily.
Mumsnet is such a mixture of good and bad stuff. I mainly just lurk these days. Am shocked by some of the nasty stuff I see though.

NoelHeadbands Fri 27-Sep-13 23:16:32

Fuckid am bit sloshed

Really? You don't say!

DioneTheDiabolist Fri 27-Sep-13 23:12:41

So why have you posted Parmarella?wink

Parmarella Fri 27-Sep-13 22:53:15

Fuckid am bit sloshed

Parmarella Fri 27-Sep-13 22:52:47

I don't think anyone gives sfuck about a random person's opinions.

OP, I don't even recognize your posts, so I have simply no opinion about you.

Most people on here just puss about onda internet, nobody is going to write a psychiatric character profile based on your posts.

I know I am a bitch in this post, cos Zi can be, but slso, in thd nicest way: don't worry!!!!!

DioneTheDiabolist Fri 27-Sep-13 21:48:07

Errol, thank you.blush I can assure you however that there are plenty of members who think I'm a right twat.grin

Having read this thread I can see why people periodically ask for a like button. I have read many posts that have not commented on, but have stirred an emotion, inspired me or given me food for thought. I doubt I am unique in this. No one's posts are

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 27-Sep-13 09:17:20

Im the same preciousbane, also I feel invisible on here most of the time. I just come on to talk to myself grin

arethereanyleftatall Fri 27-Sep-13 08:59:24

I'm the same op. My posts are shit but I absolutely promise I'm nice in rl.

Preciousbane Fri 27-Sep-13 08:58:46

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

randomAXEofkindness Fri 27-Sep-13 08:54:28

Arrhh shucks, thanks Calloh grin. I want to think of another funny thing to say, but I honestly think it was a one off.

Calloh Fri 27-Sep-13 08:28:56

Random, I didn't think that was boring, I thought it was hilarious and I laughed out loud. Mumsnet makes me laugh so much but i rarely then post about it. So I suppose we often don't know how people react to posts anyway.

randomAXEofkindness Fri 27-Sep-13 07:20:08

I name-changed from nocoolusernameYO because I reread my comments and realized that I sounded like a thick version of Sheldon off the big bang theory. I thought I'd try being one of these likeable counselor type clever people. But I sound exactly the same, because it's still me writing the posts. I can't help but write everything like I'm writing a letter to the council, except the grammar is worse because I don't edit it 60 times, like I do with letters to the council... you see? I'm boring myself.

WhiteandGreen Fri 27-Sep-13 02:11:47

Name change as much as you like. I do now and then, when I've said something really prattish.

When you reread something daft you've said it feels as real as if you've just said it, whereas in RL such incidents fade into the distance.

SocksinBoots Fri 27-Sep-13 01:29:15

Sorry, fell asleep shortly after posting.

Thanks for making me feel normal. I shall try to stop the cowardly name changes smile

Countess Bathory... Now there was a woman who got what she wanted.

I think I am insightful and wise and everyone should fall about laughing at my great wit and acknowledge my advice as the definitive for their situation.

Back in the real world...

FunnysInLaJardin Thu 26-Sep-13 22:45:55

I think we need to apply the handbag and watch test to NCing. I for example keep the same handbag and watch come what may and indeed only own one bag/watch. Others I know chop and change according to their mood. It seems alien to me, I would feel disloyal to my handbag/watch. And I feel the same about my MN name <freak>

ElizabethBathory Thu 26-Sep-13 21:19:05

I nc all the time because I think I'm coming across as a twat. With each nc I think right that's it, I'm not going to sound like a twat now, but after a couple of minutes days I've said something cringeworthy again.

Not going to nc again now I know everyone else feels the same grin Plus I love my new name.

LRDMaguliYaPomochTebeSRaboti Thu 26-Sep-13 21:17:32

Oh, I agree usual but I am sure I come across pretty much the same in RL. It's just in RL you don't get the chance to analyse as it's not all written down.

No one else will ever agonize over what you say as much as you.

southeastastra Thu 26-Sep-13 21:14:17

if we over analysed everything we said on here mn just wouldnt exist

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