to think my brother should buy me a pram?

(91 Posts)
AnnunziataSono Thu 26-Sep-13 18:37:48

He wants me to mind my nephew for one day a week, which is fine. But I will need a double buggy because I will have two babies! He said we can go half and half, but I really resent that. He said there's no point in him buying something that he won't be able to use.

He'll get a cheap double on eBay or gumtree etc. no way would I pay towards it unless he is paying you for the child care

stiffstink Thu 26-Sep-13 18:39:53

And how much is he paying you? If its zero tell him to fuck off.

His son wil be using though. My friend had same issue with her cousin. She looked after her cousins son 2 days a week free and her cousin wouldn't even go half's on a dpuble

Phineyj Thu 26-Sep-13 18:40:32

Why won't he be able to use it? Won't he ever take care of your DC in return? Yes he should buy it. Also, if he's being this tight when you are going to be doing him a massive favour, I think I'd say no, because he will presumably also be tight about paying for all the other stuff his child will need on those days. You might like to divide the cost of a secondhand double buggy by the cost of a day's nursery care round you and calculate how many days it will take to break even!

FeckOffCup Thu 26-Sep-13 18:41:44

YANBU unless you are a registered childminder charging the going rate in which case you provide the equipment.

Redlocks30 Thu 26-Sep-13 18:41:47

Just say that you can't have his son at all then! You've massively got the upper hand here!

Sleepybunny Thu 26-Sep-13 18:42:00

LTB

AnnunziataSono Thu 26-Sep-13 18:42:37

I knew I was right! No, he won't pay me anything, and he probably won't ever look after mine.

Tell him to get fucked then.

Maybe not those words grin

StuntGirl Thu 26-Sep-13 18:46:26

Tell him you won't be having his son then. Easy peasy. redlocks is right that you hold all the cards here!

Jambi Thu 26-Sep-13 18:47:58

Fat chance! You're saving him a load of money, what a cheek!

expatinscotland Thu 26-Sep-13 18:48:10

Very simple: he finds someone else to look after his son.

We no and no and no.

Do not look after his child for free and go not cough up for any bloody thing.

Freeloading cheeky fucker.

thebody Thu 26-Sep-13 18:48:17

don't be a daft walk over. having a child for a day will cost you.

he needs to buy a double buggy and provide food, nappies etc. also contribute to cost of toys/ activities.

you have the upper hand so use it. what is your sil like?

unless you get in with them I would say no as it's a big responsibility and trust works both ways.

YoureBeingADick Thu 26-Sep-13 18:49:07

don't agree to have his son! it hasn't even started and already he is taking the piss out of you. it will happen again and again with different things if you agree to have his son. your choice but you have been warned. he's a chancer!

SugarMiceInTheRain Thu 26-Sep-13 18:52:00

A unanimous YANBU so far grin He, however, is being a cheap, ungrateful freeloader. Don't look after your nephew. If he is already taking you for granted, things will only get worse!

dont be a doormat. YOU dont need a double buggy.

Just tell him, fine, dont buy the double buggy, and find somebody who has one already to mind your son.

Cataline Thu 26-Sep-13 18:54:11

Your brother is a cheeky sod. Tell him to do one!

KippyVonKipperson Thu 26-Sep-13 18:56:02

This is so cheeky! I can't believe he is expecting you to buy a double buggy! Anything you are out of pocket for on account of looking after his child he should cover.

This doesn't bode well for the future of this arrangement does it? I can't see it working out but at the very least you need to have a month trial period or something

IdaClair Thu 26-Sep-13 18:57:42

YANBU, he should buy anything you need to look after his son, especially if you are doing it for free.

hermioneweasley Thu 26-Sep-13 19:00:17

Are you a complete doormat?

AnnunziataSono Thu 26-Sep-13 19:01:41

It's very nice to be told that you're right! Don't get on with SIL at all.

McNewPants2013 Thu 26-Sep-13 19:05:23

yanbu, a double buggy is a bargin cost in regards to childcare cost.

A cheap double stroller is what £100-£150 new.

pooka Thu 26-Sep-13 19:09:41

Don't do it!

Your brother is being ridiculous and you don't get on with your sil.

Nothing you do when looking after your dn will be good enough. Just knock the idea on the head now.

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