Kissing goodbye at school

(66 Posts)
OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 10:22:39

AIBU to think it's not on to make your child give you a kiss goodbye before going into school when they clearly don't want to?

My ds 6 doesn't want to and I wouldn't dream of making him.

I am going to bawl my eyes out the day DS stops wanting a kiss. He's Year 2 and always kisses me and runs at me at pick-up. I reckon that even if embarrassed, kids still feel loved and that is more important than what their mates think.

Namechangesforthehardstuff Sat 28-Sep-13 08:42:35

Yup.

ballstoit Sat 28-Sep-13 08:29:25

DS is 8. Each morning he walks off, I call 'you've forgotten something'. He comes back and I kiss him.

To an outsider, that might look like me forcing him to kiss goodbye. To DS and I, it's part of our morning. He needs to seem reluctant to kiss me, so as not to be embarrassed in front of his friends. However, the one morning I didn't do it, he complained in the evening that I hadn't kissed him. smile

elfycat Sat 28-Sep-13 08:11:32

*social worker
she'd

elfycat Sat 28-Sep-13 08:10:31

I insisted DD1, reception year, kissed DH before running into school. She doesn't normally kiss us as she's too busy following her friends in. But he was going away to work for 3 weeks before she's get home, and we'll see him again mid-Oct. I think I'll be insisting on kisses for him for many years - but only once every 6 weeks.

One of my acquaintances / potential friends amongst the parent is a social working working for SS. Maybe I should check? wink

Oh dear?

Namechangesforthehardstuff Fri 27-Sep-13 23:42:36

'making them accept hugs/kisses'

Oh dear.

I agree that making them accept hugs/kisses isn't the same as making them give hugs/kisses. I've deliberately never insisted on the latter.

BrawToken Fri 27-Sep-13 22:41:17

Kiss them as much as possible when they are wee smile

DramaAlpaca Fri 27-Sep-13 22:21:14

Worra that's a lovely story. DS1 who's nearly 20 will now happily hug me in front of his friends. His younger brothers aren't quite as brave grin.

WorraLiberty Fri 27-Sep-13 22:08:28

Drama, when my DS1 was about 13 he was going on a residential trip with the school.

He gave me a kiss and a cuddle as he got on the coach and his mates started taking the piss.

He turned to them and said, "So? I love my Mum, don't you love yours?"

They looked offended and said, "Yes of course we do".

So he said, "Good, then go and give them a kiss" grin

One by one they all turned and kissed their Mums...who just stood there looking stunned but secretly pleased.

fieldfare Fri 27-Sep-13 22:08:25

My dd is 11 and is still a cuddly and kissy girl. I love it. On the odd occasion when she's got the hump over something, I call out to her that I love her. When she ignores me I get louder and louder "but dd, I REALLY love you, I'm going to miss you all day long!" she then walks off trying not to smile and failing. I know I've cheered her up by being daft and I don't care how many people know that I love her.
Even her friends greet me with a hug, especially if they're a but glum about something.

DramaAlpaca Fri 27-Sep-13 22:04:37

My 13 year old nephew totally forgot himself & gave his mum a kiss goodbye outside school last week, in front of his friends. He was mortified, she was secretly thrilled. grin

Emilyeggs Fri 27-Sep-13 22:02:13

i kiss and cuddle my dc all the time, but only if they want me to

How about when you want to op?

WorraLiberty Fri 27-Sep-13 21:59:51

When my DS was in year 2 I was standing gossiping chatting to another Mum.

All of a sudden I noticed the line was going in, and I panicked and kissed the wrong child! grin

They're in year 6 now and the poor boy still avoids me, with a look of terror in his eyes grin

Jinty64 Fri 27-Sep-13 21:56:46

Dh took ds2's (16) hand to cross the road recently. To make it worse they were right outside the school gates. Ds will only take a lift to school from me now!

grabaspoon Fri 27-Sep-13 21:38:05

Sometimes my charge 5.11 wants hugs, kisses the whole shebang grin other times he does a little wave and skips off without any interaction sad Why do they grow up sad

womma Fri 27-Sep-13 21:34:59

I make sure DD goes into class with a big lipstick kiss on her cheek every day. It's my motherly duty.

lisylisylou Fri 27-Sep-13 07:13:05

At end of school yesterday in the playground I let out a little scream yesterday! My kids come running out and up so fast that I thought dd (7) was going to headbutt me in the stomach! She's like a little battering ram lol. Then my ds (9) comes out running up, he hugs me and then lifts his feet off the floor so he's dangling like a chimpanzee. Then the coats and bags get flung at me and they run back off into the playground to play tig!! The parents just stare and laugh now!!

QueenofallIsee Thu 26-Sep-13 14:15:53

My 8 yr olds don't and my 15 yr old is getting to what I call the 'luvvie' stage i.e. she has gone full circle since being little and now hugs and kisses on cheek as a greeting to anyone and everyone

Littlest boy (6) will whisper - quick kiss Mum now, after checking no one is watching.

SunshineMMum Thu 26-Sep-13 12:06:17

YANBU, They shouldn't 'have' to. Sometimes I am very grateful for my huggy, autistic son. Mind you I had to tell him not to hold my hand now he is at secondary sad.

cocoplops Thu 26-Sep-13 11:51:28

Luckily mine still do at 5 and 8. I wouldn't if they don't want it. My MIL dropped my 5yo off and she was miffed that he wouldn't kiss her on the lips, only the cheek! hmm

OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 11:48:38

I still think its quite selfish to do it when the child doesn't want it.

My ds was happy for me to kiss him goodbye in reception but not after that.
I always say bye, love you, have a nice day. He's fine with that and if he is then I am too.

SugarHut Thu 26-Sep-13 11:43:52

I wish...it's the school run...I'm more likely to leave him with a questionable looking brown smear across his face because I've driven there munching nutella on toast grin

Jellybeanz1 Thu 26-Sep-13 11:39:46

Awwh Sugar do you leave Chanel lippy on his cheek? smile

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