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Kissing goodbye at school

(66 Posts)
OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 10:22:39

AIBU to think it's not on to make your child give you a kiss goodbye before going into school when they clearly don't want to?

My ds 6 doesn't want to and I wouldn't dream of making him.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed Thu 26-Sep-13 10:26:27

Call SS

tywysogesgymraeg Thu 26-Sep-13 10:26:58

If it embarrassed them, I absolutely would! That's the job of a parent isn't it? Embarrassing your children that is
grin

Bowlersarm Thu 26-Sep-13 10:27:44

Depends on the age to a certain extent, but I don't actually think it's a problem.

Yorkieaddict Thu 26-Sep-13 10:28:03

YANBU, but I will be gutted when DS decides he doesn't want me to kiss him goodbye at school. He is 6, and thankfully quite happy so far!

YoureBeingADick Thu 26-Sep-13 10:29:29

Yabu! Thats the most fun i have until pick up time. He loves the headlock kisses really wink

mrsmindcontrol Thu 26-Sep-13 10:30:38

Did you see me forcing my DS1 aged 7 to kiss me this morning while he screamed GET OFF ME!!! at the top of his voice?
He loves it really *

* he doesn't. But I think it's funny.

DaleyBump Thu 26-Sep-13 10:32:11

biscuit

OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 10:32:33

The boy was 10 and his dad called him back to kiss him. He so didn't want to.

My dad used to regularly embarrass me and i will try not to do it to my kids.

The call SS comment was a bit silly.

phantomhairpuller Thu 26-Sep-13 10:34:57

And it's your business why?!

OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 10:35:03

Thanks for my first biscuit.

I just think its hard enough at school to make friends and fit in. Why would you want to do that to your child when all their class can see.

Not a major problem in the scheme of things I suppose.

OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 10:36:22

Not my business and would never say anything but I don't go around with my eyes shut.

IneedAyoniNickname Thu 26-Sep-13 10:36:29

My 9 year old year 4 ds would hate it if I didn't kiss him. Most of his peers would hate it!
I'd stop if he didn't like it but I'm glad he does smile

thesnowmanrocks Thu 26-Sep-13 10:36:46

smile it's the law, kiss goodbye at school gates. My ds5 still loves it, and as i do and always will he will always be getting a kiss goodbye from me. No matter if he wants it or not. smile

Sparklysilversequins Thu 26-Sep-13 10:36:58

Me and dd say goodbye like we are in a rom com, huge hugs and loads of kisses. I will be gutted when she stops wanting to. I wouldn't force her to, no but I think that when they're grown up kids will remember the love and kisses themselves not that they were embarrassed by them.

YoureBeingADick Thu 26-Sep-13 10:37:20

Yeah my dad did it too- its a rite of passage- happens to us all- its really NOT a big deal. My sons knows its a bit of fun. We do fun in this house. Give it a whirl. You might like it. wink

I think not making a child do anything with their body that they don't want to is a very important lesson. As such, I don't make DS kiss or be kissed by anyone if he doesn't want it.

Tailtwister Thu 26-Sep-13 10:40:37

Personally I wouldn't force them if they didn't want to. DS1 is fine with a hug and a kiss atm, but he's only 5. As he gets older I suspect he'll change.

Tailtwister Thu 26-Sep-13 10:41:22

I agree TravelinColour.

mrsfuzzy Thu 26-Sep-13 10:46:41

my 12 y ds and i like to lark about, before he goes out the door to school we do very theatrical air kisses along with 'see you later darrllling!!" silly,but fun! but i do agree with travelincolour, it's got to be acceptable to both parties.

OneToThree Thu 26-Sep-13 10:47:24

I don't make mine kiss their grandparents goodbye either. I always ask them if they want to.

They do if they do, don't if they don't. No issue with either.

I kiss and cuddle my dcs all the time but only when they want me to.

Nancy66 Thu 26-Sep-13 10:48:42

I'm not even allowed to wave at my son any more. That's embarrassing as well apparently.

Tee2072 Thu 26-Sep-13 10:49:46

Nothing more important than teaching a child that their body is their own.

YANBU

Dobbiesmum Thu 26-Sep-13 10:54:01

Agree with Tee and Travellin. DS stopped kissing me goodbye ages ago, he now pats me on the head and calls me 'little mum' when his friends call for him in the morning. He's 12 and taller than me My revenge will be sweet...

PeppermintPasty Thu 26-Sep-13 10:59:53

My ds is six, and I am lucky (to go by what other mothers of 6 yo boys tell me) in that he really is the most cuddly boy, always has been.

In the last year or so, he has been less keen to hold my hand when we're out and I would never force him, nor would I kiss him by force at this age I probably will later ie at 14 when it's super-embarrassing.

What I tend to do when no one else is about is say to him, in a conspiratiorial fashion, "let's hold hands while nobody's looking!". He falls for it loves it and I get my craved contact, needy mother that I am.

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