Or is this an odd thing to do in Mcdonalds ?

(83 Posts)
OhDearNigel Wed 25-Sep-13 19:09:12

My Dd is not yet 4 so i don't know whether the following is odd or normal

Took DD today and she ran to sit with a girl who was on her own. So i sat with her, assuming that the woman standing behind the girl was her mum. It then became clear she wasn't. The girl was chatting away and as time went by i thought "she doesn't seem to be with anyone". So nudged the conversation in the direction of her school, how old she was etc. she was 7, thinking that i may end up having to do something. We had been there about 35 minutes with no sign of an adult when a suitable opportunity to ask "are you waiting to be picked up" arose.

To which she pointed at a man with a baby and said "my dad's over there". blush he was right over the other side of the restaurant with his back towards us, separated by a partition. He had not realised she was talking to me until she went over and he came to apologise for her bothering me. She wasn't with any friends when we went in where, just sitting sadly on her own in the middle of the restaurant.

Is it just me or is this a very odd thing to do with a 7 year old child ?

MissStrawberry Wed 25-Sep-13 19:28:20

OP, I can see this thread becoming all about how strange you are to interact with a child you don't know, rather than people actually answering the question.

I have no idea if it is odd to sit a distance away from your children in McDonalds as we have only been about twice and the kids sat with me.

I think it is lovely you gave this child some attention and she obviously enjoyed that otherwise she would have gone back to her father.

If DD wanted to sit on one of those communal bench things, I'd let her but I probably wouldn't sit with her. But I would be keeping a close eye on her and would probably have wandered over to check you were normal say Hi when you started chatting.

So it is weird her dad wasn't aware of where she was or who she was speaking to, it is also a little weird that you didn't ask where her family were sooner.

Floggingmolly Wed 25-Sep-13 19:31:03

Really, picnicbasketcase? You'd have interrogated the child as to where her parents were within seconds of meeting her? Op didn't "meet" her, she shared a communal table; and the Dad could well have been in the loo. None of op's business, really.

OutragedFromLeeds Wed 25-Sep-13 19:33:41

Not knowing what your 7 year old is doing/who they're talking to/where they are for 35 minutes - perfectly good parenting.

Not taking it upon yourself to locate the parents of a strange DC in Macdonalds- you're bizarre/strange/odd.

Yep, that seems right. hmm

Yamyoid Wed 25-Sep-13 19:34:45

I agree, the dad was lax. I admit to having slight helicopter tendencies but even so, 35 minutes is a long time.
I also have a sociable ds so sitting with another child at a communal table would be totally normal to us.

NoComet Wed 25-Sep-13 19:58:52

Climb anything DD1 would sit at those tables on her own when DD2 was too small to do so safely. She'd happily chat to anyone too.

However, I would look over often enough to check she wasn't being too annoying, that you'd see who she was with.

Dad with a baby not doing doesn't surprise me, remember me can't multi task. Feed baby they can cope with, feed baby and watch older child hmm

Sounds like she wanted a high seat and he didn't with the baby

lagertops Wed 25-Sep-13 20:21:15

I know this has nothing to do with anything, but those stupid high seats should be banned anyway. I've seen a small child fall backwards onto his head onto the floor after mucking about on them. The low seats are also stupid as they make grown adults look like they are in a creche.

Plus why oh why would the designers think communal tables are a good idea? My school canteen days are over, I feel odd trying to have a conversation with my friends/ family while there is a stranger in the seat next to me.

LegoAcupuncture Wed 25-Sep-13 20:26:21

She was 7, not 3. My children at that age liked to sit in the higher chairs by themselves while I sat nearby. Quite able to do it themselves at that age tbh.

DoJo Wed 25-Sep-13 21:05:03

Would she had had to pass him were she to leave? If so, then I can imagine him not checking on her - she is old enough to go and find him if she had a problem after all. If not then that is a bit odd not to even check that she's still there, but presumably she's a fairly sensible sort and he trusts her not to bugger about when he's not looking. I don't think either of you are necessarily being unreasonable, but I can see why you might have been surprised if his parenting style was dramatically more relaxed than yours.

DoJo Wed 25-Sep-13 21:05:51

By which I don't mean to imply that you aren't relaxed, just that he is moreso than you!

WorraLiberty Wed 25-Sep-13 21:09:48

it was one of those high, communal bench things they have

Ahh that'll be it then no doubt.

I've lost count of the amount of times my kids have asked to sit on those and I hate them.

She probably asked if she could go sit on one and he said yes?

gordyslovesheep Wed 25-Sep-13 21:11:49

what Worra said - also my girls like to sit alone - they hate me grin - I think they are being 'sophisticated' and playing mums to their little sister - I have to sit in the corner nursing a diet coke

Cluffyflump Wed 25-Sep-13 21:13:16

The Dad could well have looked over many times and you wouldn't have noticed.

fuckwittery Wed 25-Sep-13 21:15:02

My dd would sit by herself for this long, but I'd clock where she was amd look over every 5 minutes or so.

Jellybeanz1 Wed 25-Sep-13 21:16:43

He was probably using you as free childcare.

ginmakesitallok Wed 25-Sep-13 21:20:42

Dd1 (almost 4) decided that she didn't want to sit with us in a restaurant the other day as we were all stinky... She lifted her plate and went and sat at an empty table across the room. Maybe the daddy was stinky???

picnicbasketcase Wed 25-Sep-13 21:30:06

Floggingmolly hmm - no idea what gave you the impression that I would have searched for the child's parent if I was in the same situation. I would've just moved tables tbh.

WorraLiberty Wed 25-Sep-13 21:40:12

He probably just didn't want to sit on a stool the height of a skyscraper, that you can't even lean back on.

I often see kids sitting on those things alone because most adults would rather not have to.

OhDearNigel Wed 25-Sep-13 21:46:26

This is why i posted on here smile i had no idea that 7 year olds liked to go off and sit on their own ! I was a proper mummy's girl and dd is too young to want to.

I have to say i quite enjoyed it. I like talking to children, no "side" wink

Floggingmolly Wed 25-Sep-13 21:52:32

picnicbasket. I'm so sorry blush. I was responding to shakeRattleNroll's rather odd post which came after yours. That'll teach me to read the thread properly...

LazyGaga Wed 25-Sep-13 21:59:37

I have a 7 yr old dd. I would feel uneasy if she was sat in another part of a burger place and I couldn't see her. Tbh she'd rarely be in her own as we have two other dc - if they all wanted to sit at a separate table, fair enough, but I'd be close by.

I don't think you're odd for finding it unusual OP.

Bumpotato Wed 25-Sep-13 22:11:36

Who spends 35 minutes at McDogshit's?

OhDearNigel Wed 25-Sep-13 22:27:37

Hmmmm, i don't remember posting "I spent 35 minutes in maccy d's. Aibu ?"

Although, apparently, it was buried somewhere in the subtext

ProudAS Thu 26-Sep-13 06:34:48

I used to do that on buses - wanted a bit of independance.

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