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to be fed up with DH deciding he needs his shower when its the kids bedtime?

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BoozyBear Mon 23-Sep-13 18:59:21

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turn the shower off............

littlemisswise Mon 23-Sep-13 19:02:34

Why can't they go in there?

I would just take them in and carry on if it were me.

littlemissnormal Mon 23-Sep-13 19:02:41

Run the hot water tap!

Johnny5needsinput Mon 23-Sep-13 19:02:41

Run the hot tap in the kitchen.

TeaAddict235 Mon 23-Sep-13 19:02:43

Start doing something else like washing up or cleaning, and ask him to give the kids a quick bath! Do it reguarly, and he'll get the message.

Madamecastafiore Mon 23-Sep-13 19:02:56

Why can you not go in there when he is showering?

MortifiedAdams Mon 23-Sep-13 19:03:14

Send them in with him, "go with daddy, he will do your teeth before he has his shower".

BoozyBear Mon 23-Sep-13 19:05:34

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BlackeyedSusan Mon 23-Sep-13 19:07:54

turning the water off at the stop cock would though. [grumpy]

EllesAngel Mon 23-Sep-13 19:11:57

Start getting them ready at 6.50pm from tomorrow.

NotYoMomma Mon 23-Sep-13 19:15:00

take the piss out of him. or next time when he says he is about to go in, dart in first and lock the door abd point out its no different to what he does

BlackholesAndRevelations Mon 23-Sep-13 19:21:36

Jeez how utterly selfish and thoughtless! Tuen the water heater off so he has no hot water <wicked emoticon- don't think I'd be mean enough to do that!>

BoozyBear Mon 23-Sep-13 19:22:09

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AnyFucker Mon 23-Sep-13 19:25:15

Why doesn't Daddy do the bed routine thing while he is up there ?

BoozyBear Mon 23-Sep-13 19:29:28

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MissStrawberry Mon 23-Sep-13 19:32:20

Because he doesn't want too.

He prats about getting himself sorted so that he doesn't have to do any parenting.

IrisWildthyme Mon 23-Sep-13 19:33:29

How unbelievably selfish!

Until such time as he sees the error of his ways - get a potty (if you don't already have one) for last minute toilet before bed. BUT make it a house rule that whoever is monopolizing the bathroom is in charge of emptying and cleaning the potty if it has to be used while the bathroom can't be accessed. Teeth cleaning can be done anywhere in the house - you just need a glass of water from the kitchen and an empty glass to spit into.

TBH though I'm not sure I'd bother with a relationship with someone quite that self-centred. Nor am I quite sure what the value is of a relationship where you feel more able to moan to complete strangers on mumsnet about this kind of annoying behaviour rather than addressing the issue with him. It's not like it's emotional or physical abuse, it's just unthoughtfulness and if he's a grownup it should go: "I'm having a shower"/"Please hold off for 10 minutes while I do the kids teeth"/"OK" or alternately "I'll need the bathroom for the kids bedtime in half an hour - can you make sure you're done with the shower by then". If these conversations can't happen, there is something much more seriously wrong than the timing of the kids bedtime. I mean, have you not talked to him about it?

Therealamandaclarke Mon 23-Sep-13 19:38:07

That would drive me nuts tbh.
If he did it regularly I would have something happen to the lock. Just remove or disable it. Things are always getting broken in homes aren't they?
Then be clear about the Dcs routine and stick to it.
He can either shower before, after or with them. Without you having to wait or rush.

BoozyBear Mon 23-Sep-13 19:40:19

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Therealamandaclarke Mon 23-Sep-13 19:40:26

Ow old are the DCs? My dh sometimes has his shower while ds is in the bath, then I can get on with something else MN-ing

Therealamandaclarke Mon 23-Sep-13 19:42:21

Ow? Sorry. How.

BoozyBear Mon 23-Sep-13 19:43:13

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ImTooHecsyForYourParty Mon 23-Sep-13 19:46:04

Bring forward the time you get the kids ready for bed. If he responds by bringing forward showertime then ask him what the fuck he thinks hes doing.

Therealamandaclarke Mon 23-Sep-13 19:46:21

Hurrah.

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