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to send my address first?

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MrsPeeWee Mon 23-Sep-13 14:06:48

Long story short.
We bought a 10 week old kitten 2 weeks ago. We didn't feel she was settling in to our family so for that reason (and many others) we decided to take her back to the people we bought her from, just as they had told us too, because if she didn't settle, they'd prefer to take her back.

We took her back yesterday as well as all her food, scratch posts, etc. The lady didn't give us our money back for the kitten. She shouted over to DH as he was walking back to the car that she would pop me a message to get our address and details and post the money through my letterbox today. She hasn't messaged me at all. blush

AIBU to text her my address, so she knows I would like my money back?
AIBU to even expect her to give us our money back? I'm unsure on what is the right thing to do.

Thanks. blush

Nyborg Mon 23-Sep-13 14:13:34

Not the point, but I wish you'd gone to a reputable shelter. They'd have checked out you and your family, matched you with a suitable cat or kitten and supported you through the settling-in process. I've rehomed dozens of cats through our shelter and I've never had a kitten returned. What a shame for her.

MrsPeeWee Mon 23-Sep-13 14:19:29

Either way, she was a kitten that desperately needed rehoming.

It is a shame for her, but she's back with her mom and sisters, so I don't believe it will upset her for too long.

AngelsLieToKeepControl Mon 23-Sep-13 14:25:47

I agree with Nyborg you should have gone to a shelter, they do home checks and visits and offer support afterwards.

Wrt the money I think I would write it off (assuming it wasn't hundreds of pounds) I imagine it would be a lot harder to rehome a 12-13 week old kitten than it would be to rehome an 8-10 week old one.

MrsPeeWee Mon 23-Sep-13 14:36:23

Its a lot of money just to write off though. Especially for a family that are struggling with money as it is. We went above and beyond to get her, especially with money.

I appreciate your opinions regarding a shelter, but that isn't even remotely what I needed opinions for. Please stick to my OP!

VenusStarr Mon 23-Sep-13 16:06:50

What were the other reasons for taking the kitten back?

DidoTheDodo Mon 23-Sep-13 16:16:45

I wouldn't expect to get my money back in these circumstances.

BuskersCat Mon 23-Sep-13 16:21:31

I would not expect my money back either! How much was the kitten?

BrokenSunglasses Mon 23-Sep-13 16:24:28

I'd write the money off. You have chosen to give it back, it's not faulty. If you're struggling that much with money, you shouldn't be buying a pet in the first place.

It's a cat, not a cardigan that turned out to be too tight that you can just exchange or get a refund on.

How much money? confused

Moggies are (unfortunately) free or very low cost - even the local animal charities only charge £20 once you're approved.

WorraLiberty England Mon 23-Sep-13 16:32:00

I wouldn't expect the money back at all.

I'd just be pleased they were willing to accept it back.

TakingThePea Mon 23-Sep-13 16:35:00

I wouldn't expect any money back.

Especially not for any accessories that you bought.

I would send a text with your address, if she wants to give any money back great, if not then you'll have to suck it up.

Hopasholic Mon 23-Sep-13 16:37:56

If you are struggling with money then how on earth were you going to manage to get its vaccinations/have it neutered/microchipped/cover pet insurance etc.
Having a pet, even a cat is expensive if youre going to look after it properly All these things would have been covered had you gone through a shelter or similar. It sounds like you didn't think this through.

I feel sadfor poor kitty.

ThisWayForCrazy Mon 23-Sep-13 16:57:13

Tbh if you are struggling for money and went above and beyond to find the money to buy here how were you going to pay for her to be vaxed and the vets, for food and insurance, other things she will need and to replace things she will destroy whilst sharpening her claws and teething??

It really doesn't sound like you thought it through at all.

I am sorry it didn't work out. I would send her your address, but don't hold your breath.

SilverOldie Mon 23-Sep-13 17:16:47

YABVU and I agree with ThisWayForCrazy and Hopasholic*. Nor do I understand why anyone would go to a breeder when there are tens of thousands of cats desperately needing a home in rescue centres.

I`m sure you couldnt have paid much for the kitten, £10/20? I cant imagine a lot more unless he was a pedigree, so I would write that off. As for the things you bought for the kitten, I cant understand why you would think you would get money for that, I would have sold them on Ebay etc if I wanted money for them.

MrsCampbellBlack Mon 23-Sep-13 17:20:21

I agree, you need to write the money off.

And really, don't get any more pets.

cakebar Mon 23-Sep-13 17:22:16

I wouldn't expect money back, I would be relieved they took her back.

DeepPurple Mon 23-Sep-13 17:26:53

You took a kitten back and you expect your money back? shock

EduCated Bosnia-Herzegovina Mon 23-Sep-13 17:31:12

It would never, ever occur to me to think that you could take a pet back for a refund.

GreenShadow England Mon 23-Sep-13 17:46:35

Why are you all criticising the OP so much?

She said the kitten wasn't settling, so made the wise decision to ask if the original owner could take it back. Would you rather she persevered and made the family and kitten unhappy?

Better that it is returned while still young surely.

DoJo Mon 23-Sep-13 19:55:00

I don't think anyone is criticising the decision to take the kitten back, just that it appears that the OP hadn't really thought through the idea of actually getting it in the first place, specifically with regard to the ongoing costs of pet ownership, insurance, food, vet care and everything else needed to take care of a pet properly.

MrsPeeWee Mon 23-Sep-13 19:56:20

Not for a second was I expecting money back for any accessories I had bought. shock

She was a very difficult kitten, so was with us under the instructions that she might not settle and to text her after a week or two if she didn't settle with us, she didn't. She was also making my 5 year old DS very nervous and scared. The best thing for our family was to take her back. She had only done 9 days with us for goodness sake!

She's a very expensive kitten, and because it was (if you like) a trial period, I didn't think it would be a problem to expect my money back.

As for the financial situation, we went above and beyond this month to pay for her, which left us short - only this month. Future months wouldn't of been an issue, we could of paid any future vet bills.

Cheers for the lectures about the shelter, but I am not interested. I never mentioned anything about wanting advice with regards to that.

After 9 days, kitty is back with her mommy cat - I can't quite see the trauma in that?

beamme Mon 23-Sep-13 20:02:31

If you bought from a breeder there is usually something in the contract about returning a kitten if they do not settle. As it has been such a short period the breeder should give you a full refund. I would text asap

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