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New car decision- we disagree

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Pinkpinot · 19/09/2013 21:47

Dh doesn't drive. And is probably in the car for 2/3 long journeys a year
I do about 10-12k miles per year.
Who gets to decide what car we get?

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LindyHemming · 19/09/2013 21:48

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Notfootball · 19/09/2013 21:50

I'd say you but only because my DH knows so little about cars that he didn't even want to see or test drive the one I chose before we bought it.

Are you both after the same sort of car so could easily reach a compromise?

BoozyBear · 19/09/2013 21:50

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cumfy · 19/09/2013 21:52

Who's buying the car ?

Sirzy · 19/09/2013 21:54

who is paying?

I would say the main driver should get the biggest say though

StuntGirl · 19/09/2013 21:54

It should be a joint decision if it's coming from joint finances, but if you're the one who drives your opinion is probably the more...informed. I'm surprised he isn't just essentially letting you choose. What's his beef with your choice?

picnicbasketcase · 19/09/2013 21:56

Both should be looking around at what you want if it's both of you paying, but you should get ultimate decision as it's you who will actually be driving it.

Pinkpinot · 19/09/2013 21:56

Well his money is paying for it, I'm sahm
He wants the bigger car or even SUV type

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StanleyLambchop · 19/09/2013 21:57

Who knows the most about cars?

Pinkpinot · 19/09/2013 21:57

He says he doesn't fit in a smaller car, but he really won't be in it that often!

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Pinkpinot · 19/09/2013 21:58

I've done the research on the cars, he just knows the one he's more comfortable in

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picnicbasketcase · 19/09/2013 21:59

How won't he fit? Does he travel in an outstretched starfish position?

SirChenjin · 19/09/2013 22:00

You do, because you're driving it.

What do you want, and what does he want?

bundaberg · 19/09/2013 22:03

you do! you have to drive the blimmin thing

as long as you BOTH decide on budget etc

bundaberg · 19/09/2013 22:03

in terms of comfort, it's far more important that the person actually driving is comfortable!

VanitasVanitatum · 19/09/2013 22:04

It's family money, not his... You're a sahm that's harder work than a job!!!

Groovee · 19/09/2013 22:05

I always get to choose. Dh is happy with anything.

Earthworms · 19/09/2013 22:08

If he is only getting in it twice a year, but a small economical car for everyday use and use the money you save on purchase and running costs to hire a mahoosive SUV on the occasions when he does get in.

McNewPants2013 · 19/09/2013 22:08

You do, it's you the one who is driving the car.

I can not get on with driving an estate car or cars with a gear stick with the reverse on the right.

Trifle · 19/09/2013 22:10

I'd buy a cheaper car and spend the rest on getting him driving lessons. No fully grown man should be unable to drive.

Pinkpinot · 19/09/2013 22:12

He can drive trifle- just a problem with his driving licence. Long story
Good plan, earthworms

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BrokenSunglasses · 19/09/2013 22:15

If it's about who's most comfortable in the care, then without a doubt you get the final say. Unless you are in a luxury coach or something, driver comfort is far more important than passenger comfort.

Your DH may have had a winning point if it were about cost or fuel economy or something practical, but he's a selfish arse if he thinks his comfort is more important than the drivers.s

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HuglessDouglas · 19/09/2013 22:17

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Pinkpinot · 19/09/2013 22:23

Probably not anytime soon, he doesn't really need to drive, so not top priority

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cumfy · 19/09/2013 22:25

Is it likely he will be driving the car at some point then ?

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